Pushy bridesmaid

I would just be straight up with her and tell her to chill out a bit. Your wedding is over a year away, so she needs to quit stressing you out.

"I'm sorry you don't like my aesthetic. Nothing is set in stone but the dress I choose will most likely be along these lines. If you don't feel comfortable wearing it, please let me know and I'll add you to the guest list."

And DO NOT WORRY whether or not she likes the lace on YOUR wedding dress. That's for you to love. Not everyone has the same taste...but as long as you feel wonderful in your dress....that's all that matters!

One of my bridesmaid told me she didn't like my dress and it made me have extreme dress regret.
I told my girls they can wear whatever they like, they showed me before they bought it
Mine also gave me an issue and told me that my girls shouldn't have off shoulder bc mine is and when she went to look for dressed she fell for an off shoulder bridesmaid which really annoyed me. Thankfully she didn't get it.

I think you should just tell her you're not sure and need time to think about it and when you're ready you'll give them guidelines

Good luck!

They are all pretty! I actually ended up going with Azazie for my 9 bridesmaids. I picked a color, length & fabric (sky blue long chiffon) and let them pick their own dress. My MOH will be in a darker color (I think dusty blue, I can't remember the name). It was a lot easier than picking one dress to fit all of them. Then the girls that wanted lower cut/higher slit dresses got to order those while the ones who prefer to be covered up are covered up. I'm sure your bridesmaid is just excited to order (I was the first time I was a bridesmaid) but it is annoying she hates dresses you send. It isn't up to her. I ordered swatches, then sample dresses, from Azazie so I could see the quality of the dresses and color up close.

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I have. I will start a conversation with her, not even about the wedding then she brings it up the dresses. Then starts asking if any of the groomsmen are single.....

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Thank you! You made me feel better! I think I am going to give them about 5 options, I only have 3 girls. Then let them pick their favorite, I still want some control over it I think. I'm happy that she is excited, but oh my gosh I was annoyed. I was like ok, I finally had some down time at work let me look this over and that's the response she gives me. The dress above are dusty blue, I ordered the sample just waiting for it to get here!

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She hasn't flat out said she doesn't like my dress but I also know her and I think that's what she is indicating. I also only went shopping with my mom and aunt, so I think she got upset with me over that. I think for now I'm just going to tell I need more time and need to think this over.

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Thank you! I do feel wonderful it in. I know her and I don't have the same tastes, which is fine. At least my MOH and my cousin, who is my other bridesmaid are super easy going and are cool with whatever I decide.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. Haha! Well, good luck. I hope she calms down a good bit for you! ♥️

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That's a great idea! I like the options. It may be hard to have 3 girls agree on 5 options, it just depends on the girls. I knew that would NEVER happen for me (all 9 girls picked 9 different dresses) but I'm sure some groups can do it much easier.

Just be completely upfront and honest. 'You're stressing me out and not sure of colors or styles yet.' But rest assured, you'll be the first to know once I've made a decision!

She needs to be told to chill out and stay in her lane. You're the bride, you're in charge, you picked lace.

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I really hope so. Thanks

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Yeah I'm not even sure if that's what I want to go with but the styles are new and I really like them. They just happen to have lace and thought that would be cute way to tie it together. I need to see samples first as it is.

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She knows she is stressing me out. I have told her, I think I'm more frustrated that I actually found something I do like and she is like I don't. At this point I probably won't ask and she will just have to deal and pick from the ones I choose.

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Yeah definitely do that because being pressure is the worst feeling especially for a special day

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Oh they can pick whichever one they want. They can all be in different ones, honestly as long as they have the same feel I don't care. But I would like to have a group of 5 dresses and they pick the one they want to be in. It's like hands on but hands off approach lol.

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Yeah, I told my FH he should do this. He is like oh hell no lol.

You might just need to be blunt with her. Tell her it is WAY too early to order anything. Tell her that she will wear whatever dress you choose for your bridesmaids (even one with lace), and she will do it with a smile, or, in the alternative, she can come as a guest.

What is wrong with people that they think it's ok to tell a bride her ideas suck? It's her wedding!!

Just be upfront and honest
Stick to what you want them to wear. It is your wedding
I told my bridesmaids the color, length and also i made a favorites list that they can choose from.
I think it would upset me to if my bridesmaid came back saying she hates them all...but honestly its not her opinion that matters.
Its what you have as your vision for the wedding
Hope it all works out!