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Postponing till next year....

SierraToBeMull, on April 29, 2020 at 10:50 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 8

Hi Everyone!

I know some of you hare having to do the same thing I am and postpone your March/April/May/June wedding and was looking for advice. When you pick the new date (we are thinking May 2021) should we send out save/change the dates asap or later this year?

Also, would it be tacky to have a small ( like 5 people) ceremony this summer but still have the big ceremony and reception on our new date in 2021? do we keep it a secret and not tell anyone in fear no one would come to our regular wedding? I'm not sure what to do here. Thanks in advanced Smiley laugh


Latest activity by Allison, on April 30, 2020 at 8:26 PM
  • Natalie
    Devoted December 2021
    Natalie ·
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    Not at all! As a guest, I’d completely understand if you had a intimate ceremony and a reception at a later time ❤️
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  • Serena
    Devoted October 2020
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    We are also doing this. We didn't think our original date was possible at all, so we postponed for Oct. But as of last Friday we learned we could still be "legal" on our date. Already had the marriage license so we were like why not? Plus our date is special to us. Now it seems silly we're having our big wedding/reception in Oct rather than next year, but I didn't want to go through the troubles of reaching out to all my vendors again. Plus as of now, I have my original team which is awesome. Everyone has been completely understanding. We'll make an elopement announcement once it happens. But everyone pretty much knows its already happening lol
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  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
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    We postponed our wedding but still got married on our original date. We told everyone that we would in our postponement email and everyone is still excited to celebrate with us in September. I really don’t think people wouldn’t come if they knew you already got married. I mean, as a guest, I would still want to go to a party with free food and drinks.
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  • E
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Our original date is June 20th, and we have rescheduled to June 19, 2021. But we are having a small ceremony on our original date, and then next June we are doing a sort of vow renewal. Oh and we are sending out change the dates asap. I'm curious if you would send out new invitations/rsvp? I'm not sure how to handle that part of because our rsvps for the original date didn't have to be returned to us until the middle of May.

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  • Adrianna
    Dedicated June 2020
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    How funny because I also considered marrying in "secret" and then have a wedding next year. I decided that it would not feel as special doing it that way. I am a traditional bride, so I want to keep it all traditional. My date was June 20, and luckily I hadn't sent out my invitations yet. I postponed for 2021, and I plan on mailing out "change the date" post cards from Minted which are cheap. My save the date cards were really nice, so I don't want to spend a lot of money on sending out change the date cards, which is why I opted for postcards.

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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
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    Hi Sierra,

    I think this is a great! I love the idea of having a small ceremony now and a larger reception in a few months or even next year.

    As for your save-the-dates, I would send out an update prior to your initial wedding date. It's best to keep your guests in the loop!

    I'm excited to find out what you decide to do. Sending lots of love your way!

    Good luck!

    Smiley heart

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Many couples are having small ceremonies now and bigger parties later. Even before Covid-19 we had several friends do this and we still considered the event we went to to be "their wedding" and didn't feel any differently knowing the couple was legally married beforehand.

    Most of your guests do not care about watching you say vows to one another, they just want to have a party and celebrate with you.

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  • Allison
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Allison ·
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    Reading your post made me feel so much better. I have been contemplating postponing my June wedding until next year but still getting married this year on our date. Then next year doing a vow renewal ceremony and reception. Just like you I am scared everyone will think it’s weird that we are still doing a ceremony even though we are already married but I still want the whole big event. We have planned for it and dreamed about it so why should I have that taken away. I also don’t want this virus to complete take my wedding away so I feel like still getting married gives us something.
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