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Private ceremony & open reception on another date

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ThomasLove, on December 20, 2017 at 12:51 PM

I’m not sure how exactly to go about invites and planning.

We are having a small family / close friend wedding ceremony on family property. (About 70 people in luring the wedding party).

We then want to maybe wait a week and have a backyard BBQ style reception—almost like a high school graduation open house. Just come and go. (Near 300 people)

My sister recently got married and had almost 400 at the wedding and reception—I’m not about the celebrity wedding hah.

i really just need advice figuring out how exactly to word invites or when do you send them?

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Just Said Yes July 2020
Ellie · on September 22, 2019 at 10:15 AM
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I think you should do whatever works for you and your family. Include a personal note explaining that due to limited space, you couldn’t invite everyone you love, but you don’t want them to miss out on your day.
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Jill · on September 23, 2019 at 9:11 AM
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How are you going to ensure that doesn't happen? People talk and people post on social media. Are there going to be people that were at both? Are you going to tell them what they can talk about at the "reception". There is no way to guarantee that people are not going to find out.
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Dedicated September 2020
Miranda · on September 23, 2019 at 11:32 AM
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We are doing a DW and the only reason we are having a celebration when we get back is so everyone can see us as mr and mrs. Were not doing gifts or anything just a cook out because our families love big gatherings. Were only having 25 at our wedding because my FH family is not very good on money like none of them are. And we are paying for everyone coming to the DW. So maybe if you were just planning like a cook out and inviting people it would sound nicer
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Just Said Yes July 2020
Ellie · on September 24, 2019 at 6:07 AM
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There is no way to guarantee anything in life, if you worry about what everyone thinks how will you ever get anything done? I guess this is where the bridezilla attitude starts
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Just Said Yes May 2020
Lauren · on November 10, 2019 at 2:08 PM
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I know this is an old post, but I’m curious as to your responses. We’re getting ready to get married, and our ceremony is going to be at the college we both attended and work at. It’s a small garden area, and will only fit about 40-50 people...and we’re getting married on Mother’s Day. I’m thinking of having immediate family only, and yes, step parents, step siblings and their partners and children is 54 people (I’m one of 12), at the ceremony and then a reception/party the following weekend. I definitely don’t want to seem rude, but with such a large family, and no help paying for the wedding, we can’t afford a venue large enough to accommodate everyone. My step mom was actually the one who recommended doing 2 events, and doing the party as a potluck. I’d like your feedback.

Also, I know you’re not the only one who disagreed, but your responses seem well thought out and direct. No bull.
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