Poll: How much do you normally give at weddings for differing relationships?

@jessieJV never said that needed to be how you do it, but that's how we do it in my house.

I read somewhere that you should give how much you think your plate is x2.

So for FH and I. A typical wedding in my area is $50per plate so double to $100 then times 2 for both of us.

A total should be $200.

I agree with people above if we are in a wedding we give less because of the dress or suit.

Damn, I need to make friends with some of y'all! I've been to very few weddings, but give $75-$100 typically, which is honestly about how much I could afford. I could and will be doing more moving forward as we are in a better financial state as a couple.

My fiancé was in his best friends wedding 3 years ago....

We gave them 500$

We actually think if you are in someone's wedding ( which means you are CLOSE) you should give more, rather than less. Just my two cents, though.

AGAIN - if they are inconsiderate and choose the most expensive attire, you have every reason to give them less. I am pretty petty when it comes to that stuff, lol

We do 100$ per person, so 200$ from us for most. For FSIL's wedding, we did 150 each (so $300 total) and we spent a little more on the gifts we bought for the shower.

@Brittany-Again, not everyone is from a cheap area. You give what you are able to afford.

As a couple:

not close friend/family: $100

close friend/family: $200-$300

bridesmaid: have never been a bridesmaid in my adult life but probably same as close friend/family.

I would never give less than $200 for both of us. That's bare minimum. And I agree with @Tamara. I would give MORE if I was in a wedding, that means they are my nearest and dearest. Buying a dress is part of being in it, I wouldn't penalize the gift because I agreed to get a dress, do hair, make up etc.

Someone needs to invent a wedding formula or something like X% of monthly pay multiplied by relationship to make it all easier for us guests lol

I've literally been to one wedding. We bought a gift off the registry that meant something for us to give to them.

Friends: $150

Close friends: I’d try for $300, but I’ve not had a close friend get married, yet.

Financial tough times: $50, and I felt terrible about it because we are in a slightly higher COL area.

And like @JessieJV, I’ve never attended a wedding of someone I’m not close to. That is until this weekend, and we will be giving them back what they literally just gave us. Old family friend of DH’s, but they haven’t been close in years.

@Tamara... I think we might be cousins! Ill send you an invite! lol

I usually do 100

or a wedding I was just in I did $50.00 Only because thats all I could really afford at the time!

OP thanks for posting this!! I've been delayed on sending a gift for a wedding I attended 3 weeks ago lol!! I was thinking of sending them $100 total. It was a backyard wedding with a taco guy. I haven't sent it yet cause I've been on a tight budget for our upcoming wedding but at the same time I need to send it cause this girl is possibly going to be my MUA and I only say that cause she announced she was prego at her reception.

I typically start at $100 for weddings where I'm a BM (I figure I'm paying for a lot of other stuff, so this is fine). Family/close friends I usually go around $250. For other friends, something in the middle, honestly depending on how I'm doing on cash at the time.

If you're buying from the registry, wait for a sale. I love it when they register at Bed Bath and Beyond because I can use a 20% off. If you're giving cash, I would give at least $200. If you're in the wedding and spent a lot on dresses, Bach party, Shower etc. I would give what you can afford. Same if you have to travel.

Yea can you all come to my wedding? Just kidding. For friends and family- we give about 50 each. We work hard but we are poor and have bills we have to pay.

Co workers that I am not good friends with, or weddings I was invited to as one of the parents friends $100 as a couple.

My good friends, I usually do $100 and a cute gift off the registry.

If I am part of the wedding. You get a registry gift for the wedding, a shower gift and I have already spent a fortune on a dress, shoes, shower...bla bla bla. So my registry gift usually isn't that much more than $50-75. Sorry, but I am hundreds if not over $1000 into your wedding already.

Close family/friends we try to give at least 200 if we can.

Not so close, 100.

If we are struggling 50 with a nice card and a hand written note.

Standing up, havent really decided. I have only stood up in 1 wedding which was my brothers and I.think my mom and dad included my name on their card/gift. I was broke af at the time.

It honestly just depends on our financial situation at the time.

As a minimum, we give $200. If we're close friends $300-400, for family minimum of $500.

Suggestion: This would mean more if each person put where they were from (ex. The average given gift from someone in NYC and makes a larger salary bc of living there would be able to gift more than someone who makes a less salary in the south/midwest- aka 150 a person from a NYC might equivalent to 50 that lives somewhere else).

From someone that lives in the south, below is what I give (w my husband) and would be considered a good gift from my wedding:

Close friends/family-$100 (however, if they have a registry I tend to be a good shopper and you might get something nicer for that price (and I wont watch pennies to get something a little more), if your begging for money like a honeyfunder, you get no more than 100 cash)

BP- $100 (same deal as above, exception maybe being if the bride was selfish and had a destination wedding and bachelorette- yes I have seen this happen and has cost over 3K for me to attend)

Not close as friends/family- 50

I also have to travel to most weddings I go to (many include 2 flights not including pre parties, and hotel rooms, so that impacts my budget). I had a wedding of 150, and maybe only 3 couples (very well off ones, gave 200 or more, and some of those were families of 3-4). Also factored if I gave a gift at a shower.