Joseph
Savvy June 2022

Proposing. Just the two of us or with her family there?

Joseph, on May 12, 2021 at 5:17 PM

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What does everyone think? I’m at a loss as to how I should proceed. Both options have their pros and cons.
What does everyone think? I’m at a loss as to how I should proceed. Both options have their pros and cons.

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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Thank you, Jeremy. You are the first guy to respond. I have gotten dozens of responses from the ladies.
    I knew when I first saw her, in an instant, that I was looking at the woman that was going to be my wife.
    I have this ring, and it’s burning a hole in me. I’m thinking that Saturday, THIS Saturday is going to be the day!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    The very first second that I saw her. I knew. Before that? I was a happily decadent bachelor. I saw her? And it was, literally, like getting struck by lightning. I saw her and I kinda fell apart. I have just met the woman that is going to be my WIFE.
    Ever since we met, I send her a dozen long stem reds on Friday. She saves the petals. We are going to marry at sunset. I’m going to stand alone, ankle deep in our petals and await her. No groomsmen. No bridesmaid. She is going to walk to me alone. No one understands what we have has to endure with this long distance relationship to get to this point. No one deserves to share our moment.
    Proposing. Just the two of us or with her family there? 1
    Yeah. I’m going to ask her alone. This is no one else’s moment but ours.
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    I have had sooooo many comments. I agree though. I think that I want this moment just between us. Thank you!!
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  • T
    Devoted August 2020
    Tina ·
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    Awwww that’s so sweet ☺️ I definitely think a sweet special moment the two of you would be more fitting. Smiley smile wishing the 2 of you the very best !
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    Thank you again. We like to take walks when we are together. I have been tearing up the Midwest with carving our initials into trees. We go somewhere for a walk and I will pause. Oh... would you look at THAT?!
    Another tree that has indelibly been marked with J ❤️J.
    Ever since we met, I have sent her a dozen long stem reds each week. She saves the petals. We already know that at some point, we will marry. We already have the location picked out. No best man. No bridesmaid. Her dad is not giving her away. She is going to come to me alone, as I stand alone except for the preacher, ankle deep in thousands of rose petals. No one else can ever understand what we have had to endure to get to that point. I think that I will ask her privately. We have done the time and fought this battle, just the two of us. No one else deserves to share that moment.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Soo pretty, goodluck with everything!

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  • 0
    Savvy July 2022
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    That is a very personal decision. Has she mentioned anything? My bf at the time knew I didn’t want family at the proposal but to be around once engaged. And that’s exactly how it was done making it perfect. If you’re unsure maybe ask one of her friends or family members if they’ve heard her ever saying anything. Best of luck!
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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·
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    I love that she has no idea. I was completely blindsided by my hub's proposal, I thought he was breaking up with me, lol!

    Know your audience! You said earlier she is the apple of her parent's eye, and if you include them on this they may think they should be in on everything, maybe? Just food for thought.

    Best wishes! Smiley heart

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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated November 2021
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    That’s wonderful, congratulations! She’s beautiful. And you seem to know her really well so I’m sure however you decide to propose, she will love it!
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  • Lauren
    Beginner June 2021
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    For me personally, I liked that it was just us. It allowed us to both enjoy the moment and be happy together. My family already knew what was happening and met up with us afterwards for dinner celebrations!
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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    When my FH proposed, it was just the two of us, which was just what I always wanted. I never wanted my proposal to be a show, even for immediate family.

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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    Yeah. I’m kinda there myself. I have gotten so many different opinions. I know her. I know me. We have endured a long distance relationship and no one else even knows what we have sacrificed. No one else deserves to share that moment. I agree with you. It’s going to just OUR’S!
    Thank you!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Yeah. I don’t want to share that moment with anyone but her. She has no idea what I am up to.
    Thank you!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    Lol! Yes! I have been practicing at least a hundred times. I have finally nailed down my words.
    I’m going to ask her alone. This is our moment only. I’m going to ask this magnificent woman to be my wife. I cannot wait to see her face when I ask her!!!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    I think that her parents already know that this is coming. Jeez, everyone knows that this is coming. We are both completely obsessed with one another! Her best friend knows already. They have known each other since they were 3 years old! Jana knows EVERYTHING! We are just ridiculous, everyone should be this happy! I love that girl!
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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    Good for you!! 👏🏻💍 Good luck!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    Her best friend knows. They have been besties since they were 3 years old. Her folks and I have a really great relationship. My best friend knows. Both of my parents are dead, but my aunt knows. My sister knows. Jeez, the entire world sees this coming!! We are just ridiculous. We are so obsessed with each other. This is a magnificent woman and I am going to marry her!!!
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    Savvy July 2022
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    Lol it’s good you have it rehearsed. Apparently my bf at the time did but once he got on one knee - water works started flowing and he had such a hard time with it. He said I’m just gonna jump to the end are you ready for forever will you marry me? You seem so happy - I hope it all goes well for you this weekend!!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
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    Oh god. I have practiced this a few hundred times. Up until now? Asking her to marry me is going to be the single most important thing that I have ever done!
    I even practiced in front of my best buddy!
    He was like, yeah...that felt kinda weird, but I think you’ve nailed it!!! I was like, shut up, bro. I’m not asking you to marry me for Pete’s sake!
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated November 2021
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    So happy for you!! Enjoy the moment. :-)

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