Plus Ones for All?

If they are in a relationship, it is not a plus one; both of their names are to be on the invitation. They're a social unit after all.

Proper etiquette is that everyone in a relationship be offered a plus one. Think of how bummed you would be if you were in that position

Hello Stephanie and welcome!! First things first you can change your avatar using the desktop website to help everyone get to know you on the site.

To address your question, I think you should invite their SO's, especially for those who you know are in relationships. If I were invited to a wedding by someone and they did not allow me to bring my FH I would be upset. You should incorporate their relationships in your guest count.

ETA: diction. You should incorporate, not 'consider'. Consider implies potential to not include.

Serious relationships get a plus one. If not a guest is not necessary. For the majority we gave singles guest. I have a few cousins that relationships to them last the weekend with whatever chick they picked up friday at the bar, they got solo invites

ETA: echoing @jay is correct, I should of worded that. Serious relationships should be addressed to both names

They should get plus ones. I forgot about this when we made our guest list initially and am kicking myself (thankfully we already accounted for SOs, just not ones we may not know about). I would have been so mad if my I weren't invited to a wedding with my fiance, even when he was "just" my boyfriend.

If they are in a relationship their significant other should be invited.

If you know that they are in a relationship, make a big attempt to find out their SO's name. They are a social unit. Anyone over 18 should get a +1.

How far are you out of college? When I was in school, I thought 'of course I'll invite all my sisters!' Now 9 years later I'm inviting 17 sisters that I keep in touch with, and their dates (most are married or have serious boyfriends). In my opinion, it doesn't matter if you haven't met their significant others. They're an important part of your friends' lives and therefore they deserve an invite.

I went to the first wedding of one of my sisters one year after graduation and we were all given the option to bring a date. At 23 many of us were still single and it didn't matter so much if people brought dates or not, but I still think anyone who has a boyfriend deserves the option to bring them.

Inviting a significant other (by name, on the invitation) is required.

Offering a guest a plus one (a date chosen by the guest) is optional.

@MsG you don't get to judge which relationships are serious and which are not. That's incredibly rude. ANYONE in a relationship should get an invite as a couple.

Easiest thing to do is give them all a plus one if they're single, and of course you invite couples.

Plus one is only for people not in a relationship. Plus one is what you get if you are single. If you are a couple you are a social unit, you can't split up social units.

@Chantale that's rude.

A plus one is not a significant other.

A significant other is someone's social unit. You must invite them.

A plus one is/can be extended to a single friend who you are extending an invite so they can bring a guest of their choice so they are not alone.

SO/BF/GF/Partners of any sort are to be invited by name. A plus one is optional and only for those guests who are TRULY single. You ask people if they are seeing anyone before sending out your invites, then you find out their names and address accordingly.

Thanks for the input, everyone! I've been out of undergrad for about three years now. Only inviting a few very good friends I still see regularly as well as some members of my family tree (big, little, twin). It's tough because I would like to invite a few others as well but will not be able to if inviting SO's. I think if I were a guest in this position I would understand, though it is certainly more fun to have someone to share dances!

Also, I have one sister who is very single. Would it be awkward for her if the others have dates and she doesn't?

They should get a plus one. If you're just wanting a girls night do it some other night, bachelorette party maybe ..

Lol im sorry the last post you were all together that they just recently started dating and the couple had not met him, there for he should not have to be invited.

If they are in a relationship they should get a plus one. If you want a fun time with just the sorority sisters plan something outside of the wedding at a different time

Melanie- it's not a plus one if they are in a relationship. That's a SO. that's a guest. not a plus one.

Give her a plus one. If she finds a date, great! If not, well at least she had the ability to bring someone.

Also, plus ones don't have to be a sexual partner or "flavor of the day." I had an old college roommate bring her mom as her "date" because her husband had to work.