Pushy wedding vendors

I wouldn’t be concerned about this. They likely friend requested you so they can privately message you on FB. If you are not friends with somebody on FB, their messages don’t go to your inbox- they go to the hidden message request folder, which people oftentimes don’t see or check. More than likely they just wanted to make sure their messages to you went to your inbox.

View Quoted Comment True. Although I have been checking the message requests inbox since I already know this. It just puts off a weird vibe for me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

A lot of vendors get a little pushy. That's why it's recommended to have a separate e-mail address if/when you go to bridal shows/expos. We had a DJ contact us less than a month before the wedding to see if we were still interested in their services (we had decided against a DJ, so we weren't).

It's a little creepy but kinda necessary for them. Facebook and Instagram is a main avenue for marketing. The more "friends" and "followers" they have, the more traffic for their content. I'm not on Facebook anymore but did most of my research on Instagram. Many of the vendors I followed requested to follow me back. I think it just helps them know their potential clientele so they create content targeting that audience. You certainly don't have to accept they're friend requests, but I wouldn't think any less of them for trying

View Quoted Comment I am just of the mindset that a personal profile is personal and you leave the business to your business page. I have my own business and very much prefer to keep that all separate. Also when you comment on my post and message me I see you. There is no need to also friend request. Its just annoying because I have yet to even look at your website or talk to you. I don’t know if i’m being a bridezilla about this but its pissing me off haha.

View Quoted Comment Email I would be fine with but theres something about a Facebook friend request from someone that I haven’t even spoke to yet thats just wrong.

View Quoted Comment Facebook, along with all social media, has pretty much become a marketing tool. I wouldn’t think too much into this. I don’t think these vendors are trying to become your friend IRL, or stalk you, or get into your personal business, etc. They are just using it as a method to easily send you things that they know you will see, and for their products to show up on your newsfeed (since you were the one that showed interest in them and their products first). I think if you are only comfortable with receiving emails from vendors, that is the way you should limit your contact with them (ie, only approach them about their services through email).

I don’t think this is weird, but if it makes you uncomfortable, remove the request and just send them a private message.

Marketing themselves and networking is literally part of their job. I wouldn't take this personally (it's not; it's just business), but it is certainly reasonable to set a boundary for yourself that you won't accept "friend" requests from people who aren't your friends. Stick to professional communication channels with the vendors you are interested in (phone calls, emails, whatever other method you both agree on), and it will be fine.

View Quoted Comment I totally get it. If I were still on Fb I wouldn't accept friend requests from vendors either.

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Unfortunately, just because you prefer to keep your business page and personal page separate, a lot of people don't care. Cece's right - it's a marketing tool in a lot of cases. Plus, if you think about it, the wedding business is very personal.

If you don't want to deal with vendors on facebook, you may have to use other means to find them.

I really don't like this either and like you, I try to keep my social media private, but it's not that unusual for many businesses. I wouldn't necessarily let it change my mind about a particular vendor but if I did want to follow up with any of them I would do it through email to establish that that's my preferred method of communication.

I don’t have a Facebook account and haven’t for years, and haven’t had any desire to create one to join local wedding groups. Though we have had much success finding affordable local vendors via Instagram. But what you are describing would prompt me to adamantly not use that particular vendor because it comes across as overstepping boundaries from professional to personal. It is true what they say that you only get one chance at a good first impression. If someone doesn’t have a website listed completely separate from their Facebook posts, then they get passed over for the next business on the Google search list.



At least with Instagram, the majority of vendors have official websites and phone numbers listed to contact them. They specifically say “do not send direct messages” as part of their bio. That comes across as much more professional.

It’s a marketing tactic. It’s why I haven’t used social media to reach out to anyone. I find their email and email them. But in this day and age, Facebook etc is used this way for business. Not everyone wants to keep things separate

How is that pushy? Have they bombarded your DM or facebook page. It's a simple friend request.