Posting about your wedding on social media - how much is too much?

Our social media friends/followers basically know that we're engaged and that's the extent of it. The less people know, the better.

It's probably the one thing in my life I try to keep to myself as much as possible. I've shared some of my projects that I'm really proud of (like my table numbers!) But most of the people arent invited so I dont want to shove it in their face or open myself up to "AM I INVITED!?!"

I have no social media & I love it!

They knew ee

We posted our engagement pictures, shared our wedding website, and I did share a picture of our sand ceremony set because it was the very first wedding thing I ordered and I was just too excited, lol. Other than that...not sharing too much. Oh, I did post a picture of me holding a sign saying "said yes to the dress."

Wow. That was an accident.

They knew we got engaged. They may know our wedding date because I posted "happy negative one year anniversary", so if they paid attention to that. Also I posted some engagement photos. Other than that nothing. I didnt even post pictures from our engagement party.

For us, we didn't hesitate to share our planning "experience" (like a funny meeting we had with the photographer, a "vendor interview gone wrong" or something like that) and we would post questions if we needed input/recommendations from our friends & family (because sometimes asking the close friends & family isn't enough but you still want to hear an actual recommendation from someone you know) but as far as any specific details, we kept that sort of thing pretty private unless we were asked questions. Obviously the date was no secret, but details on the wedding itself, colors, the dress, who was/wasn't invited - that sort of thing is of no business to "the social media universe."

We posted that we were engaged and then we did post our engagement pictures but other than that I haven't posted anything about it on any social media.

We share very little about our wedding on social media. We of course shared our engagement announcement and engagement photos... then I shared a 200 days to go post and a little insta story when I picked up my dress (keeping the dress a secret, of course)! That’s about it so far! I’m sure there will be some more as we get closer!

Only that we’re engaged

I agree with alot of PPs here. I'm all for telling people you're engaged on social media. But nothing else, especially dates, locations, and wedding planning.

We shared our engagement and I posted once about finding my wedding dress and that’s it! I don’t want anyone who isn’t invited seeing social media posts and assuming they are.

We have posted a few things, our photographer and planner tags us in things, we had a few countdown posts, and we plan to post wedding photos. We haven't posted locations, etc for various reasons. Little details. We haven't had people ask if they were invited because of our posts, and a few people have actually said they've enjoyed seeing our photos and things.

I guess in my mind, its MY social media. This is a big life event for me that took over a year to plan and I'm excited and proud to be with my soon-to-be husband. I post what I want to. People can feel free to unfollow if they feel like it's too much but I'm at this stage of life and so are a lot of my friends who also post about it.

One of my 2019 resolutions was to not overthink what I post of social media (because its just a highlight reel anyhow), or worry about people not liking it, because again at the end of the day it literally doesn't affect them at all and they can unfollow.

I post fairly often about the wedding (just on Instagram and mostly in my stories), but do not divulge any details. I posted photos when we got engaged, when we booked our venue and set our date, when we got our engagement pics, 6 months til the wedding, 100 days til the wedding, etc.

This is fairly common where I'm from though. Everyone posts about their planning "journey", just making sure to leave out things that random strangers or acquaintances shouldn't know.

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Could not agree more.

We shared our engagment, the date we chose (on the actual date one year before) our engagment photos. My mom shared a photo of us booking our venue but other then that nothing else. No details or anything like that.

I haven’t posted anything to social media yet. I only post a handful of pictures on Instagram a year (not a huge picture taking person), and the only photos I put up of FH and I are usually on our anniversary. Aside from that, I’ve kept my relationship pretty private so that only our closest friends and family know our business. I’ll probably post a photo when my ring comes in and then go silent again until after the wedding (ring ETA could be anywhere from 4 months to as little as 1 month before the wedding). Those who are invited to the wedding will know before the rest of the social media world knows, so everyone else will probably wonder how we pulled off such a short engagement... little do they know!

Before the wedding, we just changed our Facebook status from "married" to "engaged." (Like a lot of same-sex couples, we had considered ourselves married so long as legal same-sex marriage was not available.) We didn't discuss the wedding on social media. After the wedding, we changed our status back to "married," and then posted wedding photos.

We only posted that we were engaged and some pictures from that day, and then when we booked the venue bc we were so excited. Keeping all DIY projects and details a secret.

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Did you two share pics of your venue or just tell everyone which one you booked?!