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NerdyBride
Super August 2017

Plus Ones for All?

NerdyBride, on December 29, 2016 at 4:14 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 43

Hi! I'm brand new to the forums and was looking for some etiquette advice. My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, so we are trying to keep the guest list to only those with whom we are close. I will be inviting some of my old sorority sisters from college, but was wondering if I am...

Hi! I'm brand new to the forums and was looking for some etiquette advice. My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, so we are trying to keep the guest list to only those with whom we are close. I will be inviting some of my old sorority sisters from college, but was wondering if I am required to offer them all plus ones?

I know some of them have significant others, but I have not met them all and feel weird inviting (and paying for!) people I've never met. Plus, if they do not get plus ones, I will be able to invite more of them. I think it would be fun to get the girls together and hope that they would enjoy each other's company with or without dates, but I certainly don't want to be rude! What do you guys think?

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
    Lauren17 ·
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    Yes it's rude to not invite a social unit together. If they are married or in relationship they both need to be invited.

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  • NerdyBride
    Super August 2017
    NerdyBride ·
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    Oh gosh! @cayley I'm an alpha xi delta Smiley smile

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  • Lynn
    Expert September 2017
    Lynn ·
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    I just had this conversation with one of my best friends last night. Her sister got married in May and they didn't invite plus ones unless they knew them. One of our friend's daughters got married in March, and I was invited, but not my fiancee (I chose not to go because of this and also because it was out of state). When I talked about inviting some of my coworkers, she said "you don't have to invite their spouses....it's not required." I commented, nicely, that I wouldn't do that as I thought it was rude. SMH

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