Proposing At Someone Else’s Wedding

In the example you posted about, the bride is "in on it", so I can't possibly see how that could be rude. People do love to project their own issues onto things. I do think it would be rude to do a public proposal at someone else's party without asking them first, but that's different from your example.

Here’s an example :


https://www.intheknow.com/post/wedding-proposal-controversy-tiktok/

If the bride and groom are ok, I don’t think it’s rude in and of itself.
I do cringe at public proposals because I feel like the one being proposed to is under pressure to say yes. It would cause a big stir of they said no in front of the crowd, especially at a wedding.

I think it totally depends on the relationship with the couple and if the people getting engaged asked first. Like offhand, if my brother asked to propose to his girlfriend at our wedding I'd be super excited because I love them both. If my cousin's boyfriend asked I'd probably say no because I'm not as close to them lol.

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly what I said! My FH said he thinks it’s rude to even ask, that it puts pressure on the couple to say yes and makes it uncomfortable for everyone.

It's a little cutesy for me and I'm not a fan of public proposals, but those comments are ridiculous. If the bride didn't want that to happen at her wedding then she would say no. What's rude is proposing at a wedding without asking the couple first. The bride always looks super excited to be a part of this the times I've seen it done, it's obviously not detracting from her day if she okay'd it and is happy to take part in it.

View Quoted Comment This I can totally understand. Some people do it because they know the other person may not have said yes otherwise.

As long as the bride and groom are fine with it, it's not a big deal. Surprising the bride and groom in the middle of their wedding with another proposal is crappy I think.

If the bride/groom are in on it then fine, I wouldn't allow that to go down at my wedding because its my wedding and my celebration that I poured a lot of time/energy/money into, I don't like public proposals because there is pressure on the person to say yes. And why would you even? Like I guess its cute? but there is a time and a place for proposals and its not at someone else's wedding

View Quoted Comment It really is. They could really do it at any other time. So rude.

View Quoted Comment Even if it was your best friend?

View Quoted Comment Yes, if it was someone I loved I would definitely save it for the end of the evening. I think that would be a perfect way to end the night.

I would be okay with it so long as we were asked beforehand and I knew the couple well.



As for public proposals, my FH proposed to me in public after arranging a big dinner with all of our friends. For us, the public proposal was okay because we had already talked about marriage and he told me he was buying a ring. I just told him I wanted to be surprised when he did propose.

I’ve seen a bunch of these videos too, and I think they are so sweet! I would LOVE for my best friend to get engaged at my reception!!

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Yes even if it were my best friend. I would try to help her boyfriend find another way to propose

I think it's completely rude... Sure the bride and groom could say no, but I think it's rude to even ask and put them in that position. Unless it's actually the bride's idea or something, and even then I'd say it's in poor taste haha!

I agree, I would love for that to happen! But I feel like I would maybe want it to be later in the evening, once all of the iconic moments (ceremony, cake cutting, first dance, etc) are over. I’m not sure when the bouquet toss normally happens though.

I feel its kinda rude. But if the bride and groom are okay with it. Then they can go for it. But for me, I really wouldn't want it to happen on my wedding day either would my Fiancé

I actually think it's super rude to even ask! Like if someone asked me if they could propose at my wedding, I would feel super awkward! I would feel pressured to say yes even if I didn't want to. It puts the couple in a position they might not want to be in.

Also if my FH proposed to me at someone else's wedding, not only would I be pissed that he tried to take the spotlight on someone's special day, but I would also feel sad that he couldn't come up with a better proposal than on someone's wedding.

Absolutely not.

EVEN IF the bride and groom are in on it and 100% okay with it, there are so many other ways and times to propose. Someone's wedding is NOT one of those times. This is my opinion, lol. Obviously, everyone has their own thoughts thus far.

Even if it was my best friend who would be proposed to, nope. I'll help with other ways to do it, but you will not do it on my and my FH special day.

Sorry, not sorry.