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Maria
Savvy October 2018

Promise Ring? Engagement Question

Maria, on March 31, 2017 at 12:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 45

My boyfriend gave me a promise ring for our one year anniversary. Which I love the idea. He wants to save money for a ring, and has a plan in mind for the proposal because he wants it to be special. I created this profile to read posts and see what other brides experience. I love the promise ring idea, I'm enjoying every second. I love when he says things such as: for our wedding, etc. Anyone else been there? I want to hear the bad the good and the ugly. I am pretty much killing time before the engagement which will be a total surprise.


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Latest activity by Cann, on April 2, 2017 at 10:01 PM
  • Rachel Langerhans
    Rachel Langerhans ·
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    If you're planning "for your wedding" it kinda sounds like an engagement to me Smiley smile

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  • LittleDemon
    Master November 2017
    LittleDemon ·
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    And that looks like an engagement ring to me Smiley winking

    I really love that ring though! A colored heart shaped stone and a twisted band? Swoon.

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  • AK
    VIP July 2017
    AK ·
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    An engagement is an intention to marry... so a promise ring is what? A promise to intend to marry you someday?

    As far as I'm concerned you're engaged now, congrats!

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    I agree that promise rings are silly at best and insulting at worst.

    The only time the concept makes sense to me is when the people involved are teenagers. I mean, it is still silly because they are virtually guaranteed to break up before they are old enough to reasonably marry, but at least it acknowledges that they are serious about each other but too young to make any lifelong promises.

    For adults, I just don't get it. It basically says, "I like you enough to buy you a ring, but not enough to actually commit to you." You are either engaged or you are not. If you are making plans to marry, congratulations, you are engaged! If you aren't, why the ring?

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  • Christina
    Devoted August 2018
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    I received a "promise ring" from FH for my 19th birthday (not like "Here is a promise ring" but more of a "Happy birthday I got you a ring"). We had talked about a "forever together" but definitely were not in any position to seriously consider marriage. Even if we said things like "at our wedding..." it wasn't like an actual "to happen at our wedding" we were just young and naive and dreaming. We didn't become engaged until over 4 years after I received the promise ring.

    I would say that if you're actively planning a wedding, you are already engaged. I know you say you are "killing time" before the proposal, but just how much time are you actually killing? If you're older, sounds like you could actually be engaged already if the talks are serious. If you're younger, you might have some time to wait before marriage is in the near future.

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  • Maria
    Savvy October 2018
    Maria ·
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    I read even promise rings can ne worn on either finger, but the left finger has a vein thay runs to the heart, I am no expert in body anatomy, lol, thanks everyone, he put it on the left finger so there it will remain. I want to say he wants to make the engagement an official event and right now there is no money for one, truly love the feedback, nothing better than difference in opinions. You guys are awesome, honest to heart =)

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  • Gracie Lou Freebush
    VIP October 2017
    Gracie Lou Freebush ·
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    I personally would rather wait for a proposal and engagement rather than receive a promise ring first, but if it genuinely makes you happy then I am happy for you. I would suggest to do more idea gathering than official planning. Get an idea of what budget amount you could afford, what time of day youd like (morning wedding, cake and punch reception in the early afternoon, dinner time, etc), maybe some color schemes.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
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    You talked about getting married and agreed he was going to propose and you're already talking about planning?

    guess what- you're engaged. It doesn't make it less special because it doesn't meet lifetime movies criteria.

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  • MMB
    Master January 2017
    MMB ·
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    1) You don't have to have money to propose. Why couldn't he have proposed with that ring and upgraded later (if you wanted a diamond ring)?

    2)I agree with Jo. You guys are already engaged if you're both talking about a wedding.

    3) WW is the only place I've seen people older than 18 receive promise rings. It just seems a tad juvenile.

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  • July2018bride
    Devoted July 2018
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    That's a pretty ring though. How long have you been together?

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  • B
    Master July 2026
    Beatrice ·
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    I feel like promise rings are something high schoolers do with their SO. My best friend was given a promise ring in college and that just seemed weird to me, three months later they broke up.

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  • Mermaid
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    I hate to break it to you, but the ring finger on the left hand does not have a vein that leads to the heart.

    Source: I'm an embalmer.

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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    Sweet idea but why not use the money spent on the promise ring toward a nicer engagement ring?

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  • Maria
    Savvy October 2018
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    We have been together for a year, the ring also commemorated our one year anniversary. Good to be educated on the vein, also, he wants to do something special he simply can't do right now. I give him credit for doing something most don't. I think it's cute, kind of make the rules of a relationship as you go along and whatever works and makes us happy. I like to see that the feedback is split somewhat. Truth is, I am enjoying the idea that I met an old soul that respects me, loves me, and we are doing things our way. I was wondering if anyone else had been given a promise ring. The knot has a good article on it =)

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  • R
    Super October 2017
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    My FH proposed last year in January, but he didn't want to accept it because it was in the moment with a 25 dollar ring. I was happy with it and I wore that ring everywhere even when the silver coating started to wear off. In February he proposed with a new ring and it took me completely by surprise.

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  • Jaclyn
    Super September 2018
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    FH bought me a promise ring 6 months into dating we've been together 3 years and just got engaged in November. We always talked about our wedding and future. I sadly knew that FH was gonna propose when he did so I was expecting it.. take it from me don't snoop let it be a surprise! Lol

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  • FutureRios
    Super April 2017
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    FH gave me a promise ring about 6 months into dating when we were 16 and 17. He proposed last July at 22 and 23. I agree with previous PPs that promise rings are more for teens, not for adults.

    But hey, it's a pretty ring!

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
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    There's no need to have a diamond to be engaged! If you guys are planning a wedding now, you're already engaged regardless of the type of stone. If it's all hypothetical talk about your wedding, perhaps not. Either way, I would clarify with him whether this is a promise ring or an engagement ring. As long as you guys are happy, I think it's great.

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  • Mrs.Lim
    Super September 2017
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    OP I also got a promise ring from fh last year (a year after we have known each other). I was actually surprised and gladly accepted it. He placed it on my L ring finger. He then proposed to me 6 months after at my bff's place with an engagement ring and I was really surprise and both of us were very happy.

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    Super May 2017
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    Nice ring

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