So FH and I have found that our wedding (4 months away) has created a lot of drama and distance between friends and family members, and a lot of stress and upset on the both of us. We are at the point where the wedding has become this huge thing that doesn’t at ALL focus on the most important thing anymore- our marriage!
For this reason, we have decided to have a private wedding ceremony with just our priest and maybe his wife/witness a week or two before the wedding. That way, we can still enjoy the moment of our wedding together without the worry that someone may try to sabotage it. That if things go wrong during the day we know- it’s ok, we already had our own private moment and nobody can try to ruin that for us.
We have already told my mom and MOH who are incredibly understanding and just want us to be happy. We also intend to tell his family, though we suspect they won't be as understanding.
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