Promise Ring? Engagement Question

I would speak to him about it. If he says that an engagement is coming down the line. Then I would just keep on enjoying your relationship. I received my promise ring a year after dating, wore it on my left hand and we got engaged 3 years later. FH and I have lots of communication and are open about everything. So we spoke about what it meant at the time when I received the promise ring.

I didn't get a promise ring exactly, but I did recieve a ring from FH for our first Christmas together. He specified that it was just a gift and not an e- ring, and he didn't propose for 4 more years. I wore it on my right hand (because it wasn't a symbol of marriage) and didn't call it a promise ring but we also had never broached the topic of marriage. I'm with PP that if you have a ring you're wearing on your left hand, and discussing your wedding (as in your actual wedding and not in an idealistic way) then you're engaged, and in that case congrats! ETA words.

I like the ring

I had a promise ring for 5 years before FH proposed. Granted, they kinda seem childish, but I was 16 at the time so it worked. It's a cute idea, but it definitely can make the wait for a "real" ring hard when you're an adult. Up to you guys!

I think promise rings are silly. You're either engaged or not engaged and he just gave you a ring as a gift.

FH and I started out having promise rings! Both of us did after we started dating after a year and they meant a lot to us. They mean something different to everyone and I'm sure you guys know what it means to you. Don't think about when you'll get engaged too much, the time will come and it will be wonderful. Just enjoy each other and your relationship!

I think it's sweet! I do generally see it as something more for teens, but I am happy you're so excited. If it is what feels like the right thing for you guys, then it absolutely is what you should have. Congrats

My FH gave me a promise ring at age 17 on our one year anniversary. That was in 2007. 10 years later.. we're finally getting married. I loved mine too, in a love struck teenage way. If he's serious about getting married, I would say you're already engaged? We were young so it was much different, but once you're stable in your life a promise ring is really just an engagement.. so hopefully, congrats!

My FH proposed to me with a peanut. At Texas Road house . Lol. I loved it. Very us. And he has a ring being designed and couldn't wait any longer... moral: you don't need a fancy ring to make you engaged. You need love and commitment

FH got me a promise ring when we were 18 and headed to different colleges as a symbol of our commitment, and a promise to stay faithful to one another. We had been together for 4 years at the time. I wore it proudly for 2 years, then after I had my daughter it didn't fit anymore. So, as a surprise, FH sized it for me and proposed with it. It was really, really sweet.

He actually ended up getting much more back in taxes this year than we expected, so we are talking about upgrading it soon. I'm really excited to have a ring that symbolizes this new chapter in our lives, but I still love my promise ring so much and it'll always have a special place in my heart.

FH gave me a promise ring in high school. I was 18 and he was 21. It was like an I love you but we both want to wait and we're children. Which we were. We both finished our bachelor's and he got his grad while I'm working on my CPA. He proposed when I was 25. I think it's sweet but it sounds more like you're engaged, not engaged to be engaged.

FH gave me a ring when I was 18 and told me he was committed to me and wanted to see me complete school and for us to blossom as a couple. I wore that darn thing on my left ring finger for 10 years until he bought me an engagement ring. He didn't propose with one but didn't make it any less special and amazing.

It really sounds like you guys are engaged even though you didn't get what a lot people feel like is the traditional proposal. I would sit down and make sure you guys are on the same page.

I think it's sweet! Everyone is different and has a different story. This will be a cute story to tell when you're older :-). My FH and I talked about getting married for a while before he proposed. I didn't get a ring for that, but we both knew it was going to happen. Then he surprised me on a vacation on the beach. It was our perfect story. You get a beautiful ring to wear in the meantime while you wait for your perfect engagement story <3

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. I guess the opinions are split. That's good! This proves a point that of one lives a relationship based on someone else's thoughts the you're not living your life but theirs. I am glad I am not the only one who has been given a promise ring. The fact that I have a ring thay symbolizes our love is enough for me. Not rushing to be engaged, not planing a wedding, simply living my life. Promise Rings are not childish, rather children chose to copy the idea. If you're not ready to be married just as much as it is a moot point to be engaged so it is to give a promise ring, nevertheless, I personally asked my boyfriend that when he is ready I want it to be special, not routine and cookie cutter, that will take time and planning. Meanwhile he thought a promise ring would be a good way to say, I am going to give you what you want, but here is this ring to show you how much I love you. I just love it. I'm flat out happy to know I am not the only one who has been given a promise ring which eventually led to a proposal and a marriage. I've never been proposed before so I'm new to this. Thank you for the good the bad and they ugly, I asked for it. Love how people conceptualize things the wrong way.

FH gave me a promise ring for my birthday, only a couple weeks after we officially started dating. I wore it on my left finger proudly. He gave it to me with a card of everything he promised to me. It was not an engagement ring, but a promise to treat me respectfully, honor God through our relationship, etc. He then proposed 8 months later and that's when we started planning our wedding.

FH gave me a promise ring about 6 months into the relationship before he deployed. I was only 18. Then he got out and joined me at college. We decided to wait until things were more stable and we could afford the wedding we wanted. We just celebrated 10 years last November so clearly there was a long time in between. For the 10-year anniversary he got the promise ring made into a pendant necklace.

Personally, I'm jaded. I was given one once. Then a few months later he had a baby behind my back ...

Ring or no, when he asks "will you marry me" and you reply "yes," you're engaged. So if he hasn't asked, don't start actually planning. Make Pinterest boards, research, get ideas. But don't pull the trigger on actual planning until your engagement is official.

My FH and I are doing the exact same thing. He gave me a promise ring just until he can afford a better ring. But I'm already planning and booking. I love it. I really do. I think it's better to have a promise ring and be planning than to not be sure and have to rush everything to fit it into your day

I doesn't matter what kind of ring it is, he's showing his lifelong commitment to you and that's all that matters!! I think it's great that you want to kind of start seeing what's out there even if he hasn't actually "proposed" yet. I don't think it is ever too early to start planning for your wedding, or at least just seeing what's out there and gathering ideas! Congrats!!