People inviting themselves to our events

I don't see anything wrong with posting about planning on facebook as long as you are OK with telling uninvited people who rudely ask, that they are NOT invited. Wedding planning has been really fun and a HUGE part of my life the last 6 months, so of course I want to share that.

**side note: i am not talking about posting photos of invites or anything with actual information. More just, I posted photos of the vases I painted and I have posted statuses with the tasks I completed that day, etc. I guess it just depends what you are comfortable with. I have no problem telling people they aren't invited. ha

I didn't read the other posts but if it's easier to post on social media because you both have large families, then make a private FB page and invite people.

^^^ What Maltese said. I wouldn't say something is for "close family and friends", that can be harsh. I just keep saying "oh, we're still working on the guest list, it'll be fairly small though" or something like that. (When in reality our guest list has been mostly set for months.)

IF you post on SM then you should really filter out who can and cannot see your post. I set up a security group on my FB and added only those who were invited to the wedding.

Besides, another reason you don't want to post about things is that you want your guests to be surprised and stimulated when they're at your wedding....if they know what things look like or that you're having a photobooth or a candy bar, then they lose out on that element of surprise since they already have a pretty good idea of your wedding in their heads. You want the day to be special, not only for you but for your guests.

@raelyn, you definitely understand where I'm coming from. There was no personal details or location Information or invitations posted. Something to the sound of' wedding planning in full effect, I appreciate everyone who's helping' I don't see anything wrong with that. I wouldn't invite ppl via SM anyway but I feel like I should be able to express my happiness without someone inviting themselves. Doing that is asking for an awkward moment or possible hurt feelings. And I wasn't rude I did tell them we have large families and are still finalizing the list plus both people were out of state. I reassured her that we would have a celebration for our Georgia friends since we are getting married in North Carolina where the majority of our family is. Thanks for the comments :-)

I'm so paranoid about my huge guest list growing out of control that I just never post anything on social media about the wedding or planning. It's hard, but I'm not taking any chances. We had our engagement party last Saturday, and I posted NOTHING about it on FB. The only thing I posted was to my late father's FB page a Happy Father's day and "You would've had fun last night!"

I'm a big proponent of posting NOTHING about a wedding on facebook or any other social media. In this day and age of having several hundred "friends" that can't/won'g be invited, it is a lot easier and, I feel, more polite, to mention nothing. It saves a lot of "sorry your arent' invited" calls and emails.