My mom (a fun tee-totaller who has probably never said the word "sex" in her life) is invited to the bachelorette. I don't plan on doing anything I wouldn't do any other weekend night. I would just think about what sort of behavior you're planning and decide based on that.
My Mother and mother in law are going to mine because my mother is like my best friend and my mother in law and I are close too. And trust me my mother has saw me at my worse moments blacked out drunk and stuff so I am not worried about them being there
Obviously since I can't plan my own party, I don't even know if I'm having one. (I think I probably am. I can totally see my moh planning one.) if I do have one, I would absolutely want my mom and aunts there. My family is a freaking riot and we have so much fun together. I also don't imagine we'd be doing anything too risqué - lots of drinking, but probably not many penis straws. I'm close to mid 30s though, so I would personally love a party that's a little more mild. If you had asked me this 10 years ago I'd have said hell no mom, sorry!
My mom and FH's mom are invited but i know my mom will only be at the dinner before the "girls weekend" but my mom did attend all the shenanigans for my sisters party.....when we were in vegas 4.5 years ago! But our moms are always up for a good time so maybe it depends on the party situation and the moms personalities?
I'm with @SOS and a few other PP's on this one, we went to my cousins Bach several years ago and all the aunts and the brides mom were invited (my mother included) and we had a fucking blast. We went out to a drag burlesque show and went out clubbing, I probably have some of the best memories of my mom from that night and several of my aunts. Definitely a know your crowd thing because I know some people who would be mortified to have a night out with their mom on that level.
FH's mom and aunts all assume that they are invited. For one, I do NOT want a big party, I just want my BM's and a few close friends. They assume they're going because they were "babysitters" at FH's exSIL party. Not on my watch!
My mom came to mine, penis straws and all lol. I'm in my late 30s and have 2 kids so she's obviously not under any false impressions that I'm terribly innocent lol. We even played dirty pictionary!!! LOL this is all of us, my mom is at the far right...
I'm having a B weekend with my ladies; renting a cabin on the wine trail in southern IL. I'm probably lame but totes inviting my mom and she's bringing one of her sisters in case they don't want to hang all night with us.
I really hope that I get invited when my SD gets married. There better be shots and penis straws and dirty suggestive t-shirts and I would gladly drink everyone under the table. But I am only 37 and she's 21. So maybe that makes a difference?
If I would have had a bach party I would have never suggested inviting my mom nor would she want to be invited.
It's a know your crowd situation.
I really hope that I get invited when my SD gets married. There better be shots and penis straws and dirty suggestive t-shirts and I would gladly drink everyone under the table. '
I am having one in FL where I live now that FSIL is talking about planning and I'm sure that FMIL will be invited--FIL's like to drink and party, and I am not a big drinker/partier so they will likely be crazier than I am. Also have told them I don't want veil, tiara, penis stuff everywhere etc so we'll see how that turns out. While I am at home for a friend's wedding, FH will be with me and we are going out with some friends from home but that will be much more low key and my mom will be there for dinner.
I went to one this past weekend though and her mom was out with us and helped to plan some of it. Her mom was also at my 21st birthday and she is pretty close with her mom so it didn't seem weird.