People inviting themselves to our events

You really just have to stick to your guns! We've been having the same issue! It sucks, but if you give in to one person, you have to give in to all of them.

One of the reasons I am putting very little about wedding planning on social media is because I don't want to have this situation. I already feel weird when coworkers ask to see things like my invites when I can't invite them.

Dont post on social media about your wedding events.

Social media isn't the best place to talk about your wedding planning. It's true that nobody should invite themselves to a private event, whether they are yout FB friend or not. However, they will. Message your guests privately about wedding details or accept the fact that you'll either have to answer the uninvited or ignore them. It's just the way it is now.

I agree, don't post about it on social media. You will get enough of people inviting themselves in person, you don't need it online too. I'm always annoyed when people learn I'm getting married and say, "I better get an invite!" I just say it's our closest friends and family (like what you said). If it bothers them, too bad. Like Crystal says, you have to stick to your guns!

Thanks good advice! And it's not posting private info more just like a thank you for helping. Like today I said wedding planning is in full effect and someone attempted to invite themselves. I ignored it and they removed their comment shortly after.

I hear you. My sister posted something about my wedding planning (I haven't posted anything at all) someone commented "Where's my invite? "LOL she said that's the first and last time she'd mention my wedding because of ppl like that.

I had a coworker ask, when is your wedding date again. I tell her, and she says, "Well that's three weddings I have to go to that fall..." Um, no bitch, you're not invited.

Keep wedding talk to a minimum on social media.

When I got engaged, I posted a picture of my ring on facebook. I had the normal congratulations from friends and family but one cousin pretty much invited herself to the wedding. I don't plan on inviting this cousin to the wedding. I've only met her once when I was a kid and I barely know her (only through facebook).

Avoid advertising your wedding on social media, or if you do send PM's to your invited guests regarding events.

People who invite themselves is so awkward.

Some of my FH's ex-coworkers who we were close to has just assumed they will be there - but we haven't really talked to them since he quit that job and we moved away. One of them even moved to the same city as us and we haven't seen him since!

I like posting some stuff on social media (i posted a group pic of the bridesmaids from the shower) and some funny stuff on my FH's wall (bacon themed wedding? yes please). but other than that, I don't post my stresses and excitement on there - I figure that's what I've got WW for

This is why I have kept all of our wedding plans off of social media. That and people are more excited to see the photos after.

Seriously, its not good to post things about the wedding on Social Media. The downfall of Facebook, Instagram and Twitter is that people you don't see often IRL see you often through their news feed making it seem as though they are really friends and know you (and vice versa) when in reality people haven't seen each other in 10 years and only know the name of your dog (which is something people close to you would know in the past) because the FB photos that you posted...don't mention a thing about the wedding.

After telling FB that we picked the date and I found the dress (May of 2014) I didn't say anything about the wedding until the next day when we thanked everyone again via a post. And those were the only things that were posted regarding the wedding. Keep things to yourself.

In a sense it's a tiny smidgen more understandable that people are under the impression people are invited if someone is constantly posting personal wedding details and people are reading them like they are a part of it.

Best advice is to stop posting such details and hopefully people will stop assuming they are invited.

When I announced I was engaged at work, one girl who I'm not even close with says to me "OMG I'm sooooo gonna be your MOH!!!!!" ....bitch please, you're not even invited.

@MJ Bride: wow that's pretty awkward. It's bad when people invite themselves to a wedding, but to brand themselves as your MOH (which is a pretty coveted position) is the worst!

It was really awkward, the only time we've hung out after work was for staff parties, where I was probably way too intoxicated and giving her my whole life story lol

Just don't mention anything on social media anymore. We haven't done anything other than change our relationship status, and even then some of the comments began. We somehow got like 300 likes on the post that said we were engaged, and someone who is definitely not invited said, "wow you're going to have to send a lot of invitations now!" Umm no. Lol. So you definitely want to nip that in the bud.

Side note, you probably also shouldn't have said anything about not being invited to a wedding thats 10 months away. Its one thing if invitations had been sent out and they were assuming this, but you have almost a year...it just seems kinda harsh and unnecessary to say to someone:

"So...I haven't sent out invitations yet, but I KNOW you are important enough to be invited to my wedding so I'm going to let you know this a year in advance"

Don't post about your wedding on social media! If you post pictures from your shower, for example, post them after the fact.