Planning a wedding when you have no friends

I feel you!
Being a teacher, a full time grad student, and an introvert that moved to THE MIDDLE OF NOWHERE... I made no friends except the guy I convinced to marry me and his friends 😆. I have one girl from high school I still kinda talk to (we're 6 years out of high school) but we click when we do talk and in a bridesmaid in hers this summer so she's in mine. But we live hours apart and dont talk very often so I actually stole my FH's and my mutual best friend, who is a guy, to be my "man of honor" because he's always been wonderful to me, knows us both well, and lives locally. My third (since my FH had 3 groomsmen right off the bat) is my FH's cousin. She's several years younger than us but we've taken family vacations together and she and I get along great (but also no local! 😣)

Why do you feel the need to create a certain size BP? To me BP is about having my absolutely closest friends/family who I can’t imagine not standing beside me & not about gathering a certain number of people I’m half-close with lol, especially not if you’re just doing it to match the number of groomsmen FH has.
I also believe in quality vs. quantity always, so just go with people you are really close with. If there are no people like that in your life now, just don’t have BP. Simple 🙂

I’m super introverted. I wanted to elope partiality because of that.

I am having the same problem. I came up with 3 friends and then my Fiancé already had six men picked out and I have no idea what to do about another 3. Everyone else is out of town family wise.

No, you're not alone. My MOH is my niece, and my bridesmaid if she finally agrees to it, is a woman i've known for 45 years. She has anxiety issues and she is trying to psych herself up for it. I have no one else to ask.

I had a similar experience - I've recently made so many friends online by being a Beachbody coach and reaching out to the MilSO community but we are all so spread out all over the country lol. If many of these friends lived close I would have had a huge bridal party and would probably invite 250+ to the wedding lol. I have a hard time connecting with people I've met at college because we have different goals and mindsets but seeking out "my people" has made me realize I'm not an introvert, I just am selective with friends! I'm so outgoing with people I connect with haha.

I use to have the same issue. Like zero girl friends.. now I'm good.. lol. If l had to ask these girls to stand up in my wedding l would be so petrified at their willingness and commitment. Thanks be to God l have 2 sisters.. my daughter and my niece. Bada bing. They will be there. I would have like one person if it wasn't for them.

I love when someone told me "your bridal party is a snapshot of your life in that moment." That took a lot of pressure off of finding a ton of people or long term friends. I also opted to have 2 guy friends stand up with me. They are my friends so they should be there with me. And a few girls as well. Girls I work with... work out with... and a girl that's a mutual friend of me and my fiance. I guess for me... I just wanted to have people stand up with us that would always encourage us to be our best and see the best in each other. (Only good vibes). Good luck, follow your heart... who cares if you have girls and guys... or an un even amount.... or new friends.... this is just a snapshot of your life right now.

Yes I'm in the same boat not really close to many people in my family either I'm really not sure if I want to have a wedding that is already planned I have not ask my so called best friend yet since my first wedding we have grown apart and I really don't feel the same. I just want to elope at this point.

Same boat! I'll only have my best friend as my maid of honor and my sister as my officiant (Im still counting her as a bridesmaid for festivities though).

I totally get this! I do not have very many close friends, if any at all. My FH is (in his own words) popular lol. He could easily have 6,7,8 groomsmen. I am planning on having my sister as my MOH and he'll have his childhood best friend as his best man. I think it will be perfect because it will be a great opportunity for my sister and I to share this moment in my life.

I have the same issue! I was even a little depressed about it. Plus, many of my friends are older adults, who don’t really want to party hard.

I can relate! I only have 3 bridesmaids. My maid of honor is my FH step sister, my cousin, and the only friend I have kept through middle school to adulthood!

Don't feel bad

I didn't finish, lol! Don't feel bad, I'm the exact same way! He was going to have a million groomsmen, while I only came up with a few girls, in the end we chose not to do a wedding party, not only for that reason, but it made things so much easier and simpler! I'm glad you have atleast one person that's helping you! My SIL's are helping me alot!

Yes! I'm new in town (just moved to Seattle) and left a few good friends back in Los Angeles. Only realizing now that I'm trying to choose my bridal party that I don't have any friends in town and not knowing if my out-of-town friends will be able to afford coming to Seattle. I'm an introvert too and I met all of my friends online first, but I haven't been able to do that here yet... Luckily my sister is in town and my FH's sister is in town, but they're all I have right now.

I can definitely relate, especially since I am not working right now and tend to be antisocial and poor at keeping in touch with people. FH knows all of the neighbors' names, where they work, and he'll just stop and chat with them, but I'm more the type to avoid eye contact and keep walking or maybe wave if I'm feeling particularly sociable. FH has a close group of 6 friends and if he decided he wanted them all in the wedding I don't know what I would have done. It worked out perfectly that he only wanted to ask two of his friends, so I have my best friend and my cousin who I grew up with and is helping me a ton with planning and DIY projects. We also talked about keeping the wedding party small to keep costs down, and since we are only inviting about 60 people to the wedding I think a smaller wedding party is more appropriate.

I noticed you're also planning for Sept 2020, we are looking at Sept 12, 2020! Happy planning!

I had the same problem. As I added more ladies to my side it felt like we were obligated to add their significant other as in the party which added more guys. We stopped adding and decided to just have our kids standing up with us. I will have my Dtr as MOH & my son as Bridesman, whereas he has to Groomsmen so the one was not more important than the other. We are happy with that and the kids are stoked!

Same girl I had to pick cousins lol

You dont have to have a wedding party, just some people 2 help bring ur day 2gether