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Dedicated September 2020

Post wedding rant / wedding Horror story!

Megan, on October 10, 2020 at 3:39 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9
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Im going to tell you the whole story of my wedding day and rehersal it was a disaster. so buckle up! ( Just need to vent )
So the day before rehersal day, hadn't slept my friend flew in from Florida, and my parents needed my car to load stuff in so my friend and I got our nails done relaxed and got left at the salon, called multiple times, didn't get picked up sat for an hour until one of my friends friends came to get us. (MOH is florida friend), we later head to the location for rehersal in my car together after getting dropped off back at my parents house.

Later rehersal day we get to the location which is in the boonies in a state park with no service, except one parking king lot with service. ( We know this, it's fine.) We intend on heading to the cabin, but my mom ( mom-zilla, yes I love her) hands the directions to my other bridesmaid (who is in a separate hotel room) doesn't tell us, and leaves to head to the cabin. My MOH and I are left for over 3 hours in a parking lot by ourselves before my dad comes to tell us what has happened, ( we are confused, lost and have no idea what's going on at this point. We drove around aimlessly since no one came to get us for an hour before heading back to the original parking lot) There is only one parking spot at this cabin that is supposedly supposed to hold lots of people, it's over 30 mins away off road and steep inclines on each side, so I spend the next couple hours crying trying to figure out alternate plans or considering cancelling all together. (My MOH rocks and helped me not go off the deep end) keep in mind mom-zilla told us nothing we didn't know what was going on this entire time. The directions are stupid confusing there is no address to this cabin, just dorections.
Rehersal was supposed to start at 6, but we ended up waiting until 9pm on the groomsman and his wife to show up since we had to carpool them to the cabin. Needless to say there was no rehersal at all by the time we got back it was after 10, the pizza we picked up was cold we hung out for a bit and slept.
Wedding day, everything seemed to go ok until the grooms family showed up 2+ hours late, so the groom had to go pick them up right before the wedding, making it a almost 4pm wedding instead of 1:30.It also meant my mom had to leave in between the ceremony and reception to pick up the catering, because they were late.There was no rehersal so who was holding my flowers ect was discussed right before we walked out, mom-zilla picked my aisle song my dress ripped on a nail in the board as I was walking out the cabin patio and tripped me up, I finally make it to the front, I can't hear the preacher, neither can the camera guy, (he told me after and apologized) which I couldn't understand him either and I was right there. There was no turn and face each other or anything like that we awkwardly held right hands (like he said ) and I said "I do" to something I didn't even hear. ( He did repeat himself multiple times for us to say "I do" ) but that was literally all I understood. The wedding was so late we didn't have time for any dancing we had to take photos before everyone left. Grooms dad and grandparents had to leave right after the ceremony ( due to medical condition) so they didn't get to see the cake or anything else
We didn't get to rehearse so I am having to explain to the groom to how to cut the cake, feed each other while it's happening. People are tell directions at him because it's not getting through and I'm sure he was still nervous. Mom adds on plastic champagne flutes to add to the frustration which I also have to explain. We spend the rest of the time taking photos after eating.
We got married September 19th and I thought I was ok with it and I'm not. I'm still pretty upset with how it went. It's not a day I cant do over again. I don't know if I'll ever get over it. Just needed somewhere to put all this emotion. Thanks for reading Smiley smile





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Latest activity by Megan, on October 10, 2020 at 6:41 PM
  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
    Anna ·
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    I shouldn’t have read this post yet. I’m 14 days away and I had 2 dreams 2 nights ago about being late to my wedding.


    I’m so sorry for you that things went so far off from what you had dreamed. And I know you’re right, there’s not a reset or redo button we can press, but we can alter our perspective. Can you think back and find the positive things that happened? I know right now you’ve been focusing on the negatives and they seem huge and yes, especially altogether you feel like nothing went right, but can you find even a little bit of good and blow that out of proportion, make it your focus when you think back to Sep 19.
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  • T
    Expert April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I'm sorry you went through this, it sounds like a mess.
    I'm not married yet, but I think your post underscores the importance of having a timeline and a plan. You mom sounds very unreliable and you should have had your car during the rehearsal day, but you also should not have had the responsibility of picking up the groomsman. The rehearsal generally doesn't include stuff like cutting the cake; that should have been worked out beforehand etc.

    I hope you are able to find peace and good memories of your day!
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  • Minimalist Bride
    Master April 2021
    Minimalist Bride ·
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    Whew reading this made my blood pressure increase. I'm so sorry about your big day. I'm a pretty anxious person and knew nothing would go 100% right for my wedding. We decided to elope instead.
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  • A
    Super February 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Oh man. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I had a somewhat similar situation, mainly my dress alterations a week before that ended up giving me a giant zit on the day of. We never rehearsed either, and on the day of we were all confused where to stand and what to do. I also didn’t know we were by a highway so all I could hear were the cars and trucks driving by, on top of a waterfall I didn’t think would be super noisy. And even though there were issues I had about our wedding, you got to try to not stress about it because you finally got to marry your man. There were bad things, but good things as well. Push all the negativity away because there are some memories you can remember and laugh about years from now.


    And if you’re still unsatisfied you should do a 5 year vow renewal with how you want it, and no momzilla Smiley smile
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I'm so sorry that all of that happened. Since you can't change the past, I would try to focus on the present moment. You are married to the man you love. If you really want a "do-over," maybe you two can look into a vow renewal in a few years, like a milestone of some kind? Then you can plan your dream wedding and hopefully things will go a little smoother from what you learned this go-around!
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  • Megan
    Dedicated September 2020
    Megan ·
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    Yes having a timeline and a plan, we had a plan, but unfortunately like I said my mom took over ( you would have to know her to fully understand, or someone like her.... Total control freak) I honestly think a good take away would be to have a wedding planner... I thought it was unessecary at the time but it would have prevented all this extra stuff being thrown at me last minute and keep her from doing what she wants on my wedding day. She also added a slideshow which I did not want and excluded my MOH from childhood photos which I have known her from 4th grade. I think a wedding planner would've fixed most of this!
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  • Megan
    Dedicated September 2020
    Megan ·
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    That's awesome! I wanted to elope! I should have done so, I wouldn't have had any of these issues if I had!
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  • Megan
    Dedicated September 2020
    Megan ·
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    Wow you rock. I'm sorry to hear you had problems on your day too, but this is an awesome solution. I think I'm going to do just that! A vow renewal or elopement! No mom-zilla needed Smiley laugh thank you made me feel much better about it Smiley heart
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  • Megan
    Dedicated September 2020
    Megan ·
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    I love this idea! Thank you! I might do just that Smiley heart
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