Pushy bridesmaid

Are any of your girls top heavy? If so, then the top on the first dress probably will not look okay. I had my very busty bridesmaids try on a similar style, and it just did not work lol. Admittedly, I'm not a fan of the second dress, it doesn't look very flattering. However, I really like the third dress....very pretty, and I like the color!

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Right! Like yes I started looking, no I'm not ready to decide yet. I don't know why she thinks she can act this way. I know she did it at one of her other friend's weddings too. I thought it was because she and that MOH didn't like each other. I'm realizing I'm wrong on that!

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No, I probably would be the bustiest out of them all to be honest. I totally get that too, that's why I do want to have some options but would also like to have somewhat of a say; if that makes sense. Thank you! The third one is actually my favorite too!

I'm so sorry you have a pushy bridesmaid, if any of mine pulled that, I probably would have found a way to (as politely as possible) tell them to take a hike. Lol.

Definitely recommend Azazie over David's bridal. IMO Azazie is better quality, has better sizing options (can do custom sizing), is more affordable, and has more styles. Plus it's way easier and their customer service is great and their home sample program is really convenient. I love all the dresses you picked. I would recommend picking your color, length, and fabric, making an Azazie showroom of styles you like, and then just letting your girls pick what they want. That's what I did, I said floor-length, "fog" colored, chiffon, nothing with an asymmetrical shoulder. All my bridesmaids picked their own dresses and were extremely happy.

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Thank you! As of right now that's what I am leaning towards! I'm just waiting to get my sample fabrics from Azazie. To decide on the color, right now leaning towards dusty blue or stormy. The styles was the thing for me. I'm just happy my other girls aren't like this.

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Absolutely, you should have a say in what they wear.

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I learned the hard way not to ask for opinions. My FH and I were trying too hard to accommodate everyone with little things but now we're just planning as we want. Your BM's are there for you on your day so even if one doesn't like the style of dress, she can deal with it for one day

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Yeah. I will not being asking anymore. I guess I should have almost expected this from her; I know she did this before at another friend's wedding and she told me she did. I just thought it was the other members in that bridal party. I think I am completely wrong now!

Ummm...no. The dresses you've chosen are gorgeous and she needs to respect your decision. If she doesn't like then she can sit down.

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Thank you! My FH is telling me the same thing. If she doesn't like it she can be a guest. I also think she is slightly pissed I didn't pick her as MOH, but this is also a reason I didn't. She creates stress and drama just about anywhere she goes.

View Quoted Comment Yeah definitely. and great idea getting color swatches! It's really hard to tell from web pages. I was picturing a light, bright, dreamy gray, and stared directly at "fog" on the Azazie website. I was like... I don't think this is right, but I'll throw it in the cart just for fun. Turned out to be exactly the perfect color. Always do swatches

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Yeah I have my ones from David's bridal. They just aren't quite right. So I'm hopeful these will work and look how I wanted.

Omg I’m glad I’m not the only one having this problem. For me it’s 3 of my bridesmaids. The damn wedding is 498 damn days. It’s next year fall. I haven’t even said yes to my own dress. Which they are also nagging me about. I say do what I did and have your FH talk to them lol, or kindly tell her to lay down and sleep. If that doesn’t work ignore her until the end of summer 🤷🏿‍♀️

Fortunately, this was not an issue for me. Your bridesmaid does realize she's not supposed to be the super-sexy-center-of-attention, right? -- I'm guessing no considering what she picked out. It sounds like you're going to have be pretty firm with her. Personally, the dress in the first link you included is great for BMs dresses. When you do make up your mind, send her the info and say "Enclosed you will find my final decision on style and color." Or something like that. Make it clear that this is not open for discussion.

If she still has something to say other than OK, I think you should use Jessica's tactic of telling her sorry but you'll add her to the guest list. It should be pretty clear at that point.

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I think that's a great way to handle it!

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I think she is forgetting the purpose of the day! Sounds like you need to have a stern but friendly conversation with her. Redirect her focus.

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Thank you! I talked to my other girls too and they love what I have chosen so far, they said just to let them know for sure which ones and the color. My FH also agrees with what Jessica said that if she doesn't like she can be a guest.

My fav's are the last one and the first one . They are calm yet detail at the upper half which is very pretty and subtle. She needs to chill. Maybe thank her for her ideas and let her know we will see when we get there love. My best friend is kind of pushy. She will keep asking me when and asking for wedding colors and what kind of bridesmaid dresses. I just say to her thank you but I will have to see after I choose my dress and we will all go to the stores to decide on bridesmaid dresses. She eventually got the point lol

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Those are my 2 favorites as well. Those are the details that I love about them as well. I think I have a few more that I will let them pick from as well, but once I get the color samples it will be easier to decide. Yeah I have my dress ordered already, so I think that might be another reason she keeps asking.

I picked out 3 dresses and took my sister who is a bridesmaid with me to David's Bridal and let her try on all three styles and chose her favorite and that is what everyone will be wearing. I'm very formal and obsessed with everyone matching so the only one who got an option was my sister because my other bridesmaid lives in SC and I am in TX but she was okay with the dress my sister chose.