Planning before engaged ?

If you're planning a wedding together, you're engaged. Congrats!

What MNA said...if he's on board, you're good! Remind him you still want a proposal...if you do!

Congrats!

If he has no clue, then you're cray cray!

IMO- if youre planning a wedding, then youre engaged

Second what others have said. If it's a "we" are planning a wedding...congrats on the engagement! (if it's just you and he has no idea you're doing this, step down a few notches until he actually proposes lol)

We started planning before he actually got down on one knee with a ring. We didn't put deposits on anything, but we talked about budget, guest list, venues we both like etc.

It's more common than you think!

We had our venue booked before I had a ring on my finger. But, we were engaged so it didn't really matter.

I got a ring almost a month after we started planning....and there wasn't even a proposal...we just decided to get married lol

We did that too. Nothing wrong with it! We started planning before the ring came

I want to add that we were engaged for almost 5 years before the whole ring proposal. We probably wouldn't have gotten married any sooner anyway, but he also knew I wanted a formal proposal at some point before we were married, even if it was the day before, lol.

I planned before too! When you know, you know!

There's no shame in that sweetie! My FH is in the Navy and we were talking about marriage and wedding colors long before we were engaged. It's different for military spouses. Don't fret, if you and your FH are happy and in love then nothing else matters!

We had a venue booked before I got a ring. The decision to get married ~3 months prior is our official engagement date. Not having a ring bothered others way more than us; that was their issue to deal with.

I still don't have a ring on my finger and we've been planing since May. It's okay. A ring doesn't mean everything.

My husband and I have the same exact story. He is active duty and we both knew what we wanted, and he also knew that I wanted a ring. He traditonally asked for my hand and proposed. The military doesn't do much for a "girlfriend", so your situation is much more common than you think. We went to the JOP in July and in March we'll have our dream ceremony. Congratulations to you! I'm so happy to be experiencing this wonderful deja vu! Lol

Yeah we are doing this too. We even have the ring, but my FH keeps waiting for the "right time" to officially propose. We already have our venues booked, dress purchased, and engagement photos done and we aren't officially "engaged" lol. I agree it feels weird. I even had to tell my photographer not to post any public photos of our engagement shoot because outside of my parents, nobody knows we are engaged.

I think it is more common to do this than to be surprised with a ring and become engaged--at least it should be, if I were proposing to someone I would want to already know we talked about it and wanted to marry each other.

FH and I had talked about it for a few months, then in August we were like ok so...when are we going to do this? We picked december and boom, engaged. We didn't announce our engagement publicy until about 6 weeks later when he did a proposal with rings, but our family and friends all knew before that since our timeline was short and we wanted to make sure they could be at the wedding.

If you both are planning a wedding, you are engaged.

Congrats!

We had been saving for almost two years before our engagement, we knew when we wanted to get married (sometime spring 2017), had a budget, guest list, venue in mind. We had the date set to visit the venue and he proposed (with the ring) the night before we did our venue visit.

It was sweet and still somewhat of a surprise.

We started planning our wedding in October, I actually bought some after Christmas sale decor I wanted at the end of December. He didn't propose until New Years. The main consensus here is if you're planning a wedding you're engaged. Although I did have a regular here call me a crazy bitch bride and mock me for not having a ring yet and already planning my wedding. Just ignore those people.

You're already engaged... SURPRISE AND CONGRATULATIONS!!! You must be waiting on the ring. If you're both planning a wedding, you're already engaged.