Hi fellow brides and brides-to-be! Our wedding isn't until next May but so far I have booked our venue for the ceremony and reception, our caterer, and our photographer just to get an idea of how much money I have to spend. I'm getting a lot of snarky comments from people saying that I'm planning...
Hi fellow brides and brides-to-be! Our wedding isn't until next May but so far I have booked our venue for the ceremony and reception, our caterer, and our photographer just to get an idea of how much money I have to spend. I'm getting a lot of snarky comments from people saying that I'm planning too early. I'm not sure if it's because I'm overly sensitive or that they're right. I think I'm just anxious about the whole thing. I have a very strict budget and by planning this sixteen months early I feel like I have a better idea of how much I want to save every month. Any thoughts or comments?
I think you're doing awesome! We are doing the same thing. We got engaged January of 2019 then we were going to get married March of 2020 but realized we wanted a bigger wedding so we stopped and reinvented our day to be the best for us. So we pushed it back to March of 2021. We're now in the process of getting a bigger venue, so i feel the earlier you start honestly the better in my opinion sometimes you get good deals for booking earlier, and it takes less stress off you. We just needed more time to budget and make sure we're not straining ourselves financially. I think you're going at a great pace!
Hey! There’s no problem with that. My fiancé and I got engaged last Valentine’s Day and are getting married this May. We booked pretty much all of our major stuff within the first few months and we even researched vendors before getting engaged. Planning early has given us the ability to relax and stretch out our payments instead of cramming it in last minute and not being able to do anything because every cent has to go towards our wedding. Don’t let people make you feel bad, you’re actually doing the smart thing :-)
I think you are so wise in planning as early as possible. Less to worry about, and you may even find better pricing by booking early. You'll definitely have more options and not make a rushed (and often more expensive) decision. I wonder if the snarky comments are a reflection of the person judging their own planning style and wishing that they were as organized as you are!
Most definitely not! I got engaged 12/15/18 and by February we had already booked the church and the venue with our date for 4/17/20. By late February we already had our photographer and by June our DJ and had gone for our cake tasting during the summer. You will be happy you booked when you did as it'll go by quickly and you likely won't feel as stressed. At least I haven't felt very stressed.
I think the earlier you start planning, the more likely you are to enjoy the process versus being stressed over meeting deadlines and booking before your top choices fill up. We are also getting married May 2021 and we have our photographer and venue which includes catering.
I ignore comments about how we're "starting so early." I have other things to do besides plan this wedding so I'm fitting planning into my schedule instead of fitting my schedule into planning. I also agree that a lot of people don't realize how far out wedding things book up.
Oh I definitely get those comments too! I've been trying to get as much done as early as possible too. Just try to shrug it off, you're doing nothing wrong. Things book up fast in the wedding industry so it's better to get it over sooner rather than later. Plus the more you get done early, the less you'll (hopefully) be stressing out closer to the wedding day.
We started planning early too. Got engaged in Feb 2019 (getting married this July 2020) and had the venue, day of coordinator & photographer hired by July 2019. I added a DJ in Dec. Got my dress Aug 2019. Have the majority of my decorations & all planned now. I prefer getting started early because you can spread out the cost a bit. Plus a lot of venues and services book out hella early. The venue we wanted was booked out for all but one of their event spaces when called to see what they had all the way back in March 2019! Thankfully the space they had left was exactly the size we needed.
All that to say, anyone throwing shade for getting the planning/hiring/paying done early is an idiot.
It's never too early to plan! I've gotten a lot of snarky comments from people too about other posts I have made. Some people are just RUDE! I started planning my wedding last may and we are getting married in August 2020.
My wedding is January 1st 2022, and I am wedding planning to the point that I have booked my venue. There is nothing wrong with wedding planning right now, because the earlier the better, as it helps with finances and helps you gradually pay off the venue and the vendors (because weddings do tend to get expensive). Also, if you book in advance and pay the down deposit, that far in advance, sometimes they cut you a good deal. Also, planning and booking in advance, you can select from vendors. Having started the wedding planning process earlier, is hopefully going to make the months leading up to the wedding, less stressful. Also, I have gotten to work my wedding photographer ahead of time, for an engagement photoshoot, and feel more at ease now, having met her and worked with her It is never too early! You got this!
My wedding isn’t until next july so don’t feel bad at all. I haven’t booked anything yet but i have started planning. Better to start early so that you can have everything you want . I’m totally on your side .
I don’t think you’re planning too early. We looked over a year out in Chicago and a lot the venues already had all of the Saturday’s completely booked from May - October (seriously. We were flexible with date and nothing).
I also tried booking our photographer about 9 months out, and 70% of them were booked. So I’d say If you can afford the deposits now, book it. Also, you might benefit from booking super early and get the current rate versus what they’ll raise it to in a year (and trust me, they will raise it)
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Hey, us too! 😁 How often do you keep in touch with the vendors you have booked? I keep trying to remind myself that we have over a year to iron out all the little details but I ask them lots of questions!
I think you’re doing the right thing. By booking things early you don’t have to worry about finding stuff last minute or that the vendors you want will be booked. Ignore anyone who says you’re planning too early.
There is no such thing as planning to early; especially if there is a particular date you want. Planning early will help you figure out how much you need to save. We booked early and I am so happy we did.
There's no such thing as too early. I got engaged Dec 2018 and we set our date the next month for this June 2020. Even had our venue and a lot of our vendors booked within the 1st 3 months of our engagement. My brother ended up being killed Mar 2019 and it was hard to even think about planning a wedding knowing he wouldn't be there so I took some months off to grieve and I was honestly very gracious that I had booked everything in advance because otherwise we'd be so far behind. We're still a little behind now but a lot further than we'd be if we didn't start early. Point of my story, get as much as you can done as soon as you can because you never know what can happen to make you fall behind.
I feel like if you want to plan why not. What harm is that doing. Surely it’s making you feel at ease and accomplished and less things you would have to do last minute. I feel like everyone has a opinion and they can say what they would like. Ultimately it’s your wedding and whatever you feel is right is the only right way. Xoxo