"Provocative" Wedding Dresses

I mean... Yeah? I have on say yes to the dress or pic posted on facebook but I have never like said it outloud or anything or outright told someone "I find that dress ugly"

Everyone has different style opinions and not every dress is my style. I've never been dress shopping with a friend or family member, but if I did I have enough tact to be able to say "Well I like X about it but I dislike Y because X" or something along those lines. I would also ask the bride what THEY dislike or like about it first. This was something my mom did for me when we dress shopped and I found it helpful and she liked being able to piggy back off of my concerns and likes.

It's such a personal choice. There have been dresses I've seen that I'd never choose, but I just think "that dress is what made her feel most beautiful. good for her"

Go with what you love. That's my advice

Pics of some of your favs???

Of course I have. Some of them are just butt ugly and yes, some of them are tastelessly provocative - to use your word.

I see a lot of dresses of all shapes, material, designs. I honestly don't see many dresses that are super revealing. I would not call a dress "slutty." I am 50, so I am guessing your mom is around my age......when I got married dresses were big and puffy. Much different from today's dresses. I am in love with my daughters backless dress with illusion fabric.

@OG Kathryn - I love a lot of the Provonias and Marchesa designs, but everything I'm showing my mom she's gagging at. I guess I just can't imagine EVER saying that a bride looked provocative on her wedding day, even if she showed up in a bikini.

Internally, yes, but I would never outwardly judge someone else's dress. Someone spoke negatively about my dress on FB and I just couldn't believe how rude it was. Even here on WW there's an unspoken rule about not speaking negatively about anyone's dress.

I judge them six ways to Sunday but would never tell a bride.

Except my daughter. But not call it slutty.

You didn't expect your mom to agree with you on dresses (as well as much else) though, right?

But more on see through bottoms--you show all and sundry your culo do you?

Have definitely judged, but silently. It's her day, if she's confident in what she's wearing that's really all that matters.

Don't bring her to try on dresses. Or tell her you have different tastes so while you appreciate her opinion (not), that what you like and want to look like will not fall in line with her expectations and she's going to have to get over it.....she'll love that I'm sure....but wedding time is the time to put the foot down - you'll regret letting mom pressuring you into anything less than your vision.

@Sarah - You're absolutely right. I'm taking her opinion with a grain of salt. However, I started wondering how many other people might agree with her.

I'm 31 and I've definitely noticed that dresses, especially Berta gowns are soooo revealing! I think they are absolutely beautiful but I can't imagine showing my entire back, butt crack, cleavage, belly button or thigh to 350 of my guests. It leaves nothing to the imagination and it seems distasteful. But everyone has their own opinion and likes so who am I to judge. Do what you want for YOUR wedding! I have people judging me because I have a child free reception or no bridesmaids!

I am guilty of thinking that some dresses are tooooo provocative. I personally think its a fine line between classy yet sexy, and tastelessly revealing. I think it depends a lot on your body shape. If you have a busty chest and choose a dress that doesn't support them, or shows a lot of cleavage, then I think it could be borderline. But another person with a less busty chest could pull off that same dress and it would be tasteful IMO. I think its a case by case kind of thing.

I chose a Provonias dress, and it's an illusion neck & back. I think everyone has different tastes and Say Yes to the Dress proves it. I judge women on that show daily, but I'm not the one to wear it. I think design & cut or the dress should somewhat play a factor in the venue setting. I wouldn't wear a see through, super low cut Pnanai Tornai dress to an orthodox wedding or any other very religious ceremony. To each their own, if they feel comfortable enough to wear it fine, but people will talk about what the bride wears no matter what. Good or bad, you can't please everyone.

I’m fairly conservative as well, but I do like the more form fitting dresses. I’ve seen some dresses that are sexy, and some that are, in my opinion too provocative.

If it’s that stressful, perhaps don’t include her in dress shopping, My mom is extremely picky, as am I, I tried on around 15 dresses this past weekend. And will try on more next weekend.

This looks more like it should be for the wedding night.

Well ffs, here is what see through bottom means https://www.pinterest.com/pin/295196950549498128/

Must remember to Google

Yes I have. I haven’t been to any weddings myself where the bride wore a provacative dress but I’ve seen pictures. I’m not Into that. I don’t want people looking at me on my wedding day and the only thing they can think is “wow you can almost see her vagina” or something lol. I’m a fairly modest person i think though.

There was a bride on SYTTD that wore a romper with so much cleavage I could definitely see her nipple. And that’s all I could see when I looked at her. What you’re describing sounds more tame though...

Http://idatorez.com/en/collection/Milagro/01111_Cheryl this is my dress and I'm VERY modest and conservative. but it lays flat on my chest and doesn't actually show much cleavage at all, it's just a unique design with some dip in the chest. My mom was kind of hesitant at first but she also loved the dress and the people in the store reassured her that it was tasteful and elegant.

There have been some real doozies on "Say Yes to the Dress." Usually these are the same brides that buy two $8,000 dresses...one for the ceremony, one for the reception. Honestly a little sexiness in a dress is great, love illusion necklines, deep backs or even a deeper sweetheart neckline, but as a bride you should consider how your FH would feel with everyone seeing what God gave you, as well as the fact that people are looking at your dress, not "you" in it.

Maybe show your mom some real "slutty" bridal gowns, then she'll be thankful for the stuff you've been showing her!

Yeah... I've certainly seen some awful slutty wedding dresses. I've seen some that are too short, some that show too much cleavage. It's insane what some people wear around. But -- that's my own opinion. To each their own.