Poll: How much do you normally give at weddings for differing relationships?

I've only been to one wedding where I wasn't a child lumped in with my parents gift. I was also the MOH. FH was invited, but deployed so it was only me who went. I gave $100 because I'm a student living 100% on student loans (school physically will not allow us to work during our program). If I could financially, I would have given more because we are close

Always 125 alone and per person- I'm also Nyc and I figure I'm at least most likely breaking even.

$100 each minimum and more if they're closer to us.

For me I alter my gift based on whether or not I attended a shower, bachelorette party, etc.

If I have given gifts to the bride already I give $50 per person

We never give less than $200 from the both of us, depending on the relationship with the person would determine if we gave more. I've never been a BM, but depending on how much the BM expenses were would be the deciding factor on if we gave more than $200.

100 per person min, maybe 50-100 more if we are close. So for FH and I together we give 200. If they are having a bridal shower too we will gift something off the registry in addition. We are from NJ

We usually give $200 at weddings

I give 100$ to everyone no matter how close I am to the couple. I'm generous but usually FH and I split it/go dutch. I never give less than 100$. I won't give you money for your dollar dance though. 100$ is my norm, because that's typically what we can afford at this point in our mid 20s.

It depends how we are budget-wise but never less than $50... usually $100 no matter who it is

I am with Whit here, I only can swing 100$ in your wedding or not. (no more, no less) If I am your BM I have already spent money, on the shower, the dress, the alterations, the bach party, the pre wedding pampering, and then a gift. I am tapped out! I am not made of money, and luckily my friends understand that. Gifts for a wedding are not a contest, anyone who loves you will be happy you gave them anything at all.

For family we give $300 and FH and I have only been in wedding parties together and we give more. And they've both been destination weddings. We gave one couple $500 and the other was his brother and we gave him more then that.

I gift based on my budget and relationship to the people getting married. My budget comes first though. Sometimes life happens and I can only afford $50 no matter how much I love you. I also don't even take into consideration how much they're paying per plate just as I wouldn't want my guests to do so. Having a wedding is OUR choice. The budget is completely in our control. Why should I expect my guests to cover what WE chose to host?

Good point K squared, I like that thinking

I don't normally give any money for weddings I am in... I had to pay for a bridal shower gift, my dress, bachelorette party, etc. All those things combined are my gift to the couple. My budget is tight enough that I have no extra money to spend on a wedding day gift itself. Nor do any of my friends expect it. Other weddings, usually around $50 if I can afford it. However, I am still a student so that is a big factor.

Agree with @JessieJV.

For family/people we aren't particularly close with: $75-$100 pp

Family / Close Friends (even if we're in the BP): $250+ as a couple

Since you said your struggle is mostly with amount to give if you're in a wedding, I'll stick to that part. I've been a BM in a few weddings and typically, give a sentimental gift with a nice card. The cost of the gift has varied between $60 - 100. While reasoning that you're super close to the person so you should spend more money on their wedding makes sense, a BM typically spends a lot of money on wedding expenses that I think result in the practice that I've heard that you're not "required" to give a gift if you're in the wedding party. I've spent on average over 1k on BM expenses, but since they've all been good friends, I think it's still nice to spend the time on gifting something that you know they'll really love. Hope this helps!

We did 250 for a family member we have a great relationship with, same for a close friend. For someone who I was "so-so" with, I would do 100.

Wow, we live in Columbus Ohio, in our mid-30s, and all our friends have good professional careers. Our family isn't super rich, but everyone does ok. We mostly received $50-$100 per COUPLE with only a few exceptions! I prefer to give a meaningful gift rather than cash, but always worth about $100/person for good friends. My bridesmaids were among the most generous gifters despite their BM expenses, but they're the closest people in my life - sisters, best friend. Their gifts were all physical and meaningful (not cash)

DH and I have yet to attend any weddings together as we're the first of our friends to get married but this is probably what we would give:

Family not close to: $50

Close Friends/Family: $100

If I'm in the bridal party: $100 plus something off their registry

We're on the younger end so that's probably the most we could do right now.