Plus size bride having trouble with white dress

Maybe you can get a dress that has a trim in a color

Http://www.alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaids/Alexia-Designs/-A-line,Strapless-Style-2810/ this is what I went with. I am also a plus sized bride and leary of white. We chose ivory and sage green. The green band across the dress breaks up all the white. and there is a green inset panel in the back. I wouldnt worry too much. I am sure you will find something you love. Good luck!!!

I am a big girl too. I tried on a white dress a couple of weeks ago and cried because I looked so big in it. That's why I started Weight Watchers. Maybe the light color will work for you. You should try it. I am not a fan of dresses that are trimmed in color. Not to be offensive, but they are tacky on us full figured ladies.

I too am a plus size bride. When I went and started trying on dresses I found that the type that have the asymmetric rouching (spelling?) around the middle area helped define my waist and I was pleasantly surprised at how flattering it looked. I found that the dress required more visual interest in areas you do want people to look at, and less in areas you don't want them to look at.

Tell your photographer your concerns. He can strategically place you in pictures. As a little tip, don't face head on to the camera, turn your torso just slightly to one side and it will slim you. Also on "side" pictures your groom can stand in front of you, and the black of his suit breaks up the white dress. These are just a few examples of properly posing a plus size bride in wedding photos.

When I was in David's Bridal I saw some full figured women trying on dresses and they looked really good in some of those dresses. You just have to find a good silhouette for your body.

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I'm a size 30, and I'm wearing my white dress. Now, I'm still extreeeemely worried about looking huge next to my FH [who wears a size Small], but I didn't necessarily feel that different in white vs a color. That and I'm so excited about my traditional dress. Don't stay away from white just cause you are plus-sized, but if you really like the idea of blue however, go for it! You should wear what you feel good in. Also, have you looked a very creamy ivories or champagne colors? If you still want a white-ish dress, that would be less stark than bright white.

Many designers these days can make dresses in colors, you just ask the salons what brands do. And BM dresses can be a great option [and cheaper to boot.]

I chose a dress with asymmetrical runching for both me and my bridesmaids fo this very reason. I am about a 14 and 2 of them are 26s. The runching is very slenderizing. Another thing that migh be slenderizing is a dress with beading at the very top and very bottom. It will draw eyes away from the middle.

btw, I am not fond of the colored dresses either, but David Tutura had a pale pink dress on one of his brides and it as really pretty. It just wasn't for me.

I think the other ladies have really good advice about finding a dress with a silhouette that flatters your figure.

And Hillary has great advice about posing for your photographer. Last summer somebody posted some great info about photographing plus sized brides. It was a great link and was full of advice like Hillary's about how to angle the camera and pose the bridal couple. I think it helped a lot of brides in choosing a photographer to go with. Make sure that your photographer is capable of setting up and taking flattering shots.

Plus size bride **** I chose my dress in ivory with a halter. When it came to my pictures i did mention to the photographer my problem areas to stay away from, and he did. The full picture of my gown is on my wedding website.

From what I've read over the years, it's not about the color as much as the cut/way it fits. If you know your shape, you can find the best dress for you (apple, pear, hourglass, banana). I always see these guides in magazines like Women's Health and Cosmo.

Here's one link: http://weddingplannerandguide.com/bodytype.php

I'm on the leaner side, but my arms are my problem area. I will definitely be avoiding strapless dresses. Strapless anything adds 10 pounds to me. Also, they say to choose your wedding dress color based on skin tone

Don't stay away from white just because you think it will make you look bigger- try it before making a judgement. Most wedding dresses are heavily boned and are made to flatter. I bet you will find you look stunning!!

If you don't like the white I suggest trying some dresses in ivory. My dress is ivory which I was pretty sure was what I wanted prior to looking since we are doing brown instead of black for the guys tuxes. When i tried on my dress the white looked too overwhelming for me and my family agreed. I think the ivory just seems softer which may help if you are concerned about too much white.

Good luck with your decision!

Ivory!!!! and a lil color any that you like. I had a problem with white two i'm not the smallest bride but ivory and some color works for me. Also ask a person who works at the dress store what would make you sliming. that helped me.

I not a plus size but I am on the bustier side. I found the dresses with color that banded the top of the dress made me look bigger. I found a color band lower helped that. My is corset backed also which makes it easier to to fit if you want to try to lose weight or gain a bit before the wedding. It also helped to hold the girls in better I didn't feel I was falling out. I suggest finding a consultant you can talk freely with not one just there to make a sale. Thats what got my dress sold. She didn't force me into a dress I didn't like. Be open to try anything on the first few times you go in.

Maybe you should consider an off-white, like a champagne color, or darker ivory.

I am also a plus size. I tried on pure-white dresses and didn't care for the way they looked. I ended up buying a dark-red color. (Which is what I originally wanted anyway!)

I feel your pain....I'm a 26. My best advice:

- being weary of white is totally psychological I think - no one wants to see themselves as a giant marshmallow. But it is more important to choose your dress based on your colouring. I'm pale, but with very cool undertones. The warmth of ivory dresses made me look like a corpse, which was far worse than anything else. I went with pure white instead!

- go for an A-line silhouette.....I was even able to find a dress with pick-ups that looked good in this cut, and I NEVER thought I could pull those off considering the extra pouf factor

- asymetrical ruching is your friend, as several other ladies have mentioned. Same story for beading around the top of the dress (avoid any beading at the waisrt!), lots of boning, and a corset back.

- buy a dress from a plus-size line. They are FAR more flattering than a dress that was designed for a size 2 and then just made larger. Very, VERY bad....

Cont'd.....

.....This is my dress: http://www.bonny.com/1623.html

I'll admit I can barely breathe in it....but it hides EVERYTHING on my lower half, actually gave me a waist, the beading up top actually seems to flatten my chest a little bit (thankfully), and I honestly feel more beautiful in it than I have at any point in the last several years.

If you want a white dress, then get that white dress and rock it! I've accepted the fact that stress completely interfere with my plans to drop at least six sizes before the wedding and with 6 months to go that just ain't gonna happen. Plan B - love what you've got! (And shell out for an awesome photographer!)

Melissa: Nice to hear someone else is wearing a red dress! :-)

I would say, try on a lot of stuff, and get what you LIKE. Like Michelle suggests, you shouldn't just assume something will look bad. It's always hard to guess off the rack if something will look good on, no matter what size you are.

I agree with trying to find something that flatters your figure. You may have to think "out of the box" and try on some things that are against the picture in your head. From my experience the styles of dresses that I was really attracted to and I thought were going to look good (I have a very thick waistline) I looked awful! So I tried ones on just for the hell of it , to do something different and those were the ones that I loved the most on me.

Thank you all so much for your supporting comments. I have tried some dresses on, at HB, I was pleasantly surprised. I am still going to DB to try some ther ones on. I was thinking of a dress like this one: http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=-49995489¤tIdx=4&subCategory=-49999486|-49998998|-49995489&catentryId=6144084&sort=

http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=-49995489¤tIdx=53&subCategory=-49999486|-49998998|-49995489&catentryId=6110591&sort= (keeping in mind I will have chiffon sleeves put on the strapless one).

I mainly am having issues with the photo part and being bigger than my honey. I will discuss this point with the photographer, because I make the final decision.

I truly appreciate all the support on this issue, it is the only thing that is stressing me out about the whole wedding.