Just Said Yes September 2020

Private Catholic Ceremony Night Before Wedding Date

Lia, on September 20, 2019 at 5:19 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 4
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Hell all! I am looking for advice and tips on having a private catholic ceremony the date before our actual wedding date.

Originally my Fiancé and I were planning on just doing an outside nondenominational ceremony for our wedding (even though we have been raised catholic- we haven't ever been strongly tied to church ourselves). However, my soon to be in-laws & my grandparents are very close to their Priest and wanted us to be married by him. He is willing to do a ceremony on our wedding date- and travel for us, but is requiring us to do a private church ceremony before hand. We are getting married in AZ. My parents live in CA, and the in laws and priest live in IL- so we are planning to do this the day of our rehearsal dinner so both parents can attend. We have absolutely no problem doing this, I just do not know what to expect and how to plan for this.

Of note- we do belong to a Parish in AZ- I am not sure how to go about asking if they will let an outside Priest perform a ceremony there.

Has anyone done this for their wedding and have any tips or things to consider? My only concern is if it is going to take away the magic/specialness of our original date. I want the church ceremony to be done in a quick almost walk through- bland way so it doesn't take anything from our wedding day vibes. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!


  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
    I’m doing something similar, we are doing a Catholic Church ceremony the day before our wedding. FH dad is Catholic & I wanted a non domination wedding ceremony.
    From what I remember I believe that the Parrish that you belong to have to approve you getting married in another Parrish. I also think that you & ur FH will need to complete a pre Cana class. You will then have to check w/ the Parrish if they will accept the other priest. If one Parrish says no, ask another Parrish - older priest can be a bit old school with the rules & every Parrish is a bit different.
    As for taking away from the specialness of the Day the jury is still out. However the Catholic ceremony will be very short w/ no mass & no communion.
  • Anna
    Devoted April 2020
    Anna ·

    The dioceses where you are getting married would have to approve. The parish will just sent you there. My priest got moved and i want him to marry us. Even though his new parish is near by, he still has to get permission from them. So if you were getting married, you would have to contact the diocese before proceeding anything. But its real easy and i wouldn't worry a lot.

  • F
    October 2020
    Fleur ·

    Am I terrible saying I would LOVE to have 2 weddings?? I’m just soo excited!

    Seriously, I can see how it could be a bit overwhelming- no advice other than to wish you peace, calm and to enjoy the ride! Congrats!

  • Amber
    Devoted May 2020
    Amber ·
    If you’re already looking at the private ceremony as something you want rushed and done as a walkthrough (which I highly doubt any Catholic priest will do a short casual ceremony as described), then I personally wouldn’t do it. I understand your future in-laws want you to do this, but I doubt they’ll be pleased with the “quickie” ceremony you envision it to be and it sounds like you really don’t want to do it, so don’t unless it is extremely important to your FH to be married by a Catholic priest.

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