Post dating license

Your license just means that you can legally get married within the time frame stated. The day you get married is still your wedding day.

A date on a calendar is not serious enough for you to fudge a legal document.

I don't understand why you would do this. Your wedding day is special because it's the day you get married. Not because it's your dating anniversary.

No one will ever see the date of your marriage license... plus I'm pretty sure officiants won't marry you without one? Calling @celia

Makes no sense. I'm siding with the friends and family who thinks it's stupid.

It's just a piece of paper that no one besides the dmv and the bank will see for your name change. Plus I'm pretty sure you need one to get married in the first place.

My office issues marriage licenses in RI. I would definitely recommend NOT doing that! Not worth lying on a legal document! Most officiants I know would never sign off on it like that anyway.

I think this is silly. You're essentially saying your dating anniversary is more important than your marriage day/ anniversary.

Many of us didn't get the desired date we wanted due to budget (went with a Friday /Sunday/Thursday instead) or the venue was booked that date.

Suck it up buttercup.

I don't get it. Like....Why? Whats wrong with the 10th?? Its a cool day, nice lil Friday wedding to kick off the weekend....and its the day before mine....rock the 10th since that is technically your wedding day. If you post dated, what exactly would you do every year on the 10th? Act like the day doesn't mean anything until the 25th?

Yeah that's a stupid idea.

Is this a real question?

The answer is: your family is right and this is stupid.

No.

I wouldn't fake the document. Yikes.

However, celebrate whichever date you want as your anniversaries. It seems pretty obvious you value the 25th. After the wedding, no one will even remember the date except you. They may remember the month. So, get married when you can. Have the paperwork be legitimate. Celebrate your anniversary when you want to.

Why not use February 10th as a new special day? Postdating the document is stupid. Doesn't change the actual day you got married on.

Isnt the day you actually get married more special?

Nothing says married like fraud! Oh, wait...

So let me get this straight. You want to 1: have a huge party on the 10th and lie to everyone saying its your wedding day, and go through all the rites and rituals.

2: purposely try to have your officiant conspire to commit fraud with you by dating your marriage license on a date other than the day you married, AND withhold the license past the timeframe they're supposed to turn it in by (at least, where I live, the officiant has to turn it in within 10 days of the wedding or the marriage is void.)

3: proceed to then celebrate your anniversary on the 25th every year, further confusing people and revealing your sham wedding as fake, and thereby hurting your relationship with everyone you consider your "nearest and dearest" because you had a party you called your wedding when I fact, you weren't legally married on that day.

4: you'll probably also have photos of your faux wedding all over social media as further proof of your fraudulent acts.

Nope, OP, I don't possibly see how this could be a bad, horrible, incredibly ridiculous and stupid, hairbrained idea at all. There's just NO WAY you could end up in court for fraud or possibly with a void marriage because of all this. Just no way. >.>;;;;;;

I mean even if you date the license a different day, therefore legally making your anniversary the day you wanted it to be (I've never heard of this before) the day you got married would still be the day you got married. So really would you celebrate the day you I guess filed the paperwork to be rather than the actual date you got married? This doesn't make sense to me. Personally I would just pick a different date, maybe even one not so close to spread things out, and then have multiple things to celebrate. Then each year you can celebrate your dating and proposal anniversary and your wedding anniversary both.

@Reggie: but actually, her wedding date WOULDN'T be the date she got married, because the marriage wouldn't be recognized for 15 more days. So the wedding wouldn't be a wedding, just a big elaborate lie of a party.

It was a suggestion of a friend I wasn't totally for it. FH was more for it than me. But he hasn't mentioned it a while so maybe he's forgot about how excited he originally was. It's just been in the back of my mind not the greatest idea. Thanks ladies

@mna In your eyes the paperwork is what makes a marriage. That's not how everyone feels.