Poll: What do you usually bring to a wedding, money or physical gift?

I think a card with money or a gift card is perfect. Speaking from a bride who just had a semi destination wedding, I was actually really surprised that we actually got a couple actual gifts at the wedding. From two guests that flew in. I felt bad that they felt like they had to travel with a gift like that! We had our address on our registry for a reason. We also didn't even get to see the gifts until we got home from our mini moon a few days after the wedding. My mom helped grab things from the reception for us and then everything was packed into my car and my FIL drove it back to our house for us while we kept DHs truck for the mini moon. We finally just unpacked everything and were able to open the gifts from the reception.

I definitely think a card is just fine.

@The Centerpiece Flowers, I find it interesting that you're adamant about cheque only. For me, cash is the way to go. A cheque is an "IOU". I've heard stories about brides and grooms going to cash the cheque and having it bounce back because the person who gave it didn't have sufficient funds in their account. I'd be mortified if that happened (as someone giving a gift) and if I was the bride/groom cashing the cheque, I would feel really awkward about whether I should even approach the person (they clearly know - cause they would have been dinged with a NSF fee).

I usually end up picking a gift off the registry for the shower and bring money for the wedding.

I always bring a card with cash. At my wedding, we only got money and no gifts, but I had a bridal shower.

Money. As a bride, it was what I most appreciated because we were able to put it towards what we truly needed.

If they have a registry, then I like to give them an actual gift for both the shower and the wedding. I feel that they wouldn't make a registry if they didn't need those items or need to upgrade items for when they start their life as husband and wife.

I gave a friend who recently got married a gift off of their registry and she posted a picture when they moved into their house and saw my gift in the picture! It made me really excited to know that it was useful and helped them out.

Giving money just seems lazy to me. Unless they don't have a registry. Then, of course, I would give them money.

We always do money for the wedding and registry gift for the shower. Weddings here, as others mentioned, are very expensive and I can't think of many people who wouldn't appreciate the extra cash after spending that kind of money on the wedding.

We do physical gifts for the shower and then the wedding we do cash. Except for the most recent one we attended. We gave a big gift basket for the shower and mailed them over $150 worth of items off the registry for the wedding to their house. we gave a card at the wedding. we would have done cash but she had not much off the registry and had explained to me that some of the things not purchased they wanted... She didnt say this as gift grabby but as " hey i know you're planning your registry- heres some items we liked "

Cash money

Physical gift. I've never been to a wedding that didn't have a large table overflowing with boxes on it. I didn't know people gave money at weddings until I came here. Seriously. Our wedding presents were 75% boxed gifts.

I give gifts at the shower.

My family mostly gives physical gifts at the wedding. I like to make gifts personal but if I don't know the couple very well I give cash.

I always give a monetary gift which is actually a check, I never actually put cash in the card as there are quite a few venues in NJ that I know of where cards have gone missing.

There was one wedding where I gave a gift and I'm glad I did because it was the worst wedding I have ever attended. Typically I gift $200-$300, however I purchased gifts that retailed for over $200.00 but really only cost me $100.00 because I was tight on money. I felt bad but after the horrendous ceremony and reception I wish I had spent less.

In your case, knowing you weren't having a bridal shower, I would probably do both. $100 monetary and a nice gift of $100+.

I would bring money to a wedding. It doesn't matter if it's right next door or across the country. Bring a card with cash is just easier.

At my wedding, we only got cards with money. We didn't create a registry because we didn't want anything, which is part of the reason we only got money. My mom was saying that we would need room for presents as well and worried about what we would do with them, but the only physical present we got before the wedding (a handmade blanket) and at the wedding all the gifts were cards so it was all in our card box.

I usually bring money...generally out of sheer laziness. It's never been a problem before

If there is a shower, I will bring the gift to the shower, and bring a check with me to the wedding.

I am a bridesmaid in an out-of-state wedding next weekend. She did not have a shower since all of her guests are out of state. I ordered some things off of the registry and had them shipped to her apartment.

I give cash with a very nice card for weddings. Gifts I give at showers.

I always give cash (that's really the norm around here) and as far as what we received at our wedding, we received 1 physical (we got about 60 cards with cash).

I only bring a physical gift. If there is no registry, I will bring a gift card of $20 - $100.

Money

I always give actual gifts at showers and always money at weddings.