Poll: How much do you normally give at weddings for differing relationships?

$100 from each of us, so my husband and I would give $200 minimum. For a close friend, double it + something from the registry.

I don't know whether this is 'a lot" or "not enough" it's just what I've seen be done. I live in the NYC metro area.

Family not close with: $50 and a nice card

Weddings youre apart of: $50 and sentimental gift with card (bitch I spent so much money to be in your wedding this is all you get. Love you!)

Close friends/family: $100 and a nice card

It should be at least $50 per person, and if you're really close with them and NOT a part of the wedding, $75-100 per person

$200 for close friends and family

$100 for coworkers/cousins I don't appreciate lol

$50-75 for anyone if I'm in a particularly rough spot financially.

Whit, I lol'd at yours, I'm with you on weddings you're apart of right now!

From Both of us :

Family not close with - $200.00 (depending on venue)

Weddings we are in - we have been in one together and gave $300.00

Close Friends/Close Family - $300 - $400 depending on venue.

We always do about 100 a piece- I don't think we give more or less.

Although I think hubs gave his sister 300 for her wedding- and I didn't go- and there was no reception- it was actually just a ceremony.

Damnnnnnnnnnnnnn I'm inviting all y'all that dish out $300!!!! Phew!!!!!!!!! Lets be friends!

Juicyfruit: hahahahhaahaha I really do that my friends wouldn't expect anything else from me lol

We give 250-300 if we are not THAT close with the couple.

400-500 to close friends and family.

We live in NYC and I think that's standard here.

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Wow! New York is the place to be (kidding, I know cost of living is high there), but I agree with whit, ya'll want to come to my wedding? I'm curious to see what the average amt spent will be from my own wedding.

We give $150-200 depending on our budget for the month. However, if you ask for money, via a honeyfund or something similar, you get a physical gift.

ETA: I only go to weddings of people I'm close to.

@greenebunny I would want to definitely cover the cost of per person for both of us, so the minimum would be what I put above, but if I know that the couple is having a super high end wedding & I am able to attend, I would increase that $$ amount.

Whit - I know that IF you decide to give a gift (not an obligation, of course) it should at bare minimum, cover your plate. $50 wont cover your plate in NYC. lol Just saying. It wont even cover 2 drinks.

eta- what Jennifer said above me. That is exactly why we give the amount that we do.

For family you're not close with: $50pp

Close friends/family: $75pp-$200pp

My financial situation isn't the best right now so take my estimates with a grain of salt. I think as for weddings you're a BM in is dependent on how much you had to give and how close you are to the bride.

@Jennifer-If we wanted to "cover our plate" for the weddings we've gone to, we'd go broke. Most weddings that I've attended have been $200-$300 pp.

The minimum I usually gift as a couple is $200. If they are close family (sibling for ex) then probably more but that hasn't happened yet.

I usually give between $300-$500, regardless of relationship with marrying couple.

HOWEVER, dry weddings (non religious) only get $150. Hahahaha

Being in a wedding is the one I'm having a hard time with because I've definitely sunk a good chunk of change into her wedding and she hasn't been very thankful to her BMs about how much her dresses or alterations cost (she picked the most expensive dress in the store), and I know her parents paid about 55$ per person with food and drink, but she's also in my wedding so I don't want her to like scoff at the amount I give her if it's only like 100$. Some brides are like "omg don't worry about a gift thanks just for being in my wedding" (which is def how I feel about my own girls) and some brides are like "ummm you're my close friend and you only gave me X amount?".... I have a really good job now so I'm afraid she will think poorly of me if I only give 100$,because she knows I have a good job now, but I just switched from a terrible paying job about 3 months ago so most of my money has gone directly to getting a good car and savings.

Jamie - hahahah. that is a great way to think!

OP - if she hasn't been thankful and chose the most expensive dress in the store ( that is INCONSIDERATE) I think you are ok giving her less, lol

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