Postpone or hold out for mid June wedding

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I'm June 13th too. We are waiting and hoping it works out.

Postpone. 100%. Ignorant and selfish not to.

I feel your pain girl! Mines June 13th and i don't know what to do! I am gonna hold off until at least mid April because things are changing everyday.

Nurse here,

My wedding is June 27th. I'm not postponing currently (and I don't forsee the need to, but could be wrong). No one can predict when this will all simmer down, but there are some factors you can look at in predicting this:

1) follow the curves we're seeing in other country's- these #'s are not 100% accurate because testing isn't being done properly, so it's creating skewed stats, but it's still a baseline to look at (focus on south korea- they have the best testing methods thus far)

2) the prediction is that as the warmer months arise the virus will die off and then rise again in the fall (so postponing to fall doesn't guarantee you anything, you may find yourself in a worse situation).

3) There's a rise in more successful treatments for the virus now, thus limiting it's spread and causing it to die off faster.

I'm sharing these points just to give you a rational way to think about it. I personally feel like rescheduling summer weddings now, is being very reactive to the situation out of fear/panic. Now, if we move into late May and we haven't flattened the curve and aren't seeing a downward fall of the virus, then yes, it's time to start creating a back up plan.

Personally, my back up plan would be as follows

1. still get married on the date set, just won't have others present

2. move the reception to late july/august- saturdays are booked at this point- so I'd choose a friday or sunday most likely. I'd send out one email to all the vendors stating which dates are open at the venue and ask them all to reply back which they would be available to move to. By picking less common days of the week, their availability should be better.

3. Update wedding website with date changes and send out a mass email if people have already RSVP'd when the date change occurs. (I'm pushing back sending out invitations and RSVP date as late as possible to prevent this.) I've seen talk of "etiquette" around rescheduling communication and quite frankly at this point and in this situation I could care less about what is considered "proper" in how to notify people of a date change.

Other tips:

1. go ahead and review all of your contracts down to every detail, so that you know what you're working with/up against if you have to reschedule

2. Don't make any final payments to vendors until the last possible date

3. have all of your guest information in one place (email/phone)

4. Have all of your vendor information in one place so you can contact them easily and not feel frazzled

View Quoted Comment This is really good advice. Thank you! With a little luck and a miracle, may all of us having a June wedding still be able to stick to our original date!

I am right here with you on this, our wedding is planned for june 13, 2020. this is such a stressful and anxiety ridden situation. my fiance and i have decided that we will have to make a decision by mid April if things have not improved and if our venue continues to be on lockdown, we will have no choice but to postpone. best of luck, you are not alone in this.

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

June 13th bride here- just following up a few weeks later on this thread. What are you all thinking? Still holding out? I’m stressing hard over here as to what to do!

View Quoted Comment We are going to discuss it again this weekend. Leaning towards maybe still having a small intimate ceremony on June 20th but postponing the reception until later. Haven't decided whether it will be later in the summer or next summer. Don't want to have to postpone twice. Things are looking grim for safe travel and large gatherings even by June. So disappointed.

I decided to reschedule my June Wedding to September. I am holding hope that this is better by then. My family have almost all told me that they will not be coming in June. I just do not want to get married with out having my parents there.

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This is really good information. Thank you for sharing. Our wedding is on 6/27/2020. My concern is we live in Upstate NY and the wedding is being held in Western NY (Buffalo region). NYC is a hot mess right now and peak for NYC is not expected to hit until mid to end of April. Since Upstate and Western NY are about 2 weeks behind NYC based on the data we wouldn't hit our peak until beginning of May. If we hit the peak as projected and things decline will it truly be safe only 1-2 months after? That's my biggest fear since I have a few guests that have compromised immune systems (my dad and FH dad).

View Quoted Comment We postponed everything. We postponed the reception until next June and were going to still try and have a small wedding ceremony on June 20th. But decided against it. Still too risky. Too many things still closed down in Ohio. Can't get our rings nor a marriage license yet. Too stressful. Decided we'd rather wait and enjoy the experience rather than try to stress out over the unknown. Our new date is June 19, 2021.

Hany in there; we're shooting for June 20th... fingers crossed... Everything is slowly opening up so we'll see... Congratulations....