Savvy October 2019

Post-wedding Return Address - Different Last Names

Jessica, on December 13, 2019 at 3:25 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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All my search results for this question bring me results about invitations and save the dates.

But how would you go about writing your return address when the couple keeps their own last names? I didn't change my name after I married but anyone who has gotten a stamp or label made just said that the bride changed her last name to the husband's.

I'm addressing thank you cards and planned to label them with those free address labels that charities like to send, but they only have my name on it and I figured we should have one as a couple, but how to write it?

FirstName Lastname & FirstName Lastname? (too long?)

FirstName & FirstName? (too informal?)

Mr. & Mrs. Husband Lastname? (I'm a modern independent woman, so this feels a little old-fashioned to me)

I was considering just first names, but my wedding was a little on the formal side, and so are the thank you cards in design.


  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    If you aren't changing your last name, then either just first names or both first/last. I've seen plenty of address labels with both parties having the full name. The address label stays the same size. It's usually just a bit of a smaller font.
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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
    Amber ·
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    For our return address labels for our Save the Dates and invitations, we did FirstName LastName & FirstName LastName. It may be a tad long, but I don't think anyone would think twice about it Smiley smile

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  • A
    Devoted May 2020
    Alex ·
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    I think for most things First and First would work fine!

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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
    Christine ·
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    I think First and First is just fine. Also maybe "The LastName & LastName Family" as an alternative?

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    We did first & first for our save the dates

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  • Lauren
    VIP September 2019
    Lauren ·
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    I got a stamp First & First so that I could use it for Save the Dates, Bridal Shower Thank yous, Invitations, RSVP cards, Wedding Thank yous, and Christmas Cards.

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  • J
    Savvy October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Stamps can be so cute and unique looking that I wanted to get one, but we plan to find a new place within the next year so we wouldn't get as much use out of it. I guess I'm just being a little hung up on the formality of it, because I would be totally fine using First & First for all those other events!

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