Parents not attending your wedding?

Not attending because they are no longer alive? They can't make it? Or estranged from each other?

Fh's mom was not invited. She has made no attempt to connect with him since he was 17.

His father, aunt and uncle that have remained connected with him are invited and attending the wedding as well as a cousin.

Both of my parents, 2 of my 3 uncles and aunt s are coming and none of my mother's side. That is due to a combination of budget restrictions, on our budget and theirs (destination wedding)

My father has been estranged since I was very young. I have no plans on mentioning him at all.

My father was not invited. My mom is crazy and I'm hoping she won't come. We aren't saying a thing...if anyone asks, I'm going to tell them that of they showed up, we'd have to sell tickets to the show.

I am not sure I am letting my mother come, my FH's dad is not coming he has been in jail since he was 10. Then my dad passed away and I am trying to figure out how to incorporate him.

My parents are both alive but my dad has cancer and he take care of my godfather in his house and he's not able to do for himself so he's not able to leave him alone . As for my mom she never drove a day in her life don't have NCDL but my brother stays down their. But I'm not willing to give my brother money to transport here that's another story. Everyone has that family member that borrow so much money and never pay it back and still need to borrow more money.

Mine won't be attending due to work commitments. I can totally understand (it's not like we gave them much notice to work with), but I do have the occasional moment where it upsets me a bit.

Afaik, FILs decided they will come after all; they messaged FI and said remind them of the date and they will be there. They never followed up with us, though, so we're not 100% sure what they are doing. We'd love to have them- the only thing that might be hard is seeing them and then realizing my side of the family is noticeably absent. It's all good, though- FI is the only one who really matters

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My parents are both deceased and FH's biological mother is not invited. We have no plans to mention any of them. Our wedding day is meant to be a happy day, not a memorial service.

@Vee, my mother is that person who always borrows money and doesn't give it back. We are having a destination wedding, and before we were 100% on it, I asked my mom if she could afford to go. We had our travel agent send us some options, and we chose the cheapest one so my family who couldn't afford the 2200$+ were able to come. She has to save up 1700$ in 10 months. I even said that she could give it to me weekly, so that she doesn't have to come up with a lump sum, and I would keep it in a separate account for her. (FH and I even discussed that if she could only save up like 1300$ or something, that we would pay the difference. But she has to make an effort to saving up SOMETHING)

Last week, she asked to "borrow" 20$. ("but I'll pay you back on Friday, I swear..."), so I doubt my mother will be attending our wedding. And it was a hard thing to swallow...but it is what it is. If she wanted to come, she would find a way. If not, she will find an excuse.

FHs father passed away 11 years ago, as well. At FSILs wedding they had a donation bit on the side of the bar that said "instead of tips, please donate to the Heart and Stroke Foundation" or something (FHs dad died of a heart attack, and they had an open bar and tipped the bartender generously at the end).

I don't think we will do much for my mom. We might include her names in the programs, but other than that, I don't know.

My mom & dad will attend (hopefully my dad won't flake on me) my husband's parents are deceased, & so is his oldest sister. I think we will just do a candle for them.

I've attended my colleague's wedding, and I believe the groom's estranged from his parents. One of the guests who's a close relative mentioned and read a short, heartfelt message from the groom's dad. It was short, and the groom's reaction was very moving.

My dad isn't coming because he can't afford it.

Either don't mention parents in the program or skip programs all together. We didn't have programs. Nobody missed them or cared.

FH is adopted. His adoptive mother will be recognized. We are inviting his biological mother but we have no intention on recognizing her. FH and biological mother don't have a relationship. I seriously am not sure why we are even inviting her. But I am being supportive of his choice.

I say save money and skip programs but if you really want them, don't mention parents.

@danille I will refused to spend that much money she can have a copy of the video when you get back lol

Holly we are in the same boat I haven't invited anyone from my mom side because we are closer to my dad side and that's where we spent most of our childhood at.

Annie I'm make in them my self so it's not expensive, I bought the paper few hobby lobby cut it into the size I need and decorated it they are beautiful. I made my invitation also.

My parents are not coming. Not having a program either.