Please Don't Call me Bridezilla?!

I don't think you're being overly sensitive - I hate being called one, too. I think it's pretty comparable to people dismissing a woman's feelings because "she's pmsing" or "she's a bitch" or "she's just being emotional." Ever notice that men don't get dismissed quite so easily when they voice their opinion? It's something that's bugged me for a really long time.

Hi VegasBride,

Dont worry honey you are not a "bridezilla". You know what you want and what you dont want. If you do not have any red in your wedding then haveing red folders would look off. Just remember mom's dream of this day just as much as the brides do and sometimes even more so. Its wonderful that she is involved in your planning, but just remember this is a stressful time for everyone and your mom probably doesnt mean to hurt you in anyway. Good luck and best wishes to you and your fiance.

You don't sound like a "Bridezilla" at all! If anything, you know what you want and you know what you like. Your colors are black, white, and silver. Why would you want something red? Lots of people have their opinions on what you should do for your wedding, but you have to be true to what you want. It's frustrating being called something when you aren't even over reacting or anything. I can see if you like, threw a tantrum in the store, or started throwing all of the red folders onto the floor or something. Jeez. I guess the only advice I have is that it is ok to turn down her ideas, and although it's super difficult, ignore her comments! Just think, your wedding is in 75 days or so...nothing will matter after that, except that you are married to the one you love.

Thanks everyone. I really needed to hear that.

My mom is doing the EXACT same thing! I don't get it, shes turned into Momzilla!!!!!! the ONLY wedding stress I have right now has been caused by her! I keep telling myself not to let it bug me, but like you it does! It puts me in a foul mood and makes me want to go bridezilla and just go berzerk on her, but I just stay calm and bitch to the FH at home about her! He has helped take over some of the things that I wanted her to help w/ in order to take the stress off of me that every time I try to plan somethign with her she calls me that at some point or another or tells me I'm crazy when I don't agree with her. *wow sorry, that turned into a rant on my part!* Sorry your having the same troubles! Keep yoiur chin up. I think I will start calling my mom Momzilla every time she says it to me and see how she likes it!

Momzilla!! hahah everytime she calls you that just call her a momzilla. she can only call you this once so i guess shes taking advantage of it, knowing that your stressed and its the final months till your wedding. try not to let it get to you, altho it would sure get to me, just call her a momzilla whenever she calls you a brideszilla, try to make a joke of it so it wont get under your skin so much, im sure thats all shes trying to do anyways. im sorry about that its super lame. but good luck with it all

My mom is doing the same exact thing too. My Pastor was recognizing my parents in church and he said that they came to make sure our own Bridezilla gets married and my mom gives the Pastor a thumbs up on the Bridezilla. WOW!!! I love watching Bridezilla but I am NOTHING like them. They are mean women who don't care about others feelings. I'm actually very calm except when somebody says something that ticks me off. My mom is more of a Momzilla because she always has something to say about something dealing with the wedding. I will be glad when next Saturday rolls around and I won't have to deal with this anymore.

This pet name is the worst!

The word bridezilla is giving godzilla a bad wrap!

Nicknames like that are annoying, because there are a thousand and one worst names your could call your panicky mother.

I do think that she's saying it because she knows it bothers you, and she wants to get HER way.

Try this next time she says it: "Mom, why would you say that to me? It hurts my feelings." Then just stare at her and wait for an answer (as long as it takes). It will probably make her feel bad, and she'll realize she's upsetting you. It's my favorite strategy when people are pissing me off!

I HATE this... I think this term is used nowadays by family and friends who can use it has a dig on you to obviously make you feel bad so that they can get their way with whatever it is THEY want... I think its ridiculous!!! I have been called a bridezilla a couple of times and I have planned less than my mother for my own wedding!!!

I absolutely HATE this term especially with girls who really do not act like brats, include way too many other people's opinions and are open to different suggestions... it IRKS my nerves!!!!

I don’t think that you are being overly sensitive at all!!! I as well hate when people say this. I think that ever since the show "Bridezilla" started people have put a label on all brides.

Just because you have your own vision of what your day should be and disagree with what other people want you to do...You’re a "Bridezilla"!!!This annoys me so much. I have not been called a "Bridezilla" but I still hate the word.

I think people really just use that term when a bride sticks to her guns! Heaven fobid that I want chair covers and I'm trying to find some cheap ones!! Does that really make me a bridezilla?? Wanting a nice chair instead of ugly blue grey ones??

I read something in the Washington Post about being a bridezilla. They wrote that brides can not win, no matter what. If you leave people off your invite list you hurt feelings. If you invite everyone you know, your fishing for presents. This has helped me a lot. That no matter what you do when it comes to your wedding someone isn't going to be happy. Just keep that in mind! Use momzilla it works!!

I hear what your saying! dont you worry though you definitely arent a bridezilla. i have been called it a few times and of course when you try to defend your self you ceome a B and a bridezilla...how nice. its a matter of vision an dyou knowing what you wanr. good for you for sticking to your guns!!

I also hate that "nickname"! I like the Momzilla idea I have decided that anyone who calls me that will get their own name with "-zilla" attached to it. It just sucks because I am not even close to being one, but because I am doing it all myself (2 bms live far away, 1 in town can't get out of her own world to help), people think I am being a control freak. when in reality it is just that I am a good planner and won't really need a lot of help until a couple weeks before the wedding. My fiance and I have been doing little things every night or so and it has helped with the pressure. But it never fails...if you are a bride, no matter what kind, you will be called this terrible name...it should come in the handbooks that you also need to plan your defense when called this

Your mom is just trying to help out. (This is all based on assumptions of course.) And she probably feels like you aren't listening to any of her suggestions... which, though it is your day and you should be making the decisions, is probably a little hurtful to your mother. So she retaliates by calling you bridezilla. This is, in turn, hurtful to you. The best thing I can suggest is don't perpetuate those hurtful feelings! Try telling her how you feel and that it hurts when she says that. And ask her about what she's feeling too (not "why would you call me that?" but really ask about her feelings and listen to her). Both of you simply want to feel valued and respected. If that doesn't work, and she continues to call you names, try not to let it get to you so much... grin, take it in stride, be the bigger person (yada yada yada), and don't take it personally.

Many of my brides mothers want to have input into their daughters day but the moms I find that need to have it their way and tend to call the daughters names (and that's what calling you a Bridzilla is)never had a wedding of their own and are trying to live through their daughter . IMO as a vendor , not a bride , is if your mom wants something that is really not that big of a deal to you do it but if it is something like changing the color or theme and you have a big problem with it don't budge THIS IS YOUR WEDDING DAY NOT YOUR MOM'S.

I'm having the same issues with my mom, but she hasn't reverted to calling me names. She's driving me nuts! Everything from, "well why don't we have it at the hall we used for your 16th birthday or a place like that?" to "do your really want to spend that much on photography?" She doesn't seem to understand that it's our wedding and we're planning it! Momzilla is right -- down to every last detail!

I like the comment from lauren10 "Mom, why would you say that to me? It hurts my feelings." I also have to keep thinking that I am my mom's only daughter and the youngest. I don't know if you have a similar situation being the first daughter to marry or something like that... Our moms have been dreaming of this moment since we were born!

I've also read a couple things about "assigning tasks" to overbearing moms to keep them preoccupied. Now, figuring out what she can work on is the question!