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Liberty
Beginner May 2021

Planning too early?

Liberty, on January 27, 2020 at 6:21 PM

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Hi fellow brides and brides-to-be! Our wedding isn't until next May but so far I have booked our venue for the ceremony and reception, our caterer, and our photographer just to get an idea of how much money I have to spend. I'm getting a lot of snarky comments from people saying that I'm planning...
Hi fellow brides and brides-to-be! Our wedding isn't until next May but so far I have booked our venue for the ceremony and reception, our caterer, and our photographer just to get an idea of how much money I have to spend. I'm getting a lot of snarky comments from people saying that I'm planning too early. I'm not sure if it's because I'm overly sensitive or that they're right. I think I'm just anxious about the whole thing. I have a very strict budget and by planning this sixteen months early I feel like I have a better idea of how much I want to save every month. Any thoughts or comments?

507 Comments

  • Lisa
    Expert October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    I don’t think you are planning too early. We booked our ceremony/reception venue in March 2019 for out October 2020 wedding. Shortly after I put a deposit down on a hair & makeup company, florist and photographer. These things book quickly and you don’t want to miss out in the perfect vendor.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Kenia ·
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    I think it’s great you’re doing that. I’m getting married next April and we have the venue, caterer and the guest list. So you’re not on your own. At the end of the day, it’s YOUR wedding. People will always have something negative to say. So be happy and let them run their mouths. Enjoy the process.
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  • Jennifer
    Savvy October 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    GIIIIIRL. DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD FOR PLANNING EARLY. I started 15 months early because I work full time and live away from my fiancé during the week so I only have a couple days on the weekend and evenings to plan. I got snarky comments too but ya know what? If they think ur money isn’t good enough 16 months early they sure as heck don’t deserve ur money 6 months early. The right people will understand or at the very least keep their comments to themselves. And don’t be afraid to tell them it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want 💕
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  • Jasmine
    Just Said Yes December 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    I decided to do the same thing! And I’m enjoying not being so stressed about anything! Congratulations and enjoy!
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  • Teri
    Beginner August 2020
    Teri ·
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    I got engaged August of 2018, and toured venues in December of that year, and my wedding is June of this year. Its not too early.
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  • P
    Dedicated September 2021
    Patrice ·
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    I totally agree with others who are pretty much saying "girl, plan on!" LOL I'm also getting married in May next year (5/22/21) and we just put our deposit down for our venue. My FH and I have been dating for nearly 7 years and have discussed getting married on numerous occasions. We both knew we wanted to marry on the beach because we love the ocean and we vacation each year along the Gulf Coast so as soon as he put it a ring on it, within a week I was like "sooo, ummm, Bae, the beach right?" LOL Inspiration comes and ignites a fire and I'm really big on taking those opportunities to just go for it.. it's not even a month of being engaged and I already have my gown, reception dress, my bridal party, their dresses, my mother and her dress, the venue...and people have made their snarky comments too, but who cares? IT'S YOUR WEDDING!! I love the idea of getting the bigger things done and out the way now and enjoying the smaller, more fun things leading up to the big day such as the bachelorette party, bridal shower, etc. So, screw the opinions of snarky haters and enjoy planning in advance so you and your future husband aren't stressed out as your big day gets closer. Wonderful on meeting a new May 2021 bride!

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  • LaQuita
    Savvy November 2020
    LaQuita ·
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    Hi! There's no such thing as too early!!! Do whatever is going to make you happy and less stressed! Plus planning early let's you ENJOY being engaged!
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  • Samantha
    Just Said Yes February 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I got engaged on Dec. 6, 2019 and our wedding will be Feb. 20, 2021. I'm literally done with all of the big things and have booked EVERY vendor we will need. I also just ordered my dress last weekend and even have my centerpieces. IMO it is ALWAYS better to be prepared/ahead of the game rather than scrambling with the little details last minute. Things come up, life gets busy. Do whatever you can ASAP so you can avoid stress later. You are doing it exactly right. Everyone will always have their opinion. Take it with a grain of salt. It's YOUR day, so do it YOUR way!

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  • Caitlin
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Caitlin ·
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    I am in the same boat as you!! My fiance has gotten frustrated with me and has been telling me I am booking too early, but good vendors book out years in advance! It is hard for people to understand that when they haven't planned a wedding or got married a while ago. Things have definitely changed in the wedding planning business! I plan to continue planning regardless of what others say!

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  • Allison
    Dedicated September 2020
    Allison ·
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    You're not planning to early. You're just over a year out. I think it's great that you have your venue. Now that you have a venue (theme) and date picked out you can take your time and explore photographers, DJ services. Start picking out dress styles you like and look into bridesmaid dresses. Just really enjoy the process. We had/have an 8 months engagement are are getting married May THIS year and although I had plenty of time I wish I had just a bit longer to really explore vendors and price compare. Enjoy this time in your life and don't let others take that away from you, you will learn very quickly that everyone has something to say.

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  • Eyonna
    Devoted May 2021
    Eyonna ·
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    Agreed with the majority...keep planning! I got engaged in May of last year and am getting married 5/21/2021. We put a deposit on our venue in August of last year. I've booked my photographer and engagement shoot and am moving on to my florist and hotel bookings for out of town guests. Each month I am taking on a different task. Once next year comes I don't want the stress of trying to get everything done. Have fun and happy planning to you and everyone else!!!

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  • Eyonna
    Devoted May 2021
    Eyonna ·
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    Hi! Date twins Smiley smile

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  • K
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kate ·
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    I started planning our wedding at the end of last October right after our engagement and we are getting married 10/10/2020! I have had people say the same thing but you do what feels right for you and your groom. You do you and don’t care what people say. This is your time to enjoy being a bride!!
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  • S
    August 2021
    Stephane ·
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    I got engaged on Christmas 2019, and I started planning right away. Vendors book up so early now days because a lot of people do long engagements now. I already have in mind what I want, I'm just waiting for my Fiancee to "OK" my choices. I also am loving that I can better plan for how much I'll be spending each month so I will be financially prepared since we're paying for most of it ourselves, and neither of us really have anything saved now! You do YOU!

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  • Janae
    Beginner July 2021
    Janae ·
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    Hello!!!! Yay, May is a very popular month! Happy planning!
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  • Leonides
    Savvy February 2021
    Leonides ·
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    You plan at your own pace. Personally I think planning early is smart. You get to spend comfortably with a tight budget. Disinvite anyone with a snarky remark.
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  • Briana
    Savvy October 2021
    Briana ·
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    I've gotten tons of comments as well! We got engaged 11/12/19 and booked our venue 2 weeks later for 10/31/21.. so far we have our venue, videographer, photographer, officiant, hair stylist, florist, and we are looking to book our DJ. Now I have a better idea of how much everything is, where we can cut costs, and have enough time to save!

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  • Destiny
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Destiny ·
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    Girl my wedding isn't until 11/20/2021. I booked my venue last Saturday and they ADVISED me to get a start on catering and photography. YOU GOT THIS.

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  • Kristen
    Savvy June 2021
    Kristen ·
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    You are definitely doing things the smart way. I too have already booked my venue, photographer, caterer, etc... and my wedding is set for June 5, 2021. I've even booked my honeymoon. Certain venues will allow you to book up to two years in advance, so why wait and risk someone else securing your date? That was my thought process. Also it has allowed me to spread out payment for these services to where I won't be overwhelmed and won't interfere with everyday life expenses and emergencies should they occur. So pay no mind to those that don't agree with you... after all it is your special day, not theirs

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  • Alexis
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Alexis ·
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    Mine is in NOVEMBER and I’ve dealt with so much crap I bought my dress early (it was 200$ and who can pass that up?) and my venue catering and photographer. I don’t want to spend the entire year stressed out so I don’t think you’re too early! I think planning early is good
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