Plus Ones for Destination Wedding?

Technically those in a relationship don’t get a plus one, their partner gets invited by name.
As far as actual plus ones, if they would otherwise be traveling solo, I’d give them one. No one wants to travel to and experience a beautiful foreign country alone.

I think if you’re asking people to take that much time and spend that much money to attend a destination wedding in another country, every guest should be offered a plus one. I wouldn’t want to travel across the world by myself, even for a wedding.

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100% agree.

For our wedding, anyone in a serious relationship where they are engaged or living together, the partner will be invited by name. Other than that we have no plus ones with a single exception: I have ONE friend coming who quite literally would't know anyone else, so we've given her one so that she isn't feeling super awkward. Every other person who doesnt have a romantic partner will know others at the wedding

Like others have said, if someone is in a relationship, their significant other is part of the package and invited by name. For your single guests, I would definitely allow plus ones. It's not like you're paying for their flights and hotel right? Just the wedding part. You can let the guests decide if they actually take you up on the plus one.
So what about kids? Just curious if you're inviting kids along. What a really cool destination wedding! I would jump on the chance to go.

Echoing the others, people in committed relationships should be automatically invited as these are not plus ones. Plus ones are for truly single people. While I think it's fine to not include true plus ones for local weddings, I would definitely expect plus ones to be extended for a destination wedding all the way in Italy. It's not reasonable to expect people to travel all that way alone.

I 100% agree with you, at the end of the day it is your wedding and you do not want someone in your photos that you can’t remember the name of because one of the cousins dated that person for a week and then broke it off! Go with your gut!

I think you should give the single people the option of a plus 1 in such a romantic country. Of those who choose to go solo, be forewarned they may be up to good trouble. I used to be one of those ppl and have scooped up many a best man. I am now married to the last one. Sigh. In sum, let singles be themselves.

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This is more where we're at. We're having a 40 person destination wedding and we're definitely wanting to keep it as intimate as possible. Everyone invited is either immediate family or one of our closest friends. So obviously if they're in a committed relationship, their SO is invited. But none of our single guests are getting a plus one - but we're also lucky that everyone will know someone else or is travelling with their SO (all single guests are actually in the wedding party).

I think if you're having a larger wedding, especially destination (and yours sounds right on the border so it's a bit of a gray area), a plus one for single guests is kind of the only way to go. But if you're having a smaller wedding, where the goal is an intimate guest list where you are close to everyone, then I think that's really the only time you can get a sort of pass an skip the plus ones.

Plus One: A nice thing to do for a truly single friend, who is unattached and not in a relationship. This is optional.

Not a Plus One: Anyone that identifies themselves as being in a relationship, regardless of it's meaning to you. These people have their partners invited by name. This is not optional, as per etiquette.

For destination weddings I think plus one's are nice because people will be travelling.

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I agree with Dawn and you. If you are trying to keep costs low why invite more people especially if they are single or haven't been together for a long period of time. Do you really want to say to your family member/friend years later "what happened to that person you took to my wedding in Italy?" Honesty some people might need that break from there gf/bf and could use this trip to enjoy themselves.

I'm also having a destination wedding, and we've invited about 100 guests (we tried so hard to keep the guest list low, but this was as low as we could go), and about 50-65 are probably going to attend. We went through the same dilemma of wanting to keep the wedding intimate and costs low since the price per head for our wedding in Europe is also kind of steep. I wanted to also keep in mind how I've felt in the past when I wasn't invited to weddings that my boyfriend (now fiance) was invited to, despite having dated for 2 years by that point - I wanted to make sure no one felt like that. So we extended invitations to everyone's SO, even if they've been together for less than a year. We also extended plus ones to our single friends who would be travelling alone and don't really know many people at the wedding. For extended family who are single, we did not give them plus ones because we felt that they wouldn't be "alone" since they'd be there with their family. I definitely understand the delicate balance you have to take in making this decision!