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Kelsey
VIP September 2020

Pushy bridesmaid

Kelsey, on May 30, 2019 at 2:48 PM

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One of my bridesmaids keeps pushing for me to pick out their dresses and tell her which color. I have looked and think I know what I want but it's too early to order anything yet. I want to wait until after this summer before deciding on this, but she keeps pushing me. I'm starting to get...

One of my bridesmaids keeps pushing for me to pick out their dresses and tell her which color. I have looked and think I know what I want but it's too early to order anything yet. I want to wait until after this summer before deciding on this, but she keeps pushing me. I'm starting to get frustrated with her. I looked some today and sent her some ideas that I have been looking at. Her message back is "I hate them all" and I don't know why you want lace on them. I have an all lace dress and thought it would be nice to incorporate lace. She then proceeds to send a dress she likes, tight and mermaid fit. Now I haven't decided if I want them all in the same or different, but I do want them to have the same look at least. Floor length dresses that are not so structured. Added to the fact that my MOH told me that next summer, her and her husband are going to try for a baby. I highly doubt she will want that tight of a dress. As I said nothing decided yet just bouncing some ideas around. I have ordered color samples from David's bridal and Azazie just to see which one I want to go with. I'm just frustrated that she is kind of pushing me on this. Like I'm not sure why she wants to order so early. The ones below are what I sent her for ideas. I also think I'm feeling upset because I love my lace dress and now I feel weird like she doesn't like my dress..I still love it. Anyone else have a pushy bridesmaid?

https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-ginger-allure-bridesmaid-dress?color=dusty-blue

https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-nirene-bridesmaid-dress?color=dusty-blue

https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-blake-bridesmaid-dress?color=dusty-blue

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    Master June 2020
    Anna ·
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    I got really lucky....all 3 are ok with whatever.
    June 2020 bride...they all have their dresses and sandals. Only thing needed is alterations.
    I did ask for opinions and told them they dont have to match styles of dresses.
    Luckily, again they all liked the first dress I showed them.
    So sorry for you. Maybe, she's just excited and wants to get her dress?
    Maybe she's secretly worried she won't look good?
    Just tell her to chill, you will tell her as soon as you know yourself Smiley smile
    Good luck!
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  • Kelsey
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    Kelsey ·
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    I think she is worried about looking good. My other 2 are awesome and are like just let us know the color and style. I think she is just excited and wants to try some on, I know she lost about 15-20 pounds recently and is super proud of that as well. So I think that is another factor too. Thanks!

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    Expert October 2020
    Shaina ·
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    Exactly lol It is really nice that she is really excited for your wedding though. It is a blessing to have a friend who wants to be involved so much rather than a friend you have to force to help out a bit lol.


    Yayyy 2020 brides around the corner though!

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  • Kelsey
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    Kelsey ·
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    I know! It's going to be here quicker than what we think that's for sure. I just want to hit the year mark lol!

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    Master June 2020
    Anna ·
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    I always try to figure out the underlying reason someone acts out...it isnt always what we assume.
    Hopefully, she will relax some, so you can too Smiley smile
    I hope it all works out! Good luck!
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