Planning.

I have to take a break from planning and do the things I enjoy outside of planning my wedding. Wedding planning can burn you out quick.

Agree with Blair. My biggest advice is to take things in bite sized chunks - we made a list that is currently on our wall, then we marked off about 2 a week until we had everything worked out. I'm also not stressing too much about the details until we're closer. Also make sure you take time to savor being engaged. It's only a small part of your life.

View Quoted Comment Oh I love that!!! You're right. It's a lot easier to do it in doses.

Justin said on tbe day of the wedding if things don't turn out like plan. Let's just get everyone drunk and they won't know the difference. 😂😂

I agree about taking a break. It's overwhelming easily so remember to enjoy life

Breathing helps ! Lol
I bought a planner from Michaels that helps a ton with just keeping track of everything !!

Eloping 😅🤷🏻‍♀️


I didn’t want to deal with worrying about other people’s expectations for our day, so we’re doing an adventure elopement and getting married across the country in the middle of the forest

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Dont over plan but dont push it off until later either. Get on and get 1-2 tasks done a week! It will put you ahead without over stressing yourself. This caught me up from 4 months of slack!

WeddingWire and The Knot (I preferred The Knot) both have free wedding planning checklists. My husband and I just tackled one thing at a time, starting with big vendors (venue, DJ, and photographer). As we completed one task, we checked it off and moved onto the next. We had about a 16 month engagement and since I'm in grad school, I would pause wedding planning during the semester.

Timelines: what you want to accomplish each month. It’s fun crossing things off that list and it helps you make sure you’re not forgetting anything. I also keep track of expenses by having my guestimate||| actual price|||| remainder so i see where I’m saving and where I have wiggle room

We took full advantage of all the excitement early on! Booked the big vendors within the 1st month so now it just the little details and we work on 2-3 tasks a week. Its honestly been best for us because all the big things are out of the way and now we work on things like centerpieces, cards, mens outfits, couples party, etc..

Not every detail will get you equally excited. You don’t have to sweat the things that don’t matter to the two of you. When we started the planning process wasn’t fun - we were stressing each other out when the first couple venues we called were almost completely booked out for next year, and it made us panic and feel obligated to rush. Then we took a step back and said no one is requiring us to do this but us, so why are we stressing ourselves out? After that it’s been much more fun. I discovered I’m super excited to do my own flowers and comparing prices and varietals and putting together design recipes and scouring Pinterest is my happy place. Do I care what color the linens are? Default white it is, and it doesn’t cost extra. Do I $2k want a 3 minute video of the day, and how many times will I watch it? Skip. Also echoing to break it up (preferably by timeline urgency) so you only need to focus on a couple things every 2-3 weeks. Your dress might need 6 months to arrive and two months for alterations? Try looking on stillwhite or preownedweddingdress to get it at a steep discount without the long wait time, or consider pushing out the date. Delegate to your fiancé when you get overwhelmed. Take a break from venue hunting every weekend and spend some normal time doing non wedding related things.

It helps a lot with wedding planning.

View Quoted Comment Oh your respond has been perfect thank you so much. Yes it's hard to get wrapped up in everything else. Or see other people's wedding and think i have to have everything they are having. My two big things are the food and entertainment. so that's where I'm really going to focus on. You're right I could careless about the video. They are so expensive and just not worth it to me. Pictures are enough.

I take breaks so that I don’t get stressed out and I do things a little at a time. I try not to stress myself out bc I would get overwhelmed. I am learn to relax also and I realize things will fall into place

This might sound weird, but I make lists lol. Lists have always helped me feel together so it is a big way to de-stress. I have a running list in my phone of ideas that randomly pop into my head, which has been helpful whenever I’m sitting there like “ugh what should I do for this aspect”. I usually have the idea in my list. I also do what everyone else said and take one thing at a time. We did the most stressful stuff early on, so now I just put planning out of my mind until I’m in a relaxed environment. This is usually with my mom and FH and wine. I also avoid even talking about the wedding around my dad because he just makes me panic (not his fault lol).

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YES! This helps a lot....

LISTS LISTS LISTS oh, and maybe a list or two!

I made a very detailed checklist and put it on the fridge. I think it really helped us see what still needed to be done. All the small stuff, things that could be done in advance, picked up or ordered while running errands etc we did and stored them away in bins. I labeled each bin with a number then started a list of what was in each bin so that I wouldn't have to dig to look for anything or to double check that I had it if I forgot to mark it off the main fridge list. All DIY stuff was started early and finished over time. We honestly felt zero stress through the whole planning process (other than tracking down people that didn't RSVP by deadline). If someone offers help, take it. Remember to take breaks from wedding. Plan the wedding you want, not what you think other people will want you to have. There are so many unnecessary things that most bride and grooms could careless about but others may see as a must have. It is a lot but you have way more time than most to plan so you should be good.

I just take break after 2-3 hours (of planning/research) and either revisit again for like 20-30 mins and then stop. Lol I’ve been in this habit for a couple of weeks, especially since i have time now before I start working again. Like most people said , you have to remember to just relax and enjoy life . You can’t be all worked up 24/7 because you’ll get burned out.