Poll: What do you usually bring to a wedding, money or physical gift?

Normally I do both I purchase gift for the shower and bring money to the wedding reception.

The past few weddings I have gone to i bought Gift Certificates to the best home store in our town. I agree with giving money and being afraid that they just put it towards bills instead of buying something they really need.

If I don't give money I will give a gift card to one of the stores on their registry.

If there is a shower, then I bring a physical gift then. Otherwise a card and gift card. (Last wedding, the couple didn't have a registry so they got a card and gift card.

I always give cash in a card, and most weddings I contribute in kind mainly doing the wedding cake.

I always bring a physical gift, but it seems like money would be more useful even if it is impersonal.

If there's a registry, we buy something from the registry but arrange to have it delivered... I don't think we've ever showed up with a present.

If there's no registry, then money. There are too many sitcom examples of tacky/awful/unwanted wedding gifts lol

Always a check, usually $250 - $300 (never cash, never, never, never). They can use it pay off their wedding, put it towards a honeymoon, put it in a savings account, pay a bill, or buy something they wanted, but didn't get, off of their registry.

It seems to be the norm around here (LI, NY) to bring/send a physical gift to the shower and bring money in a card to actual wedding.

If I can't attend a shower (because its OOT or I simply can't go), I always send a physical gift and bring/send $$ for wedding.

I usually give a card with money, but I also usually am traveling via car or plane for at least 4 hours to weddings.

I hand sew quilts so all my friends know if they tell me soon enough I will make them a quilt LOL. I also tend to buy something off the registry for the shower and I leave the wedding gift up to FH. He is lazy and tends to just put money in an envelope. I at least try to get a pretty card but sometimes it doesn't always happen LOL.

I usually bring a gift. The last 2 weddings I went to (family weddings) we were pretty broke so I made them personalized cake topper/bobbles (that they still display in their houses today--yay!) and also got a small gift. I also give as much of a secondary gift as we can afford (which would be a primary gift for people I don't know well) but if we're not going to see them before the wedding, I would probably have the store's registry send it to their address. All the weddings I've been to have had filled gift tables if that sounds helpful. Even if no one brings a gift, better safe than sorry?

I've just gotten to the age where I am being invited to friends weddings (none of my friends are married always FH's friends, in which case hes the invitee I'm just the plus one so the decision is up to him) before it was always family. So for family usually I got them something small (as in less than $50) and made a point to help out w/ the wedding. The last wedding few weddings in my family I am there to help. Return the rental items (tux, table clothes), carry gifts to the car, stuff invites.

ETA: I also just graduated last year so I've always been the "broke" college students, so I help where I can

I have always bought a gift from the registry for the shower and then give cash at the wedding. I think that's pretty normal here in Northeastern PA.

@faran-- exactly! That's been us too... we try to help out with weddings as much as possible, not just as a "gift" but because I enjoy helping people

I never do money. I just don't like to give money. So we always do a gift. Sometimes we bring it with us, and sometimes we ship it to the couple... it usually honestly depends on how far in advance we buy it.

I will buy a gift from the registry.

I purchase off of the registry and have it shipped to the couple. Easier for me and easier for the couple the day of the wedding as no one has collect it at the end of the night. Sometimes I will give money or a gift card but usually that if I know the couple would prefer the money as they are saving for a house or need spending money for honeymoon.

My FH and I always bring cash in a card to the wedding. If there's something on the registry that we want to buy for the couple, we purchase it online and have it shipped to their house with a "gift" message.

I always give cash gifts with a card. I've yet to be invited to a bridal shower but if I was, I would purchase a smaller gift off the registry depending on my closeness to the bride.

I put, at minimum, 50$ per person attending, and it goes up from there (again based on closeness to the bride/groom).

We've decided to register because we are moving into a house and there's lots of stuff we would like to have/upgrade, but I much prefer cash gifts.