Putting registry slips in invites? To do, or not to do?

I agree with the first comment. You can also put them on your website and include the website in the invite.

I think it depends on your guests. You know them better than any of us. Personally we will be having a card with hotel info on one side and registry info on the other. A majority of our guest are OOT and we are not having any showers. Both FH and I have so many aunts & uncles that don't live near us and that no one sees regularly that it would just be a huge headache for everyone to not include the information. I also know our families and know they won't find this offensive, some people are a lot more touchy about these things so you really have to consider your specific situation.

I have to say I didn’t know it wasn’t proper etiquette before coming on these boards. Almost every invite I’ve received over the years has listed registry information. Like some have mentioned, I think it depends on your circle of people since everyone’s is different.

For us I’m including a business card that reads

“For more information including:

RSVP

Registry

FAQ

And more

Please visit our wedding website at:

Blah blah blah”

Or something of that nature...

I figure it’s not necessarily going against etiquette but it’s giving guests a clue on where to find the registry information.

No, never, and no.

I did what Lindsey W. did and slipped the card in next to the RSVP. You should be able to get some free business cards made on Vista Print.

No

I guess I just totally don't understand the whole idea that it is SOOO TACKY to put registry info in invites...

Obviously I am FAR away from doing my invites...but I am probably going to include registry info. I mean why not? I get the whole "it's like asking for a gift" thing...but people aren't stupid. They know they don't HAVE to get you a gift just to go, but many do get gifts and why not let them know where you're registered so 1) it's easier for them and 2) you get stuff that you actually want.

Although everyone is saying its a big no no I did, only because I didnt have a wedding website, and everyone was asking where we were registered, or make sure you tell me where you are registered. So i figured rather then every guest texting or calling to find out I would send out a little card along with the invitation to let them know IF they wanted to purchase a gift for us! It wasnt a slip from the actual store, I created a little note card that had a cute little saying on it that I found online that said where we were registered, and that we would also have a money tree for our honeymoon fund. Just so they knew they had an option, but neither was mandatory. Your guests should know you well enough to know that you aren't throwing it in their face but yet being proactive.

Nope, never in the invite.

It is meant to trickle down the grapevine (i have issues with putting it on websites but think that is just me)

On an invite I just received the bride didn’t include anything but an invite that read

The wedding information

A phone number and email used to RSVP

And at the bottom it read “the happy couple is registered at target”

No RSVP response card or registry information, everything you needed to know what on the invite.

Appropriate or not appropriate I wasn’t offended and now I know all the wedding details, I didn’t have to mail a response card in, and I know where to get them a gift!

I won’t be doing this for my wedding as I would fear the ridicule I’d get from family member that thought it was tacky BUT if I had the guts I think it’s a great idea!

Just in the shower invite not the wedding invitw itself

But what if you did include your wedding website and no one visits it?

I'm including an insert saying to RSVP via the wedding website because that is the only way I will get a headcount. People use the excuse that they don't get online.

Whelp, if you don't get online to RSVP I'd better not see you because you'll have to be turned away at the door.

Definitely don't. I've had 2 showers and neither included registry information but everyone shopped where we're registered. They either asked me or looked online for registry info. We kept the info away from our invites but have seen a lot of traffic at our wedding website.

I love seeing the input on this topic. I've seen all the websites that say not to do it; but every wedding invite that I've ever gotten have had them in it. We aren't really using the wedding website idea and neither have most of the girls in my family who have gotten married so I guess that's probably a big difference. I'm going to put ours in; but I can see both sides of the stance on it.

I really think this all depends on what is the norm in your area and even your family, for example on my moms side (italian relatives) they would never dare to put a registry slip in the wedding invite but on my dad's side (dutch...no not saying cheap lets just say financially aware) tehey put slips in their invitations. I never thought anything of it recieving one but now I somewhat feel it may draw away from the elegance (if thats what your going for with the invite.)

The rule of ettiquette as seen already is No for being put with the invites, .............but people break the rules all the time LOL

Etiquette is not the issue of personal opinion, guests' characters, or a 3 mile stretch between 2 towns. For all those who decide to break the rules, that's fine it's your choice, but all these are just a justification not a legitimate reason to break them.

The whole registry thing is a non-issue. If people want to know where you're registered, they WILL find out. They can google it, ask you, ask your WP or your family, check your website. So going against etiquette really makes no sense.

Also, BTW, people have 3 months from the receipt of the gift to send a thank you card, not a month.

It's not that hard to find out where someone is registered. Actually, it's ridiculously easy to find someone's registry just by googling their name.

Do not put registry info in a wedding invitation. Shower invitation, yes. Wedding invite, no. That's just the way it is.

I know it's tacky but my family actually expects the registry cards to be included in the invite...must just be where we live that makes this completely ok???