Hello!
Tl;dr What are your thoughts on having a secret elopement b/c of coronavirus, and then doing a full "wedding" on the same date in 2021?
Long version: Apologies if this is a repeat topic! My wedding date is set for 10/30/2020. While I'm hopeful that all the coronavirus stuff will be a memory by their, realistically that may not happen. My fiance and I picked our date because it's the closest we could get to an important spiritual holiday without being on it, and it's also a blue moon which is important to me. We've been engaged for 4 years, living together for 6, and financially and legally it makes the most sense. We also just don't want to wait any longer.
So we're considering eloping on the day if need be, but postponing the "wedding" (ceremony and reception, with all the traditional wedding things minus the garter toss) to 10/30/2021.
We kind of want to keep the elopement secret though? Our logic it that guests will feel like they missed out, and some family wouldn't even bother coming if they knew it's not a real wedding. We'd considered eloping in the past but decided being married in front of all our friends and family was much more special, and everyone we'd mentioned the idea of eloping to seemed hurt we'd consider the idea at all. Now I feel like they'd be hurt we didn't postpone the "real" wedding.
I also feel that by possibly being "forced" via coronavirus to postpone the big ceremony and celebration, FH and I are missing all the weddingy things we were looking forward to, like my dad walking me down the aisle, the handfasting, and first dances with our loved ones present. Call if FOMO but if we need to postpone the traditional wedding, we'd honestly feel robbed of what we really wanted.
Am I mental for wanting to keep the elopement a secret and basically only tell our parents? Is this the epitome of rude or is this a bit more normal situation given current events?
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