Joseph
Savvy June 2022

Proposing. Just the two of us or with her family there?

Joseph, on May 12, 2021 at 5:17 PM Posted in Parties and Events 2 90
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What does everyone think? I’m at a loss as to how I should proceed. Both options have their pros and cons.

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Latest activity by Joseph, on July 16, 2021 at 3:23 PM
  • C
    Super April 2020
    Cool ·
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    I think you have to know your partner on this one. I’d hate for my family to have been there but my husband knows that.
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  • K
    Dedicated August 2021
    Katie ·
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    How’s her and your relationship with her family? Does she like to be private or does she not mind being the center of attention?
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  • Allie
    Super November 2021
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    For me personally, I didn't want anyone else there. I wanted it to be just us two and it was absolutely perfect. Some people prefer to have friends and family there. I always liked the idea of just us having our moment together and then sharing it after with our families and friends vs. having them all there sharing in the moment because I felt like it could possibly ruin the moment between us if we got too into the family. It all depends on you guys and the relationships you have with your family!

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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted September 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Just the two of us. Then you can tell the family together. It's more romantic as a private moment.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I think you have to know what she would prefer. Since we are older my husband proposed with my kids around because he wanted them to be included and of course they knew about it. For many couples doing it alone is better.
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  • Christina
    Dedicated September 2022
    Christina ·
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    Mine was the two of us (plus a photographer because it was during our Christmas mini shoot)


    But after when we went to his house my family and his family was there
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Rockstar July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    I REALLY loved that my family was there and was able to capture the memory and share the moment. But if it was just us two I would have been just as happy.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You know her best. An idea if you’re not sure...


    You could enjoy a private pop-the-question time, then the take her to dinner at a restaurant (or other location) where her friends & family could be waiting.
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  • M
    Super June 2021
    Melanie ·
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    As others have said, it's completely up to what you think your bride would like. I always said I wanted it to just be the two of us, but he asked in front of my family and looking back I couldn't imagine it happening any other way. They were able to take pictures/videos of the moment and celebrate with us right after.

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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    Oh this is for sure a know your target thing. I would die of embarasment and be quite concerned that my FH had some sort of very poor lapse in judgement to do such a thing - he knows me very welll and know that would be upsetting for me.

    So you know her best...does she like surprises? Does she like being the center on attention? Will she be ok her family knowing before she does?

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  • B
    Super July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I would have been *mortified* if H had proposed in front of people (including family/friends)!

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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    I would prefer it be a private moment. But it’s a know your target thing.

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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Yeah. This is a long distance relationship. We have done ALL of this alone, together. The 2 and half hour drives every weekend, one of us. My best friend and my Aunt that has been my mom figure since my mom died.have told me to ask her with her family around. Her folks love me, but NOBODY understands our sacrifice. I have an amazing ring burning a hole in me. I really just want to share this moment alone with her. Only the two of us know what we have done to get to this point.
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    I’d actually like a private moment. We have gotten so far alone. She is going to cry. I’m probably going to as well. I have to make her my wife. My friends and family want me to make this an event. I think that this is OUR moment.
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Thank you. I want to propose to her alone. Everyone is pushing me for a family thing. I’d rather have a private, intimate thing.
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    I’m indecisive. I’d like that moment to be alone, but I understand the importance of having her parents there.
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    Becky ·
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    You have to go with what makes the two of you comfortable and happy. Take her somewhere special to the two of you, be private, then tell people later if that makes *you* happy.

    H took me to NOLA for the day, first thing that morning we got beignets and coffee and went over to Jackson Square to eat. As soon as we were done, we went around behind the park (in front of St Louis Cathedral). I turned around to look at something and when I turned back he was on one knee. Since it was so early in the day there was no one around. It was *perfect.*

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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    Thank you. My thoughts. I have rehearsed my speech a thousand times. I was going to propose on the 29th this month, in a place very special to us. Now, her mom wants us to go boating with them. Throws off my plane I’m taking her to Palm Beach next month. Maybe will have to wait?
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  • Joseph
    Savvy June 2022
    Joseph ·
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    She is an only child. She is the Apple of her parents eyes. I’m her second marriage. I have a really, really good relationship with her family. I don’t feel like at 50, that I have to ask her dad for her hand. She is grown. Educated. Accomplished.
    I just know that I have a ring burning a hole in me, and I just have to ask her soon!


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