Picky Guests

Does your caterer offer options for those with allergies? They should...i'd talk to them.

Allergies is one thing and should be accommodated. Picky stuff, I'd just ignore or at least just ask caterer.

I don't think those are unreasonable requests. Maybe the person who doesn't want the glaze has an allergy to honey? Your caterer should be able to accommodate any dietary restrictions as long as you give them proper notice.

Ask your caterer! It may not cost more per person. I was surprised that it didn't !

We do have some gluten free guests so we are doing

Gluten free cupcakes from an entirely gluten free bakery. I'm ordering 1 dozen.

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Offering a Gluten Free Vegan Stuffed Bell Pepper Entree

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A couple of the sides will be gluten free and labeled as such.

It's something nice to do for your guests to provide something they can enjoy!

If they are allergic then your caterer should be able to comply. We served goat cheese on our salad but had a few pregnant guests, they were able to accommodate for them and my gluten freeness.

Caterers will accommodate allergies, medical conditions, and vegetarians. Mine said that could be anywhere from eliminating or changing a sauce to serving a completely different dish that meets that guest's needs.

It's entirely possible those that are indicating they need a gluten free meal have a gluten allergy that you were unaware of.

I'd check with those who have requested no glaze on their salmon to find out why. They may be allergic to the glaze, in which case, your caterer should be understanding. If they say they're just picky, inform them that your caterer is not able to accommodate that and ask if they'd like to change their meal choice.

Make a list of the requests. When I catered weddings we would have weird requests but the chefs always did their best.

Thanks everyone! Yeah I do know some allergies. Some I feel are being picky. I'll definitely make a list and talk to my caterer!

Regardless, the servers will go to each table to confirm orders and modifications can be made then if applicable. Just inform the venue ahead of time if anything.

You'll be fine!!

Caterers are used to these requests so I'm sure they will be okay with it.

My friends sister got married and had someone cross out all the entree choices and write her own in bc she only ate pond fish and garden vegetables or something. You're getting a free meal ppl ( without allergies) just need to take what they're given

Never heard of this happening! It's good to learn about these things ahead of time.

I only had one that had actual allergies which my caterer specified before hand to make notes of. I didn't mind that. I did have one say they didn't want pecan crust on our pecan crusted salmon. I rolled my eyes, but I'll just let the caterer know.

Edit: posted this before I finished my coffee

Oh and I forgot to add in my original post my caterer did tell me they can do a gluten free dish or vegetarian. I've just never heard of someone needing both! Lol I'll be sure to make a list of the quirky folks and get it to them. One doesn't want glaze and someone else asked for it on the side lol. Like ERBride said, if it's free just eat it lol. (With the exception of allergies!)

The caterer isn't going to make 100 custom dishes, that's ridiculous. If someone is allergic to a specific ingredient in one dish they have two other options.

Eta: I have been to wedding were there was only one plated option and it was something I don't like. I never would have asked for something different.

The problem with specific requests is it gets hard for the caterer. If you have 10-15 unique requests that's 10-15 unique meals they need to make in addition to all the others plus figure out where these people are sitting. We had Parmesan chicken with green beans and mashed potatoes or offered a vegetarian/vegan entree. The mail meal was Buffett and vegetarian/vegan entree was delivered to their seats and the same entree for all. We did have one person with a gluten allergy but she stated she would eat before hand because she had some very specific requirements. Honestly if I had an allergy I wouldn't expect to have a specific meal because they're trying to cook for hundreds of guests.

Okay, UO coming right up.

I was a caterer for years. I told people right up front that we could not accommodate allergies or special requests beyond no sauce, no goat cheese, no rice.

This is why.

Your average caterer is making hundreds of meals for several parties. If you have a guest with a nut allergy or a gluten problem, all that needs to happen is one of the prep chefs finishes the peanut sauce and goes and makes the salad. Problem. While we all know to sanitize after handling raw chicken, we don't view bread as poison.

I think it's pretty cavalier to make requests on the RSVP. If you can't eat gluten, then don't eat the croutons. And if you do? It probably won't kill you. Maybe you'll fart, but it won't kill you.

Everyone is a special snowflake. And it gets a little over the top.

I agree with MNBride. There are two other options if the person doesn't want the honey glazed. If I had strict dietary restrictions I would eat before/after or pick a different dish. It's ridiculous to add something to the couples to do list.

For those that haven't sent out invitations, it was suggested to me to just have the name (fish, chicken, steak, veg) rather than describe what each dish is. I was also told to have a blank field for food allergies. So instead of the song field on this example, it would say "if you have special dietary requirements, please indicate". ETA: I am most likely not going to listen to the latter suggestion since people are bound to find something in one of the four options or the generous selection of apps/sides/salads. There's no need to make a caterers job harder for a handful of requests.

I'm serving my food buffet style for this reason. To many opinions about food they aren't paying for would give me a headache. I have for allergies myself. I'm allergic to citrus, and can't eat shellfish. I've been to weddings that have served lemonade and I drank water, as well been to weddings that have shrimp cocktails and I eat the sides.

I can't believe people are being so picky! I understand allergies, but to just say you don't want sauce or want a totally different option than what is being offered for no other reason than "you don't want it," then you're an ass. Sorry people are doing this to you! I would definitely double check to make sure these people are just being picky and not that they have allergies. If they are being picky, you can just choose a meal for them or inform them that your caterer cannot accommodate specific requests like that.