Planning a wedding when you have no friends

We are not having a big wedding party for this reason! I have a lot of friends but not super close to anybody. I am having my fiancé’s sister as my Matron of Honor and my little cousin as a junior bridesmaid. My fiancé’s dad is his best man. And that’s all we’re having in the wedding! A lot of guests but the wedding party is very family oriented. That works best for us

Same, my two bridesmaids are my sister and my best friend who lives out of state. Groomsman are FHs 2 brothers.

It's hard being so introverted lol!

Same problem here. Total introvert and I’ve been moving around the country and world nonstop for the last 8 years so not much time in places. I also am an only child. I ended up picking two friends who I met as co workers and I’ve known for a few years. Fiancé has sisters but I’ve only met them once so I didn’t want to ask them. Fiancé also has only his best man. We’re planning everything - down to the co-ed bachelor/bachelorette.

A bridal party isn’t necessary. So, don’t feel forced to create one just because. I have a solid circle of a few good friends but we’re not having a bridal party. There’s really no need. Plus, I’m having a DW and I don’t want them to spend additional money or to throw me a shower or any if that. As part of the processional, I’m going to have them walk down the aisle, take a seat near the front and wear wrist corsages (to acknowledge them). But outside of that, I want my friends to come to the wedding as a guest and have a really great time!!

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I have no friends. Which is so weird because I was such a social butterfly all through school...but now with kids and all I do with them, I just don't see anyone but family. I do have a best friend that I've known for....12+years? She's my MOH and she's a freaking gem. Then I have two sisters that are bridesmaids. I invited 4 other "friends" to my wedding total. 3 of them are from college and we all live in very different places and only 1 is coming. The other I grew up with and we still live close but see each other....twice a year? Lol. I just stay busy with family and it's ok with me.

I felt that too. I think if I would have gotten married in my 20s when I was a lot more close with the girls I would have had a tougher time narrowing it down.

But, getting married at 34, you tend to just drift away from some people. I struggled to come up with more than 3, so just settled with 3. But I think that has helped make planning easier.

Yup, we opted to forgo the wedding party because of it. I have 1 female cousin, FH's sisters, and my brothers girlfriend whom I don't know super well. It didn't seem ideal so we skipped it all together.

I don't have any friends that live close to I'm opting for my 4 cousins and his niece. My oldest daughter will be a junior bridesmaid. The wedding is just family and his one friend, maybe, anyway so this works great for us.

I am in the same boat as you. There was only 2 people I could/wanted to ask to be in our wedding party.the first girl said yes right away to being a bridesmaid, the second girl, the one I consider my best friend told me she would have to consider if she could 100% commit to. So now I’m waiting to hear if I have a maid of honor or not.

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Yikes! I'm sorry that they didn't show any interest after a while! That is my one worry about my MOH since we work together. I just worry that I may annoy the crap out of her from now until then and she will be tired of my nonsense and back and forth-ness. So, I try not to over do it.

I got engaged in December of 2017 and I felt this way for the first year. I am still an introvert in a lot of ways but I have been fortunate enough to have become extremely close with 2 girls and my sister who I didn't get along with growing up and I have my own little group of girls I have become friends with at work. Everything has completely changed since I began planning and now I have so many people involved. It isn't what I thought I wanted but being asked about the wedding as often as I do now has made this so much fun! I even have a work table at the wedding lol. One thing I can say is that wedding wire helped me prior to any of that. Posting a simple "I just picked out___" "My _ came in" post results in several other brides hyping you up and it is AMAZING! No one is more excited for you / understands your own excitement more than another bride

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Yeah, the one bridesmaid that is a childhood friend of mine- we've actually grown apart ALOT over the years of highschool and college. I mainly asked her because we talked about being in each other's weddings when we were kids and she's also a lot of fun. I was more so choosing my bridal party with who I feel like would be the most fun & helpful and less of who actually knows me the best lol.

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Right! I love this website & the forums. I joined some engagement/wedding planning groups on facebook but I just don't seem to get as much interaction as I do on here. I feel comfortable talking to and asking questions to all of the amazing ladies on here! I also feel like there is little to no (and I could be wrong but just haven't run into any yet) drama on this forum site and I LOVE it.

View Quoted Comment Less is more, and it seems to be way better when you just stick with the people that you can trust and rely on!

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I'm in the same boat as you! I was sort of an introvert in highschool- like I didn't strive for popularity or anything- but I can honestly say that I had a solid group of friends that I could always count on. Problem is, I've grown away from all of my best friends and never just sought out another one. I kept to myself throughout college mainly because I worked, and didn't live on campus so I basically went to class and left. I've learned that so many girls are petty and don't like to see youhappy.

Haha, yeah this was rough for me too because initially my FH listed 8 guys he wanted as his groomsmen and I was like uhh... I have 2? lol. Theoretically we could’ve just kept it at 8 and 2 but then he realized he didn’t want to deal with 8 people and I really wanted more than 2. I really genuinely only have 2 very close friends (other than FH, and my family of course) that I talk to on a regular basis and confide in and consider my “best friends.” But then I realized I had some other girls who were really important parts of my lives too that I wasn’t close with in the same way... my best friend from childhood (we were literally inseparable ages 5-12 lol) and we catch up every once in a while, and she is still super important to me even though we don’t talk much anymore (she lives far away too so that’s a big part of the reason we don’t). Then another friend, my mom’s best friend’s daughter who I’ve known my entire life, who I’m not close with in a “hang out and talk all the time” way, but we basically grew up going on vacations together, celebrating some holidays together, etc and I feel like she may as well be a cousin. When I asked her to be a bridesmaid her reaction was "oh my god, I was SO not expecting this, but yes of course I'm honored and I can't wait and I love you!" Lol. Although I’m not close with these 2 in the same way as I am with the others, they’re still a really important part of my life and I’m close with them in a different way. I also feel like this has brought me even closer to them and it’s been a huge honor for them to realize how much I value them being in my life.

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I haven't seen any "drama" but a few rude comments but nothing that bothered me enough to say anything lol

Honestly we are not having a bridal party! I thought it would be nice to have it be just about the two of us, standing up there together without distractions. I can tell you that compared to my sisters wedding, I am way less stressed about who to pick, what they will wear, who can afford what dress, bouquets for everyone, hair and makeup, the list goes on and on. Instead, I’m still planning to get ready with my sisters and a few friends so we will have those pictures, and doing the classic bachelorette party, just not bothering with the procession line. So far I’m happy with my decision and still enjoying all the fun parts!

I can definitely relate as well, we’re very much introverts and love staying home. My FH’s friends are pretty my friends as well 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m still thinking on my bridal party, or if I’ll even have one. Right now I only have my best friend of 10+ years in my party. Idk if I want my current SIL in it..since I don’t speak to her much.

Same for me. My 2 sister's and one friend are bridesmaids. Like all my fiance's guests are lots of his friends and family, mine mainly just family! Either way I have a great support group and people I love ❤️. Not everyone's life has to look "cookie cutter"!