Planning a wedding when you have no friends

I noticed the same when it came time to pick my bridal party. I have to say. I ended up picked 6. Four felt like too little although those 4 were originally the ones I wanted. I added two more and it ended up being a terrible decision. They participated in nothing and although they showed excitement at first, they ended up backing out. I regretted worrying about numbers and not just sticking with my closest 4 friends.

I invited 2 friends to my wedding. My MOH who has been my friend since childhood and another friend I made about 5 years ago. That's it. I had planned to invite another couple as well but I stopped being friends with them because of their drama. Everyone is different. I like to keep to myself. I didn't have any sisters either. I haven't lived in my home area for about 10 years. I recently moved to my FHs town a little over 2 years ago. I have people I'm friendly with here from yoga and work but honestly, my guest list doesn't allow for acquaintances. I think that is for the best anyway. You'll have a great wedding whether you have a large group of friends or small!

I had the same problem. I struggled to pick more than 3 people (because for some reason I felt like my bridal party had to match the number of groomsmen my FH had), while my FH was struggling to narrow it down to 5. I actually realized that I was closer with his friends than my own lol.

I noticed it less with the bridal party then with the guest list. I have a good group of friends from college who were no brainers for the bridal party (although they all love a plane ride away), but with the guest list I realized mine side was 99.9% family and my FH was 50/50 friends and family.

I tried not to let it get in my head too much.

Girl, same! I have my cousin as my MOH and FH's sister as a bridesmaid. Less drama that way haha

Completely understand this! I have my best friend from college as my MOH and my cousin along with another friend from college standing up in my wedding. I have my work friends, but I don't feel close enough to them to ask them to be in my wedding party; they will be invited though. Most of my guest list is my family and people from work or people I use to work and I am still friends with. I moved to my town about 4 years ago, but basically work, go to gym and hang with FH. My FH is the same too, we have our close groups of friends but that's about it.

Having moved a crap ton as a kiddo, then once graduating moving across the country to a different state. Always extremely independent and hard working. Living at my job (which was a correctional transportation officer, hard to make friends in that sort of environment) and not knowing anyone in my area. I have a very hard time picking my bridal party. It sucks, I feel like a failure to be honest. But I know I'm not considering I had a successful career, bought, paid for and own my own home free and clear including two vehicles. But I'm definitely lacking in the friends department.
I've been considering asking my aunt and the only cousin close to my age. Both are out of state (across the country) so they won't be helping me plan anything. But it's hard for sure! My FH wanted 5 guys up there with him at first. That made me feel -way- too pressured. He agreed on two instead. I've also considered just asking my aunt and then having 3 of the older flower girls of our 5 flower girls stand up there with me to "even" things our more.
But I definitely feel you. This has been what's causing me my biggest anxiety and sadness in everything.

I have lots of "friends" but very few friends who I talk to or see regularly. I ended up with my sister, my best friend since I was born and a friend I went to college with. These are the two girls who have always made time for me through the years...plus my sister hah. As we age, we all grow up, have our own lives, move away, etc so friendships are hard to keep going. It's not as easy as "hey, when you're out of class/off work, let's go out".. nope, now it takes days and weeks to plan a get together.

I don't have a lot of friends either and am an introvert. I'm not close with any of my cousins anymore. I have a SIL and 3 stepsisters, but I'm not close enough to them to want them in my wedding party and thankful I've not been forced to put them in it. FH is an only child. It was difficult at first because at the time, I only really had two really close friends I talked to often (I had lost the friend that was supposed to be my MOH a couple months before because she basically ghosted me). There were a few other girls I saw and talked to every now and then. Somehow I ended up picking two other due to reconnecting and hoping we'll all stay pretty close even after the wedding. I based my MOH off who lived closer to me and I knew would help me out when needed, not based off who I knew longest.

So glad your MOH is helping out a lot! That's always a great sign!

I can relate!
My friend list consisted of 13 people and half of those were spouses/kids of friends.

I so understand I am the same way I work and come home me and my friends aren't super close since we left highschool and I haven't made close friends with anyone since (8years ago lol) so I've been struggling with finding people to stand by me while my FH has no problem finding the people he wants. I'm not a big people person so it's harder for me to make deep connections with people that I haven't known forever.

Same here, my party consists of my daughter and one of my sisters as my mohs my other sister, my niece my sons girlfriend and my fh brothers wife as bridesmaids. No friends but that’s ok it works for us.

My FH is in this boat I asked him who he wanted as groomsmen and he pick my brother (lol) and his childhood buddy who lives outta state. But honestly a tiny wedding party seems to me the way to go. Much less coordinating risks and as long as you get on well then all good right?!

I do not even have a bridal party. I am having my daughter as my maid of honor and that's it. The rest are guests. lol. But I am also having a super low key, 30 guest count wedding on the beach. But even if I wasn't, I literally don't know anyone besides some old high school friends 1000 miles away.

I was in the same boat! I asked my current SIL to be my MOH, thankfully she said yes! I really only see/talk to her on holidays and I have no female friends I’m close with or feel comfortable enough to ask. But everything works out!

I can totally relate. I see pictures of these girls who have like 8-10 bridesmaids and I literally don't understand how people have that many friends lol. My bridal party is my MOH who has been my best friend since middle school, another girl I've been really good friends with since middle school, my best friend from college, and FH's SIL who I am not even super close with. We get along but it was more of a principal type thing. FH also has like 10 friends invited to the wedding meanwhile I literally have none (besides my bridal party girls) lol. I keep to myself and am a super independent person. I commuted in college and never lived in a dorm so I think I missed out on a lot of typical friendships right there. I also work with all middle aged people so I'm not friends with literally anyone at work either.

Out of my 5 bridesmaids, 4 are family! And there is nothing wrong with that. I have one close friend and she is my maid of honor

I can relate to this struggle. I am not an introvert, and generally consider myself a people person. However, over the years, I've been burned by women I thought were "friends." That has caused me to not want to reach out and make any new friends. It takes a long time for me to trust anyone.

Luckily for me, the turns my life took made it so that I'm getting married for the first time at age 50+. So, I have a grown daughter (my Maid of Honor), and my sister (best girlfriend and Matron of Honor). Then I have a female cousin who I've always been close to, even though she's 15 years younger than me (bridesmaid). My beautiful granddaughter, who will be 3 by the time of the wedding, will be my flower girl.

I was a bit worried about assembling a bridal party with no friends. But I am lucky enough to have 3 lovely strong women in my life, who I can't imagine going through this without!!

I appreciate your broaching this topic. I've read so much on WW about BM drama and issues that I was actually contemplating on not have a bridal party at all. I've read posts where brides nitpick their bridesmaids or MOH's that don't do what they should or those who want to pick one sister as a BM but not even invite another sister to her wedding...... ugh! I am drama-free and wanted none of the above. I have a lot of friends and acquaintances and did not want hurt feelings. So I decided to keep it small and have my only sister as my MOH and my 12 year old (only child) as a BM. Just go with who and what you are comfortable with since you have an introverted personality.

I'm in the same boat. We are having a small ceremony so I was just fine with having a MOH (sister) and one bridesmaid (cousin). I did figure out that we both won't be inviting very many friends just because we aren't super close with a lot of people. I don't feel like I'm missing out though. I'd rather be surrounded by people I know care about me and arent just there for the free drinks!