Planning before engaged ?

We have been planning our wedding since May... and are not traditionally engaged yet. We have our venue, photographer, caterer, dress, veil, decorations, etc. I guess you could say we are verbally engaged. Don't worry about if you're not engaged yet, if both decide you want to get married then everything will fall into place!

Thank you so much ladies !! I feel so muc better. The fact that I'm not alone in this makes it a lot easier to deal with. I don't feel SO crazy ?? He's definitely involved . A Groomzilla of sorts . Never likes anything I picked out except the venue. Tough times ahead !

We had no proposal, just decided to get married after a lot of discussion. So I guess that means I somehow got married before ever being engaged!

Sounds like your engaged... maybe he wanted to skip the whole proposal thing? Let him know you would want a ring if you do

We started planning before calling ourselves engaged, he wanted to wait for a formal proposal before saying we were engaged.

First thing... thank you for your service to our country! Second... I actually wish I would have started planning before I was engaged. I knew he was going to propose eventually and we had a date in mind, but I waited and waited and waited and it took 3 months longer than I thought it would and the hall was booked on the original day we wanted. So I say all the power to ya! Plan away!

Umm, I would wait. IMO you are just setting yourself up for trouble, Talking about a possible future wedding isn't the same as actually planning a wedding. Until you are his fiance (with or without a ring) you can dream and look, but don't plan!

No worries! My fiance and I talked about getting married before he proposed, and I secretly started doing some planning. There's nothing wrong with this situation at all. I think you're just fine, and it's wonderful that you're able to start planning together.

Planning our wedding before the ring too! It was a timing thing for us...wanted a certain date and it's only 5 months away now! (4/8/17) Ring is coming REALLY soon!! Can't wait for it all to happen and marry my best friend! Time is going to fly by after the holidays!

We are planning our wedding and he hasn't officially proposed yet. You aren't alone, so don't worry! We are just trying to get things started so we can start saving! He is paying off the ring so that he can properly propose, so it's coming soon. Congrats!

My husband and I started planning in the beginning of January.. He didn't propose until mid-March when we finished paying off the ring.. We were married in July. You're engaged! -)

We were planning a wedding a year before we actually got engaged. But, up until he actually asked me, nothing at all was certain. We couldn't actually make any decisions, because anything could easily change. Both of us could have backed out anytime, easier also because there was no ring. Until there was an official proposal and ring, there was no real commitment. Until you're officially engaged, you're only potentially getting married.

If you just need to be married ASAP for military purposes then just go to the court house and handle it then have a party later after a ring.

I know lots of people think this is tacky (me included) but I think it's the most reasonable for what you described. (I'm marrying a military man so I'm not bashing military wives for the hell of it and please no one FREAK out )

If you're planning because you're just so excited then just wait until you get a ring. Save all the info you have now and enjoy the free time