Parents names on the invitations

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I listed them below our names. My mom thought it was important that we were front and foremost since it is OUR wedding not theirs. I still wanted to include all of our parents' names regardless of who is paying because it is a celebration for the entire family and we are fortunate to both have families that are supportive of our relationship.

This is highly common! We will be putting my parents names on the invite as they are giving me away (my dad is walking me down the aisle) and also they are paying for the wedding. Etiquette wise it is the appropriate thing to do.

View Quoted Comment See, I see the point if they’re paying for the wedding. I don’t really see the point if the only thing that’s being contributed it my dad walking me down the aisle. My situation is a bit different in that my dad is walking me down the aisle and my mom is doing the wedding favors. Following my moms logic though my fiancé’s parents deserve a spot on the invite more because that are providing the venue. However, I think so I don’t exclude anyone I’m going to do “Together with their families” because both parents are contributing atleast a small amount to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I didn't realize until I started planning that invites don't go out until only about 1-2 months before the wedding. I was surprised to hear that because it's such short notice, but it's not since you're supposed to send save-the-dates 1 year before, so by October this year. Our date is in October 2020 too! If you're looking to keep costs low with invitations, Vistaprint.com has some nice designs (and samples) for save-the-dates and invitations and almost always had a coupon code available through Retailmenot.com. You can even order a sample kit and you'll get it in about a week. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment My fiancé and I aren’t doing Save The Dates, everyone’s known the date since we got engaged pretty much. My fiancé and I are getting married October 4, 2020, what about you? As for Vistaprint, my uncle works for them and we did consider going with them because we would get a huge family discount, but I decided against it because we found something we like better on Shutterfly. We got a free sample and everything within like a week and found the one we want to use.

With my personal experience, I'm getting married this October and have recently sent our invitations out and we did not put my parents name on our invites. My father is giving me away and my parents are involved in the wedding planning however my future husband and I are paying for 90% of our wedding. I always thought that the brides family pays for the wedding that's why they're names appear on the invites but in our case mine are not. Hope this helps 😊

Who is 'hosting 'the wedding? That says a lot about wording.

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You are correct

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Traditionally a brides parents hosted so they were doing the actual inviting. Things have changed . 'Together with their families' was often used to cover the amount of first, second, step parents etc

We paid for a large majority of our wedding so we just wrote “Together with their parents...”

Who is paying?

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My fiance and I are paying for the wedding. My mothers argument now is that she's doing favors.