Savvy December 2021

Paying the church question

Jamie, on September 21, 2021 at 6:34 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 6
Hello! I am trying to get to the bottom of this and hoping you all can help. We are getting married in a church with a Pastor officiating. When I ask, people always tell me you just make a donation to the church, and around here $100-$150 is typical. Then suddenly I've been hearing that because the pastor doesn't get paid from your donation, you should ALSO, tip the Pastor $100. All of these are sources from outside the church. It's FH's childhood church, I've never even been there, and he hasn't since his youth so I don't really know anyone close by to ask. It's also a 40 minute drive so hopping over is kinda out. I don't want to ask the Pastor and she be to polite to be honest. So, what did you all do/plan to do?


Latest activity by Emilia, on September 26, 2021 at 9:29 AM
  • Lav
    Devoted October 2022
    Lav ·
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    I was going to be married at a church and would cost me roughly around $600 “contributions” because I was not a member. Yes, the pastor don’t get paid, I would recommend having an envelope with a “tip” that you feel that would be appropriate with your budget and ask your day of coordinator to handle the situation, if the pastor declines, it’s a win win or either way, would still be okay to at least offer.
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    Expert September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    If we decided to get married at the church I grew up at it would've been $200 for members and $600 for non-members plus a $75 office fee. So we would've paid the $275 and probably donated $100-200 to the officiant. We are not using the church and just the minister and she is providing her services for free so we will be tipping her probably about $200. I hope this helps!

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Hi Jamie! Are they charging you anything to get married at the church?

    Here's the guidance I follow: "If your officiant is affiliated with a house of worship, give an additional donation of $100 to $300 to his/her institution. For a civil officiant, you may tip $50 to $100."

    Exactly How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors: A Complete List

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  • J
    Savvy December 2021
    Jamie ·
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    The Pastor hasn't mentioned any fees or any prices yet, but we start our premarital counseling next Friday. So maybe she is waiting until then.
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  • Ciara
    Beginner December 2022
    Ciara ·
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    My fiancé and I are getting married at his church with both of our pastors officiating. A donation is all that is needed to have it in the church, which will probably be around $50-$100, as it is a small church in a small locality. We have also asked others who have been married at his church how much they paid the pastor, and most said around $50. So, we will be giving each pastor that amount along with the donation.
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  • Emilia
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    Emilia ·
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    Hi ! It was the same for us, we didn't talk money, then we started 5 months of premarital preparation with the pastor and till the last day he didn't mention money. Although, I'd heard that in some churches it was common to tell the couples that a donation is "required", around 150-300 euros (I'm in Europe). Because we were not asked for any money, we actually were even more motivated to give something. We gave our pastor a book and an envelope with 300 E.

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