Pregnant bridesmaid and wedding superstitions

I would say just be flexible; she may make it, or she may not. Even she doesn't know how she will feel that far into her pregnancy. She could also have her baby at any time, by that point, without it being considered a complication. As a mother of three, I would encourage you to allow her to continue as a BM, but make sure she knows that the ultimate decision is up to her, and shouldn't really be made until that time comes. We mommas often tend to think we are super women. I went to work in early labor with my first child, and I was convinced it was nothing serious, and stayed at work until lunch so I wouldn't be an inconvenience! I ended up being sent immediately to the emergency room from my doctor's office.

I was the MOH in a wedding 2 weeks before I delivered my first child. It was actually 1 week before my due date but I went late. One of the BM's in this same wedding was 2 weeks before her due date but delivered a week later. It never occurred to me at the time that I might not make the wedding but obviously that was a possibility. I delivered my 2nd child two weeks early and I would not have been up to standing up in a wedding with that pregnancy as I almost lost her and was on bed rest for several weeks. As previous PPs mentioned, be flexible in your expectations of her and let her make the final decision. As for the superstition, I've never heard that before.

Hahaha...being 37 weeks pregnant is stressful enough! Standing, sitting, walking, breathing...all take wayyy more effort than anything in life should be!

Similar situation: so am I wrong to give my pregnant cousin a new job altogether? Far far in advance, I told my girls that if they became preggers and they would be showing-showing by wedding time, I would want to find them another role. I don't want to worry about sitting, standing, breathing for a bm on my special day. I rather know for fact there is no stress coming from me at all. My family is super tight so the attention on my wedding day would be split between me, my groom and then big and pregnant cousin; honestly, I don't want that at all.

I understand...thank you...

I would tell her that it's up to her, if she feels that she's up to it, GREAT, if not be understanding as possible. If she has concerns because of how close to her due date, made have a chair reserved for her in case she needs to sit down during the ceremony, and let her know that if at any moment she needs to bow out, that's ok.

My younger sister is one of my bridesmaids, and has Epilepsy and a lot of anxiety because she's always freaked out about possibly having a seizure in front of everyone, so I straight up told her, that if she has ANY issues to let me know and we'd figure it out, if she's having a bad day, she can just sit in the front row with our dad and grandparents, and that if she is able to walk down the aisle with us but needs to sit during the ceremony, I'm gonna have a reserved spot for her to do so.

Let your friend know that whatever she feels she needs to do, you understand 100%

Found this on google: "Another item to cross off your social calendar when you are carrying a child is weddings - in China, at least. We all know the rule of not outshining the bride on her special day and turns out the Chinese honour this highly. If a pregnant woman and bride and groom are in the same room, there is said to be a clash of "qi energy" or "luck" which can backfire and cause misfortune to reign down upon the unborn child.

The Chinese also believe in focusing on one auspicious event at a time so a pregnancy and a wedding cannot co-exist in harmony as all good luck will be cancelled out."

This ranks up there with the "they aren't doing what I want should I fire them as MOH/BM etc" question for me... I'm trying to be nice here...

Isn't asking someone to be a BM about standing up and support you and your FH? I'm not sure why that changes b/c they are pregnant, therefore, I personally think it is rude to give them another "job".
On that note, being a BM isn't a job. It's an honor. So yes, it is rude to give someone a new job just b/c they are pregnant. And if you're worried about them sitting, standing, breathing, then wouldn't you be worried about them doing the other job? I mean, they're an adult that's about to bring a new life into this world, I seriously hope they can decide to sit, stand or breath on their own... If they want to decline and not be a BM I think that's a choice you can give them.

And I don't think someone being pregnant will steal attention from you and your groom.