Pregnant Bridesmaid

Yes. Did she RSVP?

Did you ever think that maybe she just doesn't WANT to go to the "batchlorette" party?

What kind of "numerous messages" are you sending?

Maybe she just doesn't want to go to an event centered around drinking if she is pregnant. i would just talk to her and not assume she wants out of the wedding, especially if she is coming to the shower.

Today's going to be a bridesmaid day in the forums, isn't it?

I understand her not wanting to join the bachelorette party since she's pregnant and probably won't enjoy being sober around everyone if you plan on a night of drinking. I would ask her what she wants, tell her you'd love for her to still be in the wedding, but fully understand if it's too much due to her being pregnant.

A bridal shower and bachelorette parties are optional events.

Just because she doesn't want to go, does not mean she does not plan to come to the wedding.

If she just found out she's pregnant, I'm sure she has more important things to deal with right now. You have a couple months till your wedding. Calm down and give her some space to adjust to the news.

She's already agreed to be part of your wedding, let it go. Maybe she's got something going on the day of the bachelorette party. Just say, "sorry you can't attend the bachelorette party" and be done.

I agree with Sarah. It stinks to be the pregnant/ DD driver when everyone else is drinking around you. Plus she probably doesn't want to take away from your fun on your bachelorette trip.

I was at my sister's bach party pregnant and I felt like the babysitter. It FUCKING sucked. They looked like they were having a blast and I was hungry and hot and tired. My back hurt from wearing heels and a bra. I wanted nothing more than to be on my couch in my snuggie watching a CSI marathon.

I would understand her not going because of the pregnancy, it's because she made it clear it was because of travel. She has not RSVP yet. She also just moved and when I asked about her new address she never answered me. I haven't been a brideszilla I have been very laid back about the whole thing.

When you are pregnant, there are things you just don't want to do.

And being uncomfortable and then having people ask you for shit you don't feel like doing gives you a super tude!

Just give her some space.

I would not want to go to a bachelorette party if I were pregnant.

Don't say anything, if she wants out of being a bridesmaid, let her come to you.

What @Kate said.

If she RSVPed yes assume she is attending the wedding. If she purchased her dress assume she is still a BM. Regarding the bachelorette party, being pregnant kind of takes the ability to participate in the core activities such as drinking, walking, and wilding out. She is more like wobbling or throwing up this point you know. Cut her some slack. She is growing a human.

I wouldn't go to a bachelorette party if I was pregnant either from experience I was sick a lot through out and exhausted. Plus it sucks being the pregnant one while everyone is drinking and if there is a lot of people and dancing involved I wouldn't want to get pushed or bumped around. It just wouldn't be as much fun but I would definitely go the shower and wedding where I can sit and be comfortable. Don't rule her out just check up on her and see how she's feeling she may be experiencing some awful morning sickness and I can tell you mine was so bad I was not on my phone or answering things. She might be having a hard time getting through the first trimester.

From what I've heard, being pregnant is the pits. I wouldn't want to go to a bachelorette party if I were preggo. She might be unresponsive because she's busy with doctor appointments and getting ready for the baby to come. Don't write her off - if she says she'll be at the wedding, take her word for it. If for some reason she doesn't show up, don't sweat it - nothing wrong with uneven numbers.

Yes. And a pregnant woman not wanting to go to the Bach party is fine. Pregnancy isn't always a cake walk. Travel is also a huge pain in the ass when you are pregnant.

Your wedding shouldn't be the most important thing in her life right now. You could kindly ask her if there is anything you can do to help her and let her know that you still want her to be a bridesmaid.

So if she found out she was pregnant in march, she's probably no more than 12 weeks or so?

Up until I was about 18 weeks pregnant, it took every ounce of energy I could spare to just make it through the day. And I missed A LOT of work because if I wasn't asleep, I was throwing up. I was throwing up in my classroom, in other people's classrooms, and I threw up on my way to work on the side of the road. Then I would go sleep in the nurse's office during my prep periods. But, this also wasn't something I was blasting out to my friends, because who wants to hear your friend constantly telling you that she can't stay awake and throws up everything she eats? She probably *wants* to go to your bachelorette party, but she probably also doesn't want to either. No one could have paid me enough to go to a bachelorette party when I was feeling like garbage 24/7.

I wouldn't want to go to a bachelorette party if i were pregnant either....

Early on pregnancy can be rough. I had extreme morning sickness and literally had no energy. All you want to do is sleep! That could also be one of the reasons. I wouldn't go out partying while pregnant either.