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Camille
Savvy June 2022

Postponed wedding - change guest list?

Camille, on April 14, 2020 at 12:56 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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We have had to postpone our wedding that was going to be this June in Copenhagen due to the virus. Thankfully we legally married last year (we eloped) but we have been meticulously planning our wedding for our family and friends for a year and it is a disappointment. On top of that, we have found ourselves caught on either side of the Atlantic. I’m in New York and my husband is in Denmark with no way to get to each other because of closed borders. It is a honestly a nightmare.


Every day I pray we remain safe and make it through this. When we finally do reunite, we’ve decided to combine our two households and only live in one apartment instead of splitting our time between two. This means one of us giving up our career and income for a period of time. While we still want to have a wedding, we are considering scaling back. Are we obligated to maintain the same guest list when we reschedule the now postponed wedding? I don’t know the etiquette on postponing and guest lists. If we stay with our venue our new wedding date wouldn’t be until June 2021 a they don’t have other dates this year. Thank for your help.

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Latest activity by Camille, on June 10, 2021 at 8:09 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Yes. It would be considered rude to uninvite someone who was already invited. I know it’s an unfortunate situation for everyone that’s been impacted by the virus but you still have to consider your guests feelings.
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  • Camille
    Savvy June 2022
    Camille ·
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    Thanks so much for saying so. I really do want honest opinions.
    Do you think that’s true even if the wedding is 1-2 years after the original date? I would just like a smaller affair at this point.
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I’m a fellow transatlantic bride! Sorry you guys are apart, that must be really tough and I definitely feel for you. I think whether or not you should honor the guest list is if you are postponing the original wedding to a later date or completely cancelling and replanning a different event. If you are using the same venue I would think it would be rude to just exclude people from you guest list. If you’re scaling back to an intimate dinner with just immediate family / bridal party I would frame it as you cancelled your original celebration and you can edit the list to suit this that event.
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  • Camille
    Savvy June 2022
    Camille ·
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    Thank you Courtney! That completely makes sense. Thanks for your input. Where are you getting married?
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We had a ceremony with just immediate family in Scotland and had big wedding in Maine last year with all our friends and family. We’re luckily together in the UK now but totally understand shifting your lives around to create one home. Best of luck with planning!
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    I think it's perceived to be rude however due to the circumstances sometimes it's a necessity!
    We invited 283 to our wedding in August. If we have to postpone we most likely have to book a different venue as our current venue is already completely booked for 2021...
    Our current venue is the only one in our area that can hold our large guest list.

    So, we will have to scale back to a smaller venue and uninvite some people- Yikes!

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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
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    Hi Camille,

    I'm so sorry you had to change your plans, but you are not alone. Keeping a positive attitude (through a funny announcement) can only help during this unprecedented situation.

    Here are a couple of discussions with postponement examples:

    - Coronavirus Postpone Announcements

    - Website Wording for Postponed Weddings due to COVID-19

    You'll also find more information (less funny) here: How to Word Your Wedding Postponement Announcement. There's also a glass half-full perspective piece: “My Wedding Was Postponed Due to Covid-19, but Now I Get a ‘Do-Over’” (with a link to a video at the bottom).

    I'm wishing you the best of luck! nLxcI1gBilPA_DYsaorCTBp6X1DzLckXmXiZsyyg

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    Dedicated September 2021
    ALY C ·
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    These are weird times, and I don't think there is really etiquette for what to do when your original wedding date was postponed due to a world pandemic. I don't think its safe to say that large events will even be safe by next year at this point. I'm hopeful that events with around 50 people will be allowed, but I'm not sure about huge weddings. But even so, if there isn't a vaccine available for everyone/there is a new strain, I think people would be understanding that you want to keep the wedding more intimate so that grandma and grandpa/ older parents can be there and feel safe. Also, this is really affecting people's finances as well. I would be totally understanding under these circumstances if you decided to have a smaller wedding, while I'd be hurt under other circumstances.

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  • Camille
    Savvy June 2022
    Camille ·
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    We are finally replanning our wedding for June 2022, postponed from 2020. We unfortunately had to change our venue and it has a smaller capacity. We haven’t spoken to some of the people on our original guest list in over a year. Any suggestions on how to handle the new invitations?
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