Purity ring???

I would not do a gifting during the ceremony for the same reasons everyone else said. to me, that would be more of a public proclamation whereas an intimate moment with the two of you is sweet and sacred. i know you mentioned most of your guest are family, so i would dread being the one friend/coworker who has visuals i didn't plan for during the "gifting." it comes off as a little tmi. a public ceremony almost makes me think of the lady who presented the "intact hymen certificate" to her dad during her wedding. i think the idea of just a scripture could have the same feeling without the overt - just in case you all didn't know - undertones... the people that matter to you most will know that anyway... and of course, god will know. assuming you are religious.

I think if I was in the audience for that @olivia I would be really uncomfortable, OP please make this a private moment.

@emmy

I think it depends on the audience. I thought FutureMrsXavier said that this isn't awkward in her circle of family and friends.

Janae has nailed it.

Common practice to *most* family/friends is one thing...there will no doubt be someone who is uncomfortable watching this...keep it a beautiful private moment between the two of you...

your sex life/purity/abstinence is NO ONE'S business but yours, your husbands, and your higher power.

The decision to honor your commitment to God (Congrats on doing so, I am sure that it was very difficult at times) was a private action between you and Him. The gift (the ring, not your "v" card) should be honored with the same sanctity. Take the time to give this to your new husband and include with it the words of why it is so significant to you and it is a reflection of your love for him. Just like the act of sex is private, this should be as well.

I think you should do it during the ceremony, along with the words, "And tonight we shall engage in the sexual intercourse."

In all seriousness, this is a moment better left for privacy. Perhaps you can write him a letter and pop the ring in the envelope with it for him to read while he's getting ready. And it would make a nice photo op for the photographers.

So I attended a wedding last year where the couple were both devout and I'm sure were both staying pure. The minister had this crazy part where he talked a passage in the Bible that says that people shouldn't be called to war in the first year of their marriage because they should be getting to know each other, and likewise even though we're all excited for the couple, we shouldn't bother them with too many invitations because they should be getting to "know" each other. And was like YES I'M TALKING ABOUT SEX. It was pretty awkward but in a funny way. Apparently he did ask them if they were shy before planning his talk. If it were me, I would have died!!!

I think alot of this has to do with who the audience will be at the wedding. If it is mainly members of your church, then it might be a nice moment. If it is a bunch of co-workers, that might be a little uncomfortable. Ultimately, however, it is your wedding. Do what feels right for you.

If your friends/family already crack jokes about the wedding night, I would definitely keep that in mind before you decide to do this publicly-- I would hate for your special moment to turn into comedic relief for your guests (which is what I'm imagining based on what you've said about them).

I'd be that person making jokes. "So, you gave him your purity ring, huh? HE'S STICKING THE PEEN IN YA TONIGHT!" or "The ring hole isn't big enough, but you know what is? His penis." or simply some inappropriate eyebrow waggles.

I'm really a 12-year-old boy.

@sunshine - so funny, i died.

Sunshine, omg I'm giggling in my cube, trying not to crack up....its not working.

Omg, Olivia......great way to get everyone at the wedding thinking about the couple having sex for the first time.

Please don't.

SunshineJenn...you just killed me.

OP, I think you're going to go ahead and do this, and while your church family might think this is a wonderful moment, I can almost guarantee that every individual at your ceremony will not be of one mind on this. I'm sorry -- it's just too much.

While I commend you on keeping this promise to yourself, I am with everyone else on this one.

I feel like when you give him a ring in front of EVERYONE you're saying "here ya go, heres your vagina." LOL. In all honesty, I would feel weird (as a guest). As some other posters said, if the people are there, they know you are a virgin. Its already enough that people are going to know you're gonna get down that night.

VMDs idea wins. Send your vagina in a box that morning.

If I was invited to that wedding, this would be me, as close to the front as I could get:

Wait, there's a class?

You could possible keep it in the ceremony without saying anything. During the exchange of rings just have him take off your purity ring, then you put it on the chain and around his neck. Nothing necessarily needs to be said. You know what it means, he knows what it means, God knows, and your close family/friends will also know. But it won't draw attention to the sex factor

Although my FH and I never wore "purity rings" we decided to do so as well. I think that it's incredibly honorable that you kept your promise and that your FH will recieve such a precious gift however, I personally do not think it has any place at your ceremony making that known. It's a sacred and intimate between you and your FH, keep it that way.